Why Is It So Easy For Women To Move On?

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You don't think the same thing applies to women?Some of us are conditioned to move on to the next guy to get over the current one. That's a "savage" move to me.
An that has always been my concern with women.
I truly believe we are shaped by our parents. Many of us never saw that two parent home ecosystem, so naturally we run from confrontation and seek shelter of the easiest route.
I know The Coli(and other male dominated forums are least likely not to admit it) but men(the non sociopathic ones) love women. So it's hard when we finally get with you and y'all start doing that passive aggressive, you should know what I'm thinking bullshyt. That's not how I operate and most men don't either.
This is where the dilemma comes because both genders are speaking to each other but not listening.
Most men are not out here to get women to pump and dump. Yeah this might sound simpish, even white knightey(I know that's not a word lol) but we generally love interaction with women, at least I do.
So now it's a game of who's out to get who. People become paranoid and cycles repeat of our past.
We have to start learning how to communicate and somehow get back to the middle. It's a war outside nobody is safe from and hiding behind assumptions is killing relationships. My girl and I live by just saying what we feel and let's deal with it.
Maybe my ideology is off but somehow we gotta start treating each other with respect during and after a relationship. Not saying you need to coddle a grown man if you are not feeling him anymore but think about the next woman who gets him. A lot of dudes deal with insecurities of not being good enough but here's a secret a woman can squash all of that if they just keep it 100.
Disclaimer: this also goes for men as well..
 

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I know, it's a shytty thing to do. I don't think people realize (or maybe they don't care) about how badly that can hurt a person. Not a lot of people know that doing something like that to someone that deeply cares about them is called emotional abuse.
Yup, experienced it all last year. Haven't been attached since. I'm not having an all out war like a lot of men seem to be going through but it has made me distant and cold towards some women. That emotional abuse is a real fukked up feeling and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I back off at the first sign of anything irregular now and my patience is zero :manny: one day I'll be a lil more open again hopefully but until then I'm just solo bolo.
 

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Yup, experienced it all last year. Haven't been attached since. I'm not having an all out war like a lot of men seem to be going through but it has made me distant and cold towards some women. That emotional abuse is a real fukked up feeling and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I back off at the first sign of anything irregular now and my patience is zero :manny: one day I'll be a lil more open again hopefully but until then I'm just solo bolo.

sorry that happened to you :mjcry:
 

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Women have dudes trying to fukk em damn near 24/7, even the mud ducks. Throw in social media and that "friend" that's always there to be a shoulder and that's that on that.

Check her phone bet random name in her call long that you never seen before that call at 10 pm.

This girls is cold blooded, that why being a dog is only to protect yourself
 
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Women will cry their eyes out over shyt but it only last so long, I think the issue is that women are attempting to move on WHILE they are still technically with you so by the time we say "shyt, lemme try to fix this right quick" they have already decided :pachaha:

Just know that if she's not acting like she once did there's serious issues to be addressed. I wish more women would be up front and just talk it through, my last girl tried to talk it through but I looked at it like our issues weren't a big deal but in her eyes they were.

Dating pretty much sucks tbh :pachaha: :manny:
 

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An that has always been my concern with women.
I truly believe we are shaped by our parents. Many of us never saw that two parent home ecosystem, so naturally we run from confrontation and seek shelter of the easiest route.
I know The Coli(and other male dominated forums are least likely not to admit it) but men(the non sociopathic ones) love women. So it's hard when we finally get with you and y'all start doing that passive aggressive, you should know what I'm thinking bullshyt. That's not how I operate and most men don't either.
This is where the dilemma comes because both genders are speaking to each other but not listening.
Most men are not out here to get women to pump and dump. Yeah this might sound simpish, even white knightey(I know that's not a word lol) but we generally love interaction with women, at least I do.
So now it's a game of who's out to get who. People become paranoid and cycles repeat of our past.
We have to start learning how to communicate and somehow get back to the middle. It's a war outside nobody is safe from and hiding behind assumptions is killing relationships. My girl and I live by just saying what we feel and let's deal with it.
Maybe my ideology is off but somehow we gotta start treating each other with respect during and after a relationship. Not saying you need to coddle a grown man if you are not feeling him anymore but think about the next woman who gets him. A lot of dudes deal with insecurities of not being good enough but here's a secret a woman can squash all of that if they just keep it 100.
Disclaimer: this also goes for men as well..
I think that's wise what you said about treating people right after relationships. I just wish there was a better way to find who is worth your time without having to waste it. And if you felt someone was intentionally not trying (not communicating well, not listening or whatever) why do you own them the obligation of fair treatment? It's like at some point you need to do what's best for you and maybe that's moving on without regards to that person and their feelings.
 

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...while my heart is still ripped in half :mjcry:

anyone else notice its usually much easier for women to move on from relationships and become serial daters?

these bytches are cold mang :dame:

they say they love you until the next swinging dikk comes along :sadbron:

You learned your lesson now stop putting p*ssy on a pedastal and being attached to thots like @thenigerian
 

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It depends on the man and the situation but the average man is likely to not have anywhere near the options to move on as easily as she can but that's just the average man.
I think this is bullshyt. Men have way more options especially because you guys don't have feelings. You can pretend to like a chick and fukk her and not feel anything.
 

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Touché...
I don't know maybe it's just my ideology or some of my fukked relationships that have brought me to this point but I really believe a lot of people are hurt and are truly replicating things they saw as a child and are learned behaviors from past hurts.
It's truly fukked up out here because people don't understand the effects a person can have on you when you truly love them/confide in them.
I agree you have to be selfish sometimes and look out for your star player but just how when a women is fed up there is a man that truly loves and appreciates you...
It's a paradox that truly perplexes us all.
 

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I think this is bullshyt. Men have way more options especially because you guys don't have feelings. You can pretend to like a chick and fukk her and not feel anything.


"But how you know which ones the one when anyone'll come with you?"

I think it goes both ways because no one wants to end up alone.
 
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