When you talk about women who never work a day in their lives, even if they are unmarried, those are some of the ladies who mastered the game.
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One of the things that makes a woman/femininity so appealing is the woman’s exclusivity. All those wonderful things you are and all those wonderful things you do are coveted by many, but should only be shared with someone special.
This is why low body counts and a low (personal) profile is so important.
While it may sting knowing the man you’re with slept with the whole town (I ain’t rocking with it
), it stings way more realizing no man will claim you after you’ve slept with the whole town. That’s a big part of the game.No one wants to be cheated on or abused, and no one wants to be in a marriage where they are overworked, but these girls aren’t learning the relationship soft skills that help one reduce or avoid the possibility of those bad outcomes.
Instead of learning how to deal with men and understanding men, they lead with what we know men OBVIOUSLY want: sex.
But it’s like the men who lead with their wallets. No one respects them in the end because it’s clear that’s all they can do get what they want- throw money.
I said it before…it’s a cold game, but the reason why the women with sense are quiet is because they don’t want to be attacked and it makes it easier for the ladies who actually know how to interact with men.
You never see women who actually LIKE men have these problems. Because they understand the importance of seeing men as individuals. Individuals who have their own successes, failures, traumas, difficulties, etc that make them who they are, and will be uncovered IF they “do the dance” well enough to spend more time with each other. It’s easy to spot out the bad guys, the “womanizers”, the good guys, the guys with no experience, etc when you approach every guy as an individual and don’t have any expectations.
Personally, I always assume the worst while behaving my best.
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Something I’ve always found funny is the people who rag on women (especially attractive women) who have “guy friends”.
Some of those women have mastered the art of being hot and *not* having an insufferable personality, so while men may like to look at them, they actually like having them in their space because of their personalities and energy —which is far more important in the long run and what keeps you in there with your man when your looks fade.
And that’s achieved without sharing your body! Imagine that.
There are enough hints out there about how to interact with the opposite sex and get desirable results.
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I’ve said it here previously: there are definitely bad things that have happened to women and children at the hands of men, and more balance needed to be implemented. We have over-corrected and now women have fallen for giving up the main thing that makes us different and makes men want to claim us. As with most things, a lot of people won’t speak up and tell you where you’re faltering. That’s the job of your family. But what if you come from a family that didn’t get it right??
Same as the men who call women “gold diggers” or say a woman isn’t worth it if she wasn’t there for the “struggle”.
While other men dig deep, work multiple jobs, get their education/certs and THEN go scoop up the kind of chick they always wanted.
That’s what we are seeing today.
The folks who were taught the proper order are not engaging in the madness displayed on social media.
Absolutely nothing wrong with getting an education and making your own money, and moving in circles filled with high-achieving men.
But if your life goals include marriage and children, you have to think about what men want because they are the ones who propose. So when you factor that in…being loose simply isn’t practical.
And if you ARE going to do all that, do it while you’re young and have a pass for being dumb and don’t be blatant.
We have a generation of girls who weren’t taught how to operate in society. Being a lady attracts a large swathe of men; that’s when you take your time a choose the correct gentleman.
It’s a man’s world, but you can still win if you play by rules set for women. The folks who operate like there aren’t any rules are the folks who are burned out by 30/40, no direction, no assets, a trail of avoidable mistakes, etc.
Someone asked for the ladies’ thoughts…
Just my two cents
. The women who are furious seem to be the whores (again, no offense) who didn't get that happy ending, sadly.
