Why Is It That If A Black Man Is Single Up To His 30's Or 40's He's Suspected As 'Gay'?

[hustlemania]

I just turned 37 Sunday

No wife or girl for that matter

No kids

Besides my homeboys most people have not seen me with a woman

Ask me if I give a fukk

And it's one thing for women to say this but the fact men are in this thread cosignin it is ironically even more suspect

Men tombout " he so successful why he ain't got a girl? "

you really surprised a bunch of dudes who spend majority of their day gossiping like females.. act & think like females..

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

My great grandma was questioning my sexuality cause I ain't have a gf by 18

Turned around and had a baby by 20
Showed her ass

 

[tuckgod]

Either gay or a lame nikka that can’t get a girl to stick around.

Black women ain’t letting a good man stay on the market that long.

 

[peppe]

I was 20 when I brought my first girl home. My parents were like, thank god we taught you were gay if you were gay that would have been fine but we just thought you were afraid to tell us


I was like i like women

It's not being single at a specific age point I think it's more when people have never seen you with a chick.

One of my boys was single for a long time, he was 22 never seen with a chick/p*ssy. We all thought he might be gay then one day he had the baddest bytch of us all straight styling on us

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

This mostly happens if the man in question has never been seen with a woman.

People are stupid and very feminine these days so it's expected. Women naturally gossip about people that don't give a fukk about their opinion and many men are raised by women so they act like women.

 

[EndDomination]

Because the majority of Black men can’t keep it in their pants and have kids early.

 

[Weaver31]

All races do this but it is more common in minority communities especially the black community.

Some of it is closed minded and ignorant thinking...but I do understand that it does seem odd if a seemingly eligible hence the word ELIGIBLE man is single and childless...then they will wonder why haven't u been selected by some woman or at least one woman would've found u good enough to have ur child, They gonna wonder if u homosexual, DL, undesirable or wonder why nobody got u off the market. People think that folks should follow a similar timeline with their life endeavors like they did. But I'm a type of person who may look at things with a more reasonable and analytical mindset...like some folks don't have kids because they may not be ready financially, mentally or emotionally. Just cuz someone looks successful doesn't mean they are and they may have debt out the azz, horrible credit, no money in bank, mental issues, trust issues, time management issues, etc. whereas its too difficult to sustain a relationship let alone be able to provide for children. Plus people need to not worry so much about others and their approval and liking u....shyt especially if they not paying ur bills and providing food or roof over ur head.

 

[JQ Legend]

What about those of us who don't get seen with women because we smashing escorts?

Im not familiar with the DL so pardon my ignorance but don't DL men make it a point to be seen with women?

And don't they usually have kids/wives/girlfriends?

 

[Koba St]

What if he’s ugly, broke, overweight and posts all day on some online forum called the koli or whatever.

 

[kwazzy100]

- Having a convo with someone (usually at work), with someone who happens to be gay. Catty ass females start suspecting.

Most deep convo I have is with men. Its either about religion, relationships, meaning of life, economy, race, or just plain ol bullshyt. Most women just talk about themselves and their problems, it's like 50/50 either I care or not , especially with the one that I want to get between the thighs
I ain't saying all of them, but a lot of women ain't that much fun to talk to

 

[All Knowledge]

Waited until I hit my 30’s before I would entertain having children. Will never regret my decisions there.

Always found it to be some form of jealousy/envy

 

[ALMIGHTY GOD]

Because the majority of Black men can’t keep it in their pants and have kids early.

women are the gatekeepers of sex.

are you a female?

 

[Dave24]

What if he’s ugly, broke, overweight and posts all day on some online forum called the koli or whatever.

Talking about yourself?

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

As the saying goes... "There's somebody for everybody" which is true there is no woman or man (in this instance) too damn ugly, unattractive, fat or whatever to not have a woman so people instantly think "oh he must be gay".

However what some people need to understand or look into is that..."is the man in question mentally there" because the man may be attractive & look normal on the outside but may not be mentally .


When I say mental I'm talking the real deal like the ones who go see a mental health doctor once a week along with seeing a physiatrist & getting meds prescribed to them, those men may look normal on the outside but mentally may not be.

I point out mental health because see for instance how bruhs in TLR constantly thirst and sometimes simp over pus*y or the thought of it and wouldn't trade it for nothing, a man with REAL mental health issues ain't even thinking about a woman or getting any sex that kind of shyt is irrelevant and least of their concern because the mind ain't stable.

I know some black people don't like to believe in mental health issues with the fear of looking "weak" to others but it's real & not something where you can just brush off and "man up" as some say.

 

[The Fade]

In the western world it used to be you would get run out of town if you were a bachelor. Even gays had rights as long as they married and had kids