Might want to rethink that proposalBumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right. Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.
Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.
Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??
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Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right
Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.
Good grief
what are the good parts, certain women spend alot can be a little demanding sometimes... she probably spends alot of money on you as well no?
RealCrownHeights
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Word. Tag your sister so she can get better. I know your sister cheaper and takes half the effort.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
That’s why I don’t feel sorry for brehs 99% of the time, when their marriage goes to shyt. All the red flags were being waved right in front of their face, but their self low self-esteem tells them: “i can’t do any better. Time is running out. I’m not getting any younger, might as well settle with her despite all the problems. Maybe it’ll get better.”
No woman in history has EVER gotten better. We just tune out their negative aspects.
Breh, where did anywhere in that hostage letter did it sound like she spends a red cent on him?
Breh works OT, stressed out, has limited savings. Being nagged about taking her out, and you think SHE’S spending money on him?
Don’t even bother giving him any advice. You can see how defensive and mad he is at his situation. He’ll learn the hard way.
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ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
You’ve got to treat women like over stimulated children. Unfortunately, you can’t smack them like one.
This thread is dead on.
My girl always trying to fill up every empty moment in the week, I'm like
We're going to Disneyland Wednesday for 4 hours, my friends are coming over tomorrow. Her dad's on Saturday. And she's always exhausted.
Told her one time. Don't plan shyt for this week. Tomorrow? Nothing. No I don't need to see my friends just fukking relax and chill for an afternoon.
She enjoyed that afternoon.
RealCrownHeights
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She’s very ambitious, smart and is fun to be around. Good sense of humor, can cook. The sex is good. She doesn’t spend a lot of money on me, but the relationship is like 70/40. So she will pay sometimes. But once again, I don’t ask for shyt lmao. I would never ask her to take me shopping.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
This is for any other Breh reading this because I can tell you’re one of those typical stubborn Carribean brehs who thinks they know everything.
Notice how how those are only good qualities about her and not how she treats him? Brehs, if you can list what’s good about your woman individually and not how she makes you feel or treats you, truly ask yourself if you’re simply a placeholder like this Breh is about to soon find out.
With an ambitious woman but you can’t match it. Just wait until the right Breh with more income, more ambition and activities comes along (if he hasn’t already) and you’ll be in for a rude awakening.
But as I suspect, you’ll ignore what I’m saying because you’re too prideful or lash out and project because the truth is too close to home. Everyone else in here can see you’re walking into a burning building, but you clearly know better, despite venting about her on here.
Just wait until they say they want to chill after work then get home and change their mind: then get upset because you weren’t ready and taking too long 
ok it's not that bad of a deal if she's fun to be around and can cook.
That’s why I don’t feel sorry for brehs 99% of the time, when their marriage goes to shyt. All the red flags were being waved right in front of their face, but their self low self-esteem tells them: “i can’t do any better. Time is running out. I’m not getting any younger, might as well settle with her despite all the problems. Maybe it’ll get better.”
No woman in history has EVER gotten better. We just tune out their negative aspects.
Breh, where did anywhere in that hostage letter did it sound like she spends a red cent on him?
Breh works OT, stressed out, has limited savings. Being nagged about taking her out, and you think SHE’S spending money on him?
Don’t even bother giving him any advice. You can see how defensive and mad he is at his situation. He’ll learn the hard way.
does your response have to be contentious? it doesn't
we're all doing guess work and you single me out in my guess work
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
I grew up in an era where we were blunt. We didn’t sugarcoat the truth.
Sorry you felt like I was bullying you. I was simply adding some humor.
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I grew up in an era where we were blunt. We didn’t sugarcoat the truth.
Sorry you felt like I bullying you. I was simply adding some humor.
People use words like blunt and honest as a guise to be rude and disrespectful and contentious
im pretty much a feminist and my girl still gets on my nerves
i notice she does this thing where she'll talk to fill the space in the air because shes scared i'll think she said something stupid. had a talk with her about it but it did not go well, LMAO. "you dont listen!" like hell i dont... i listen too much, honestly. and thats the problem
im just nitpicking though its not a big deal. it does seem like a crime when you put it next to other things the coli finds offensive, like women having agency, an independent sex life (that doesnt involve you), and/or nose rings
i notice she does this thing where she'll talk to fill the space in the air because shes scared i'll think she said something stupid. had a talk with her about it but it did not go well, LMAO. "you dont listen!" like hell i dont... i listen too much, honestly. and thats the problem
im just nitpicking though its not a big deal. it does seem like a crime when you put it next to other things the coli finds offensive, like women having agency, an independent sex life (that doesnt involve you), and/or nose rings
I don't think this is a unique to women concept. This is just an extrovert concept.im pretty much a feminist and my girl still gets on my nerves
i notice she does this thing where she'll talk to fill the space in the air because shes scared i'll think she said something stupid. had a talk with her about it but it did not go well, LMAO. "you dont listen!" like hell i dont... i listen too much, honestly. and thats the problem
im just nitpicking though its not a big deal. it does seem like a crime when you put it next to other things the coli finds offensive, like women having agency, an independent sex life (that doesnt involve you), and/or nose rings
I've met plenty of dudes who couldn't stand silence either. I've met plenty of dudes who just had to be doing something at all times. The common denominator between the men and women that exhibit this behavior is extroversion.
When you meet a female introvert, you'll be surprised to see that silence is not a problem. They are perfectly content with the thoughts in their head, and secure enough in their relationships that they don't need to constantly probe people around them emotionally with words. These are the ones which will read a book while you play your video games, do yard work, or engage in your own hobbies