Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[ThrobbingHood]

does your response have to be contentious? it doesn't

we're all doing guess work and you single me out in my guess work

People use words like blunt and honest as a guise to be rude and disrespectful and contentious

Breh, where did anywhere in that hostage letter did it sound like she spends a red cent on him?

“Rude, disrespectful and contentious.”

Man, this generation is soft.

 

[boogers]

I don't think this is a unique to women concept. This is just an extrovert concept.

I've met plenty of dudes who couldn't stand silence either. I've met plenty of dudes who just had to be doing something at all times. The common denominator between the men and women that exhibit this behavior is extroversion.


When you meet a female introvert, you'll be surprised to see that silence is not a problem. They are perfectly content with the thoughts in their head, and secure enough in their relationships but they don't need to constantly probe people around them emotionally with words. These are the ones which will read a book while you play your video games, do yard work, or engage in your own hobbies

she used to be like that. next year is 8 years together. around year 4 she changed lol. she went from sweet and quiet to.. something else

i was not holding her back or anything. in fact i may have been too encouraging

im just tired of bickering, man. everything is an argument. even taking the dog outside... and it aint even my dog!

i think we need some counseling

 

[Phitz]

“Rude, disrespectful and contentious.”

Man, this generation is soft.

ok, honestly I think your name is pretty gay to be using on a mostly male forum, but I didn't just want to randomly say that. Since we're being honest and all.

 

[Lord_nikon]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Mentally disconnect from her, take trips when you are ready!! ,,,,,, if she want to go to Mexico ,, I would tell her have a great trip and hopefully you don't cheat on me!!



they get energized like predator with trips and wasting money lol

 

[TripleAgent]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Have a serious talk with her and try to nip that shyt in the bud. If you marry her without figuring it out, IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE. If you have children with her, IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE. If she can't be corrected, CUT YOUR LOSSES AND RUN. I wasted a decade trying to "fix" my ex-wife and waiting for her to grow up. DO NOT BE LIKE ME.

For now, STOP GIVING IN TO THE NAGGING!!! You're teaching her that she can control you. Either put your foot down and mean it, or present her with some undeniable logic and force her to face it. As in "if we buy x, you can't have y. Choose"

 

[010101]

women have the option to victimize fools who capitulate to their demands

most women parents never direct them away from that gimmie gimme gimmie childish shyte

she will only work as hard as you force her to HA

*

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

I have noticed it myself... It's also why alot of them stay broke. I tend to think most women have mental issues and they can't sit still because then they have to face their demons.

This. When they are still the voices talk. And the voices talk because they aren't self fulfilled and must always chase something.

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Relationships end how they begin. She doesn't sound like the one for you. Sounds like she lacks empathy. She can see you are suffering and is still redirecting your attention to her. She will suck you dry. I had a girlfriend like that that i dumped last year. I went back and looked at pics of us together and what I looked like before they relationship. A year into that relationship I could see the misery in my eyes. I didn't recognize myself. My advice is to get out now.

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

Those are the first girls to cheat

 

[Manolo]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Y’all might have history but you in over your head and respectfully this relationship is about to be over.

She’s turning 30, an age when women start to change and become more aware of their “needs” — aka competing with other women and keeping up with the Joneses 10x harder.

I guarantee most of her suggestions are coming from her girls and women she envies on social media.

Salsa dancing… Mexico City… “you never plan anything, we haven’t taken any trips this summer” = “my friends have more fun than me” = “I deserve better” = ”I’m not getting my needs met” = what else is out there?”

If you’re in NY like your name suggests, multiply everything I said by 10

 

[10bandz]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

I went thru this and let it go on a little too long. My pops even tried to redirect me and I didn’t listen at first

Cut her loose now. Don’t do the Mexico City shyt. You’ll regret it.

You’ll find someone who respects the work you putting in eventually.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

If you can deal with the smell, get you a fat, sloppy bítch. She won’t mind staying home, watching tv, smoking, eating and getting fatter.

 

[TRUEST]

she used to be like that. next year is 8 years together. around year 4 she changed lol. she went from sweet and quiet to.. something else

i was not holding her back or anything. in fact i may have been too encouraging

im just tired of bickering, man. everything is an argument. even taking the dog outside... and it aint even my dog!

i think we need some counseling

Rarely do love stories like this end well.

 

[jay83]

she used to be like that. next year is 8 years together. around year 4 she changed lol. she went from sweet and quiet to.. something else

i was not holding her back or anything. in fact i may have been too encouraging

im just tired of bickering, man. everything is an argument. even taking the dog outside... and it aint even my dog!

i think we need some counseling

I think it’s resentment for not asking to marry her earlier as well. 8 years? Yeah she def feel some type of way unless she really against marriage.

 

[boogers]

I think it’s resentment for not asking to marry her earlier as well. 8 years? Yeah she def feel some type of way unless she really against marriage.

nah it aint that. ive asked her three times (not in some time), she doesnt want to. shes different. one of the few atheists i know

FWIW we both understand that marriage is just a bandaid and not really necessary. just wish i learned that before i spent 1200 on that ring

 

[DaddyFresh]

This is the realest thread ever. I just got out of a 5 year live in relationship and she ALWAYS wanted to do something just to do something. Got out for food, go out for drinks, date, travel, etc. I've been single for going on 18 months now and I have SO much money. It's insane. Going out and blowing money in these economy? Yeah right. I just spent good money on making my home have everything I need and the bank account just keeps stacking. I'm even able to eat all organic and lean cuts of meat like this and it's pretty cheap when managed correctly. Don't even get me started on my mental health lol .