Why is it so hard for people to want other people to be happy?

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Its convenient that was said after all the others commented and we don't have the other cats side so therefore I'm going by what usually happens to get that result. You can agree/disagree but that's how I see it cause its rare very rare cats do tha when you've not shown a pattern of bullshyt before. Also like I said before why do you feel the need to do it this time if you never do it anyway? Looking for some pats on the back and they didn't give you what you wanted? Its a reason you did it.
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Well your opinion is duly noted. I told them because I wanted to hear what they thought about it.
 

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Well your opinion is duly noted. I told them because I wanted to hear what they thought about it.
No need for the smilies fam you ain't no high school chick. I don't care if you note it or not. Cats post shyt then get hype when you don't kiss their ass and wonder why I'd think most cats trying to get pats on the head when they out here yapping about plans. Why don't you talk to your boys instead of coming here for reassurance from most?
 

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Well your opinion is duly noted. I told them because I wanted to hear what they thought about it.

That's cool an all fam. Sometimes it doesn't have to be things u keep saying, just things you keep trying.

I remember having a relationship with this bad bad thang, and even tho I wasn't speaking on it. The one time I did speak on it, they pretty much shytted on the idea. I thought they were hating but truth be told I wasn't self aware. My homies knew I was better without her and she was a handful.

So maybe ur right and have haters, but be self aware and think on it before the word hater gets thrown. I don't like to see that word thrown around. Most haters I know are not direct. They'll praise you to ur face and when u leave laugh at you and throw shade.
 

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That's cool an all fam. Sometimes it doesn't have to be things u keep saying, just things you keep trying.

I remember having a relationship with this bad bad thang, and even tho I wasn't speaking on it. The one time I did speak on it, they pretty much shytted on the idea. I thought they were hating but truth be told I wasn't self aware. My homies knew I was better without her and she was a handful.

So maybe ur right and have haters, but be self aware and think on it before the word hater gets thrown. I don't like to see that word thrown around. Most haters I know are not direct. They'll praise you to ur face and when u leave laugh at you and throw shade.
Thanks man, and I feel you on being more self aware. I don't think they were particularly hating on me but more like they didn't have any faith in me and that's what hurt me the most.
 
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They probably see you as a reflection of themselves. If they can't see themselves doin' it, they can't see you doin' it.

Handle your business and be an inspiration. It works in reverse too.

Best answer in this thread. I got friends who inspired me to reach higher - also they might just be trying to give you a dose of reality rather than hating. If the criticism is not peppered with advice then it's all hate but if it is, it might just be tough love. I sometimes do that to my friends / family but I always wish my close friends success.

Being jealous of your "friends" and allowing that to compromise your friendship is wack. The world is already too hostile to be worrying about your homies and family members backstabbing your ass.
 
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Thanks man, and I feel you on being more self aware. I don't think they were particularly hating on me but more like they didn't have any faith in me and that's what hurt me the most.

yea it seems to me that you should get new friends. being surrounded by energy like that is damaging. my parents always lacked faith in me in certain areas of my life and it set me back years. surround yourself with people who have already reached those aspirations or have a more positive mindset.

good luck.
 

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I tried to tell some of my friends about all the plans I have for myself in the near future and the first thing they say is "I don't see you doing something like that", or "Maybe you should look into something else". Like why is it so hard for them to just say they want me to be happy instead of trying to police my aspirations?
Maybe your aspirations are moonshots and their trying to guide you into something more attainable.
 
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