They aren't hard on new people. They are hard on shytty people. There's people who pick up a game and get good at it real fast. You're just naturally a bad gamer and should stick to playing single player stuff. Or invite your other shytty friends over to play with you offline. I can't stand playing with shytty people and if I suck at a game I don't play it cause I know how they would feel.
That's like some random 5'1 fat dude asking to hoop with us when he knows he sucks but just likes the game. Naw.