Why you degenerates never put a Breh on attachment styles?

[Vandelay]

I dont think youre avoidant you just like a chick and she playing games and you worried she gonna disappear in you. This just conditioning from modern dating. Women being taught to play the field and not come on too strong. Same "avoidant" chick is doing what you doing when that NFL player aint text her back for a day.

I look at how I handled these last 2 interactions with women. Completely differently. One girl started pressing me for a relationship I just didn't see with her, so I just deaded it and said I wasn't ready for that.

Meanwhile, this other chick that I've been on and off with with for 3-4 months had my nose wide the fukk open, I ended up cutting her off because I wanted more and didn't like how she was moving. She was definitely an avoidant. Normally, I would've just faded, but I actually told her how I felt... mis-fukking-stake... lol

 

[folasade]

Would you say that the modern dating experience is providing people experiences that turn them into avoidants? Or are there just this many people with fukked up childhoods that made them this way?

dating has definitely made people avoidants. You get played and ghosted long enough you become guarded and often times we do what is done to us.

 

[WIA20XX]

Wait
What is this?
Send me some links for education please

It's the new "What's your sign"/"What's your love language?"

Attachment styles do have basis in actual science

Contributions of Attachment Theory and Research: A Framework for Future Research, Translation, and Policy - PMC

Attachment theory has been generating creative and impactful research for almost half a century. In this article we focus on the documented antecedents and consequences of individual differences in infant attachment patterns, suggesting topics for ...

pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

But in the real world, it's just a new way to holla at broads, and for broads to blame their failed relationships on everything but themselves. (See astrology and love languages)

 

[cyndaquil]

I look at how I handled these last 2 interactions with women. Completely differently. One girl started pressing me for a relationship I just didn't see with her, so I just deaded it and said I wasn't ready for that.

Meanwhile, this other chick that I've been on and off with with for 3-4 months had my nose wide the fukk open, I ended up cutting her off because I wanted more and didn't like how she was moving. She was definitely an avoidant. Normally, I would've just faded, but I actually told her how I felt... mis-fukking-stake... lol

Alright now be honest, which one was more attractive to you? If the first one was more attractive to you then you wouldnt have deaded it. It sounds like you just liked the second one more. I'm just saying cuz I do the same shyt

 

[Vandelay]

Alright now be honest, which one was more attractive to you? If the first one was more attractive to you then you wouldnt have deaded it. It sounds like you just liked the second one more. I'm just saying cuz I do the same shyt

Honestly, the first was more attractive and younger. Second chick had more to build with and had a personality I fukked with more. First chick was an 8. Second chick 6.5-7, but she either was emotionally unavailable or I was in her rotation. I didn't like that space she had me and called her on it, but I ain't do it in the most player way.

 

[Majestyx]

european society is doing a number on people. and people keep on buying what they selling. GG's

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I look at how I handled these last 2 interactions with women. Completely differently. One girl started pressing me for a relationship I just didn't see with her, so I just deaded it and said I wasn't ready for that.

Meanwhile, this other chick that I've been on and off with with for 3-4 months had my nose wide the fukk open, I ended up cutting her off because I wanted more and didn't like how she was moving. She was definitely an avoidant. Normally, I would've just faded, but I actually told her how I felt... mis-fukking-stake... lol

Here’s the thing. Theres some truth to attachment theory and might even apply in most cases. But at the end of the day just like in your example, it boils down to they either like you and want to be with you or they don’t.

You got women out here going to the ends of the earth with a dude even with childhood trauma and all the other attachment related stuff. That same chick will turn around and dump a guy because “she gotta work on herself” even if the relationship is good simply because she’s not into him.

We’d drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out why a chick did what she did. All we can do is do what you did and set boundaries for what we expect and if they don’t meet them cut em off

 

[Vandelay]

Here’s the thing. Theres some truth to attachment theory and might even apply in most cases. But at the end of the day just like in your example, it boils down to they either like you and want to be with you or they don’t.

You got women out here going to the ends of the earth with a dude even with childhood trauma and all the other attachment related stuff. That same chick will turn around and dump a guy because “she gotta work on herself” even if the relationship is good simply because she’s not into him.

We’d drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out why a chick did what she did. All we can do is do what you did and set boundaries for what we expect and if they don’t meet them cut em off

It's deeper than I can get into here. Because she did give me that energy at one point. I made shyt awkward early on and she pulled that energy back and it never returned. The shyt that threw me for loop was, I would fade off only for her to hit me up on some "wyd" shyt. We'd chat, kick it, have a good time, I'd think I was back in there and her energy would get lukewarm again. Repeat that cycle for damn near 3 months and I got annoyed and sent her a "dear John" text message.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

It's deeper than I can get into here. Because she did give me that energy at one point. I made shyt awkward early on and she pulled that energy back and it never returned. The shyt that threw me for loop was, I would fade off only for her to hit me up on some "wyd" shyt. We'd chat, kick it, have a good time, I'd think I was back in there and her energy would get lukewarm again. Repeat that cycle for damn near 3 months and I got annoyed and sent her a "dear John" text message.

I know you said she did give you that energy at first and I don’t know your situation but it sounds like a classic “there’s someone else in the picture” type situation to me.

Your first instinct to fade out at the first sign was the correct way.

 

[Vandelay]

I know you said she did give you that energy at first and I don’t know your situation but it sounds like a classic “there’s someone else in the picture” type situation to me.

Your first instinct to fade out at the first sign was the correct way.

Yeah, I'm aware.

shyt kinda sucks.

 

[Rozay Oro]

I don't know a ton about it. I'm pretty sure I'm disorganized. I'm avoidant mostly, but I've noticed when I run into other avoidants and we have chemistry, I start getting anxious.

It means you’re cooked like me breh

 

[Rozay Oro]

Look in the mirror first.

I have bought many psychology books. sobriety and chastity is making me face my neuroticism. It’s painful

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

shyt kinda sucks.

I feel you breh

It’s cutthroat out here. No matter what the vibe is, what value you provide, how much everything is flowing. One minute you’re rocking with a chick. The next she’s a stranger. Shyt is mental.

 

[Vandelay]

It means you’re cooked like me breh

I'm talking to this new chick, and she's into me a lot. I'm like wtfever lol. I don't see it being long-term either.

I feel you breh

It’s cutthroat out here. No matter what the vibe is, what value you provide, how much everything is flowing. One minute you’re rocking with a chick. The next she’s a stranger. Shyt is mental.

I was walking around fukking almost everything last year. Tried to move different this year. About to be fukking almost everything again.

I don't even think it's all this chick, I'm just tired of doing the dance.

I think this is where my avoidant side comes in. I let my guard down and it feels like shyt when it doesn't work out. Anyone that knows me knows I very rarely show any of those sides of me.

shyt I don't talk like this on here... and y'all don't even know me from Adam lol.

 

[cyndaquil]

Honestly, the first was more attractive and younger. Second chick had more to build with and had a personality I fukked with more. First chick was an 8. Second chick 6.5-7, but she either was emotionally unavailable or I was in her rotation. I didn't like that space she had me and called her on it, but I ain't do it in the most player way.

When I say attractive I don't mean just looks like some of these blockhead incels on here be so focused solely on. Attraction isn't just looks it encompasses many things. So the second woman had what you were looking for hence she was more attractive to you than the younger, better looking woman. So you deaded it with the first woman.

This aint avoidant at all on your part. But remember a woman who is attractive like that and she's single after a certain age and never been married or in a long term relationship is CHOOSING that life. You aint the first breh she done did this to and you wont be the last unfortunately