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written by balises , 13 January, 2012
@Bmaxi
I too have cheated on my husband. What's strange is he is wonderful and we have a great relationship both sexually and emotionally. The man I cheated with meant nothing, purely physical. I debated on telling my husband, being honest (which I totally agree with btw, in just about all cases. This being one, where I don't think honesty is the best policy). Reason being, not because I don't think I should be honest, not because I don't think I deserve to suffer the humiliation of knowing what I did to him, how I betrayed him, because I totally do. If I am truly honest with myself, I have to admit that I would only be telling him to relieve my self of the guilt. So we can either work it out or move on. Is it really fair to him? Why should I break his heart, why should I make him suffer the humiliation of everyone knowing, and him feeling that he was made a fool of. I don't think I should. You know that old saying "What he doesn't know, won't hurt him" is actually true, in my opinion. Don't get me wrong, I am not condoning what I did, it was truly horrible, selfish, disrespectful, and I am the biggest coward. I do truly feel guilty, and I am truly sorry for what I have done. The punishment I will suffer is always knowing what I did. But I will never ever tell him, because I will not break his heart. Sorry for the long post, also this is just my opinion, you have to do what you feel is right for your relationship. You mentioned that you kissed an old friend. Cheating is cheating, I under stand this, however kissing someone vs. having sex with someone, I feel that kissing is not as serious, certainly not worth risking an 8 year relationship just to make yourself feel better. At least you realize that you made a mistake, and I think that people that realize the error of their ways, usually feel guilty enough to not do it again. Again, just my opinion. Good Luck to you.
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, 06 February, 2012
I cheated on my bf before right after i got into a relationship with him ... The guy i cheated with was a friend of mine from school . We got close and hung out for a few mths resulting in us sleeping together . My bf found out few mths later. He forgave me after and i promised him that i wasn't gonna hurt him like that anymore . My bf's job requires him to travel a lot and we are in a long distance relationship... but we both make the effort to communicate daily and he flies back here to see me whenever he gets the chance to ... and he is a great guy and i wanted to be with him always... but two months ago, after being together for a year and it has been a year since the first cheating happened ... we moved on from it like it never happened before ... He was away at work ... and i told him i was gonna wait till he return and from there we will finally decide how we can be together in one place . I went out one night and bumped into one of my ex flings i had before i got with my bf ... and things got out of hand . I cheated on him again ... and i couldn't bring myself to tell him afraid of losing him ... and thinking that i will not get caught and just let it pass ... Being very selfish of me to do so ... When he came back 2 months ago ... He found out about it thru an conversation i had with a friend ... He got really heartbroken ... I didn't know what to say or do as i knew i screwed up again ... He said he still loves me a lot till now ... We are still very close though we are not together due to trust issues ... I really want to change myself for me and for him ... I am not sure if he will ever risk his heart with me again ... but i still love him a lot and i can never meet someone like him ....
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Taken from the truthaboutdeception.com
Why Women Cheat - Truth About Deception
Discuss...and another thing "husband" is code for simp....not getting married again...
@Bmaxi
I too have cheated on my husband. What's strange is he is wonderful and we have a great relationship both sexually and emotionally. The man I cheated with meant nothing, purely physical. I debated on telling my husband, being honest (which I totally agree with btw, in just about all cases. This being one, where I don't think honesty is the best policy). Reason being, not because I don't think I should be honest, not because I don't think I deserve to suffer the humiliation of knowing what I did to him, how I betrayed him, because I totally do. If I am truly honest with myself, I have to admit that I would only be telling him to relieve my self of the guilt. So we can either work it out or move on. Is it really fair to him? Why should I break his heart, why should I make him suffer the humiliation of everyone knowing, and him feeling that he was made a fool of. I don't think I should. You know that old saying "What he doesn't know, won't hurt him" is actually true, in my opinion. Don't get me wrong, I am not condoning what I did, it was truly horrible, selfish, disrespectful, and I am the biggest coward. I do truly feel guilty, and I am truly sorry for what I have done. The punishment I will suffer is always knowing what I did. But I will never ever tell him, because I will not break his heart. Sorry for the long post, also this is just my opinion, you have to do what you feel is right for your relationship. You mentioned that you kissed an old friend. Cheating is cheating, I under stand this, however kissing someone vs. having sex with someone, I feel that kissing is not as serious, certainly not worth risking an 8 year relationship just to make yourself feel better. At least you realize that you made a mistake, and I think that people that realize the error of their ways, usually feel guilty enough to not do it again. Again, just my opinion. Good Luck to you.
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, 06 February, 2012 I cheated on my bf before right after i got into a relationship with him ... The guy i cheated with was a friend of mine from school . We got close and hung out for a few mths resulting in us sleeping together . My bf found out few mths later. He forgave me after and i promised him that i wasn't gonna hurt him like that anymore . My bf's job requires him to travel a lot and we are in a long distance relationship... but we both make the effort to communicate daily and he flies back here to see me whenever he gets the chance to ... and he is a great guy and i wanted to be with him always... but two months ago, after being together for a year and it has been a year since the first cheating happened ... we moved on from it like it never happened before ... He was away at work ... and i told him i was gonna wait till he return and from there we will finally decide how we can be together in one place . I went out one night and bumped into one of my ex flings i had before i got with my bf ... and things got out of hand . I cheated on him again ... and i couldn't bring myself to tell him afraid of losing him ... and thinking that i will not get caught and just let it pass ... Being very selfish of me to do so ... When he came back 2 months ago ... He found out about it thru an conversation i had with a friend ... He got really heartbroken ... I didn't know what to say or do as i knew i screwed up again ... He said he still loves me a lot till now ... We are still very close though we are not together due to trust issues ... I really want to change myself for me and for him ... I am not sure if he will ever risk his heart with me again ... but i still love him a lot and i can never meet someone like him ....
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Taken from the truthaboutdeception.com
Why Women Cheat - Truth About Deception
Discuss...and another thing "husband" is code for simp....not getting married again...
It's not some mystery. There's not a magic formula that's going to keep your girl from cheatin on you.
It's always been like this. The only difference is women didn't/couldn't go on websites and talk about it. People haven't changed it's just easier to see the dirt they do.