Why is having sex early on in a relationship seen as a bad thing?

[Rawtid]

100% of guys that want to have sex with you will say what they think you want to hear. They will say the EXACT same thing you just said "the woman I loved the most had sex with me 3 minutes after I met her" lol

Guys are so confusing. Call you worthless for having sex, tell you to respect your body and that no man will take you seriously if you give it up quickly/easily then turn around say that you shouldn't make a man wait, he won't take you seriously and he'll seek sex elsewhere, you should have sex when he's ready to have sex. Then call you hoe.

All the while comparing you to cars and themselves to animals. Just have sex if that's what you want to do. Lie about the number of men you had sex with before them, never date men that live in the same area as another dude you dated and never tell them you're their first time for anything, even if it's true.

 

[Vice Queen]

LOL at making this shyt so complicated when it doesn't have to be.

 

[Mowgli]

Whose getting married? That's a prison.

You're immature and young.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

See for me friendship has to be established. A solid friendship as a foundation is necessary before we even get anywhere near sex.
I need to know if I can spend long amounts of time near u without being bored, irritated or just plain weirded out.

I can't even get wet without that connection so it would defeat the purpose of me fukking a dude before I knew him anyway. So I'm not making a dude wait because of some stupid rule. I literally NEED to know the real u or my p*ssy won't cooperate. She shrivels up at the mere mention of game or fakeness or finesse.

But people do things differently so I don't hoe/slut shame.

A hoe isn't a woman who enjoys sex with a reasonable amount of partners. A hoe is a woman/man who uses sex for other than what it's meant for (recreation and procreation) whether it's for money, power, self-esteem, attention...but that's just me.

 

[QueenSheba]

You still single?

Yes, sir.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I'm gonna ignore everything you just said because I don't define myself by what you say.

Lmao! I see what u did there boo!
Don't be mad at me. Change he to she in my last post and it's still 100% true. A lot of this ain't got nothing to do with gender but with common sense. Men and women are wonderfully different but we're far more alike than we think.

 

[Neuromancer]

Yes, sir.

Damn....what a shame.

 

[KodeBlue]

There's absolutely zero difference.

The way you see it is no different, but the reality is, is that it's different. You're perception vs reality.

 

[Neuromancer]

Lmao! I see what u did there boo!
Don't be mad at me. Change he to she in my last post and it's still 100% true. A lot of this ain't got nothing to do with gender but with common sense. Men and women are wonderfully different but we're far more alike than we think.

I'm just trolling.

 

[Neuromancer]

You're immature and young.

Yes i know. It's great to be young.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Last night I was talking to my friend and mentor about his weekend. Women always come up in our convo and he had two women he was talking to and tryna smash. One was his ex who would give it up to him easy and the other was a girl who seemed to be making him wait. He related to me that he had lost his desire for the latter cause shyt was taking to long (mind you he's not HOH, but not a simp either, he don't slut shame ect.) So it got me to thinking about my own relationship. If my girl didn't give it up when she did I would have probably bushed her (mainly cause I was on instabang mode then ) mind you I don't think of her as a hoe cause we were both straight about what we wanted. My question is why are we punishing women who have sex with you when they want to and rewarding those who believe in some stupid 90 day rule?

First off how old are you ?

 

[Neuromancer]

First off how old are you ?

30 next month.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Yeah because you could "make him happy" then he goes around calling you a hoe and then ruins your chance at getting with another dude because everyone thinks you're a hoe.

Men make shyt extremely hard. You guys want sex but belittle insult and shame womem for doing it then you tell us if we don't do it by a certain time no dude will take us seriously but if we do it too early they won't take us seriously. You guys give women impossible rules to follow. Then get mad when we don't follow them.

Naw just the men you may know. You haven't dated or dealt with even 1% of men so pump your brakes .

 

[SadimirPutin]

its seen as a bad thing when other people do it

because people are for the most part hypocrites

The real issue that is the elephant in the room is why supposed slut shaming by men is highlighted when women slut shame one another regularly

 

[jwonder]

Because these American made cac rules regarding relationship says so. This is why dating/marriage in America is so fukked up.