#WhyIsStayed Women chime in on hashtag about abusive relationships

[TwistedMetal]

women getting wet thinking about their former lovers

and probably texting them nikkas now to "rekindle" things out
knowing damn well they miss the drama, beatings and his love (rage and aggression)
but they be the first to scream domestic violence when SOME women WANT this shyt to go down

but I'll leave it at that because we can't possibly think our wholesome innocent women
would ever purposely go after such a man *gasp*



*waits to get negged again*

 

[StickStickly]

ok. Have you ever been to a sheltered woman rehab ? You ever seen a woman suffering from an abusive relatioship ?

You're dead wrong here. Most women blame themselves, or think the guy has the right to. That's the rerason most of them stay. I cared for a woman who was beaten unconscious beacuse she didn't cook his favorite meal that day. When the police were telling us the story, it was sad. Dude almost killed her cuz she didn't cook what he wanted to eat.

So how's that the woman's fault ? You need to stop acting like your opinion/ideas are facts

yeah it really is sad.

I swear some of these guys here claim to be smart and college educated but have the social and empathic IQ of an ant. Did they sleep through psych 101 or something? The stuff they say is amazing.

 

[StickStickly]

In all serious, I have to ask: how can conversations be approached while in a relationship with a woman?

I've dated to a few women (stand-up chicks) and have had stories of past domestic violence and rape come to light after a while. If you're getting to know a woman and you're intrigued in something long-term, when is it the right time to get into these topics before you take that next step (whatever it may be) or do you just wait and find out after the fact?

Would it be frowned upon if you didn't want to continue dating a woman that stayed in an abusive relationship for a long time?

If you run into this conversation with a date and you want to figure out if she mentally okay after years of abuse, ask her questions with wording about caring for herself and validate any emotions she expresses by reflecting them, for example. "Yeah that does seem like a scary situation and I'm glad you were able to break free. How are you taking care of yourself? How have you allowed yourself to heal?" That way you're touching on the topic without being rude. I don't think you're wrong if you don't want to date someone who hasn't healed from past abuse- you need to have a lot of patience , a certain level of maturity, a laid back nature, and strength yourself and you can't only be after sex or want to move too fast, even if she wants to. If you don't want that for your life, that's fine. At least you know what you're looking for.

 

[MikelArteta]

ok. Have you ever been to a sheltered woman rehab ? You ever seen a woman suffering from an abusive relatioship ?

You're dead wrong here. Most women blame themselves, or think the guy has the right to. That's the rerason most of them stay. I cared for a woman who was beaten unconscious beacuse she didn't cook his favorite meal that day. When the police were telling us the story, it was sad. Dude almost killed her cuz she didn't cook what he wanted to eat.

So how's that the woman's fault ? You need to stop acting like your opinion/ideas are facts

yes I have, I've actually donated many times to a woman shelter and worked with community churches to help battered women.

I Said I feel no sympathy for sob stories female tell me, the odds of choosing a abuser, or cheater over and over and over again is slim.

 

[StickStickly]

yes I have, I've actually donated many times to a woman shelter and worked with community churches to help battered women.

I Said I feel no sympathy for sob stories female tell me, the odds of choosing a abuser, or cheater over and over and over again is slim.

You don't have to feel sympathy ( or feeling sorry for someone), but you don't have empathy? can you understand why they do it? If not why'd you go into those situations to help them ?

 

[MikelArteta]

You don't have to feel sympathy ( or feeling sorry for someone), but you don't have empathy? can you understand why they do it? If not why'd you go into those situations to help them ?

I understand why most women stay low self esteem, broken home, never felt "loved", dysfunctional upbringing, them bad boy tingles , doesn't mean i feel sympathy or empathy.

I actually dated a chick that was in a abusive relationship it was just for a few months and she went back to fn with that nukka right after

i feel nothing :barney:

the same how i feel nothing for men who stay with psycho chicks

 

[Keep_It_Hip_Hop_Fam]

True shyt. Women are not logical. They don't take responsibility for their actions. And they love drama. Therefore I find it hard to believe a lot of these girls who claim that they are being "abused".

Its 2014. If your dude hits you call the cops and get a restraining order. Simple as pie

Correct

And let's be 100%...most of these abusers never intended to become abusers...they were provoked to that point. Women never chose the wrong man..they provoked that male to that point.

Some part of a woman's fukked up pysche wants to be hit or fear a man

Women don't see it as abuse that's why they always go back....In my opinion, in their twisted fukked up mind they believe a man hitting them is an expression of love. Almost every single woman who has been hit by a man goes back.

 

[DAlbert]

i never met a chick who wasn't "raped" or "abused" by her ex

look man bytches leave for the most littlest of shyt without any sympathy when they realize they no longer benefit out of the relationship

if the nikka is making 100k+ and has everything she needs while beating the fukk out of her

that silly hoe isn't going to leave

 

[No_bammer_weed]

All of this daily "women love abusive men....women have a psyche where they want to be beaten and abused....women are too stupid or full of lust to avoid dangerous men" stuff around here is simply a personal reflection on your on personal psychopathy, and inability to engage with any sense of reality. Some of you guys are critically maladjusted and dangerously bitter.

Just like racists who have crime stats and other "facts" at the ready in order to justify their twisted logic concerning a category of people, you guys just cant come to grips with your burning hatred of other people. You have condemned yourself to a life of personal misery.

 

[StickStickly]

All of this daily "women love abusive men....women have a psyche where they want to be beaten and abused....women are too stupid or full of lust to avoid dangerous men" stuff around here is simply a personal reflection on your on personal psychopathy, and inability to engage with any sense of reality. Some of you guys are critically maladjusted and dangerously bitter.

Just like racists who have crime stats and other "facts" at the ready in order to justify their twisted logic concerning a category of people, you guys just cant come to grips with your burning hatred of other people. You have condemned yourself to a life of personal misery.

These men are fukkin scary

 

[Keep_It_Hip_Hop_Fam]

All of this daily "women love abusive men....women have a psyche where they want to be beaten and abused....women are too stupid or full of lust to avoid dangerous men" stuff around here is simply a personal reflection on your on personal psychopathy, and inability to engage with any sense of reality. Some of you guys are critically maladjusted and dangerously bitter.

Just like racists who have crime stats and other "facts" at the ready in order to justify their twisted logic concerning a category of people, you guys just cant come to grips with your burning hatred of other people. You have condemned yourself to a life of personal misery.

Explain to me logically why women go back to their abusers. Do it.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

I stayed because I didnt wanna be a single parent to 3 sons.

 

[LeVraiPapi]

yes I have, I've actually donated many times to a woman shelter and worked with community churches to help battered women.

I Said I feel no sympathy for sob stories female tell me, the odds of choosing a abuser, or cheater over and over and over again is slim.

son, you're full of shyt. You always saying you either volunteer or donate to this and that when you get your card pulled. You're obviously trynna cover your ignorance by tap dancing and generalizing as usual but you still look stupid.

If God gives you kids, I hope you don't plant those ideas in their heads

 

[FrederickDouglas]

Correct

And let's be 100%...most of these abusers never intended to become abusers...they were provoked to that point. Women never chose the wrong man..they provoked that male to that point.

Some part of a woman's fukked up pysche wants to be hit or fear a man

Women don't see it as abuse that's why they always go back....In my opinion, in their twisted fukked up mind they believe a man hitting them is an expression of love. Almost every single woman who has been hit by a man goes back.

Nikkas turning into domestic abusers for the sake of puzzy

Simp ass nikkas

 

[StickStickly]

son, you're full of shyt. You always saying you either volunteer or donate to this and that when you get your card pulled. You're obviously trynna cover your ignorance by tap dancing and generalizing as usual but you still look stupid.

If God gives you kids, I hope you don't plant those ideas in their heads

Yeah. If churches are sending people with those ideas to help out these families, they need to stop right now and figure out a way to vet them. It's stupid and potentially harmful to send ignorant people to help these families. The more I think about it the more think he was volunteering in the shelters kitchen and did not have direct care with these women. Most women's shelters don't let non-employees or outside people know where they are located to protect the lives of the people who live there and they don't allow men in them.