Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[TallMan_J]

Man...this is straight facts. I’m a homebody, but I like to travel too. My wife tried that “You don’t ever want to do anything” shyt. She’s a housewife (a good one, too), so I kind of understood what she was saying being cooped up in the house all day everyday. She just be wanting to go on car rides, take the kids to a park or go to the Michoacana and shyt.
But I hit her with the

I had to explain to her that I’m not a damn machine. I’m away from the house most of the day, so when I’m home, I want to chill AT HOME. On my off days, I’m trying to kick it at the crib, not run the streets all day. Only time I’m leaving is if it’s to the gym or BJJ, and then I’m going right back home.

We travel at least 3-4 times a year. Road trips, fly out of the country, and that doesn’t even include little “weekend trips”. I had to remind her about those things. I don’t want to hear any of that “let’s go somewhere” mess all of the time.

She hasn’t mentioned it again. I stay at home, drink Hennessy, work in my garden, play video games, watch movies, spend time with the kids, and browse TheColi in peace.


I’ll go places and do shyt, but not all of the damn time.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

if they were spending their money they'd want to stay in

Damn. End thread right here.

 

[Ikwa]

Keep taking young females serious and letting them control you brehs

 

[ThrobbingHood]

If yall have personality and chemistry, staying at the crib feels like you’re at an amusement park

This is also very true. That’s why women want to be “entertained.”

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Luckily for me, I can switch between chilling at home and being adventurous. Things like hiking, moutain biking etc isn’t too expensive. You’ve got to switch it up sometimes. I couldn’t be with a lazy woman but I also couldn’t be with one who has ADD. You’ve got to have a balance.

 

[Bumblebreh]

Find yourself a pretty gamer chick. Stay home all day playing call of duty or some shyt.

Most guys I know of (18-25) are perfectly content with chillin in the crib (either by themselves or with homies) with some loud, cognac and video games or spending time with their family. “Going out” to a lot of guys is hitting up a movie theater or a sports bar. Occasional concert

Females are mad extra and need to be constantly entertained like children. It’s not cool to post yourself watching TV on Instagram. It’s cooler to post yourself in a night club, shopping center or some expensive ass restaurant

"hey! lets go rock climbing" "I know it is christmas eve but we need to go shopping for a last minute gift for my aunt patrice" "I know you got the whole week off but lets" arghhhhhhhh!

 

[ZEupTWN]

I see what your saying OP but I've had equal shytty experiences with homebodies and introvert as well...I need someone down the middle like myself.......

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Also, bottom line is, some of you might just be boring or not much fun. I’ve dated girls when I was broke and they didn’t even feel the need to leave the house because I was an Xbox/PlayStation/good dikk all in one. If you can do that, then she won’t feel the urge as much to “do something.”

You can’t spend your whole life just sitting on your ass.

 

[SheWantTheD]

They can, just not with their boyfriend.

Women are human just like men. I know plenty of women that are homebodies and all they do is chill at home ALL DAY outside of going to work and going to the store.

And you also gotta realize social media and showing off how much fun your life is in terms of your social life, friends, and family is commonplace nowadays. So people are comparing themselves to others. It's a reason why a lot of people get depressed during holiday time because they know a lot of people are going to be spending time with family, friends and at parties, social events etc. If someone is at home watching netflix on say new years eve, they may very well feel depressed assuming most people are out having fun enjoying the following hours into the new year.

And like I said before, plenty of women have a watching netflix hobby. And women just wanna have fun and excitement in their lives.

 

[LebronsHairline]

dikk weed and ignored

 

[born of fire]

now y’all dont like doing things? spending time and having experiences outside??

and if it’s “she wants to spend all my money “ ... date someone who likes to split. problem solved on that front. now you should figure out why you don’t like leaving the house.

 

[morris]

Get on that zinc and up your pipe game breh. It's really that easy. If she getting hers multiple times a day she don't give a fukk about going out ​

nope. with the damn phone after she re-gains her energy and a nice career they always find something they need to buy ... especially for the house/apartment

 

[The Fade]

there is nothing wrong with actual constructive hobbies

making things like outings, which are supposed to be occasions are not supposed to be done all the time. if you both got a spot you frequently hit thats one thing. same if you have kids and are trying to culture them, or if you in a sports league

but people out here trying to force their lives to be scripts for movies. spontaneity for the sake of it. always wanting to drive out of the way to eat. Otherwise, you are just trying to blow dopamine for the sake of blowing dopamine, and you will be bored and always want a new high.

you can chill AND go out, but the shyt being discussed is mainly leaning towards spending money just to flex on the gram. A lot of people arent doin this shyt for themselves, they're doing it for social approval. if you always taking a picture when you go out, you are doing this shyt for "them" not "yall". you pushing your life into a keeping up wit the joneses lane, and when that happens, your relationship is done

 

[Chaos]

Also, bottom line is, some of you might just be boring or not much fun. I’ve dated girls when I was broke and they didn’t even feel the need to leave the house because I was an Xbox/PlayStation/good dikk all in one. If you can do that, then she won’t feel the urge as much to “do something.”

You can’t spend your whole life just sitting on your ass.

Yup. Alot of men sound borring.
I consider myself a homebody. I mostly stay home and work. However, when I'm around others, they like my persona. I don't need to be extra. I like to go out sometimes. It's fun
being home all day every day is boring. You gotta go out sometimes and experience life. As a woman, I'm adventurous and I can do it myself if you don't want to. I have and friends be like "why didnt you invite me?"
Cause you're boring...

 

[JQ Legend]

U would think that till they wanna go to gamestop every weekend, stay in the house literally playin that shyt all day, or she fukkin played ur saved game and u missin out on the story and now u gotta start it from the top (not every game has where u can go back in the story) Not to mention they just run thru the game skippin all the side missions, secret items and weapons.
Ive literally kicked a fwb out my house for deleting my 94 ovr shot creator, cuz i had to refrain from runnin her fade.

U were a 94 in 2K18 and she deleted it?