Firstly- you are doing something amazing. Truly. Bless you for giving back.
Secondly- this kind of illustrates my point. I said myself that I was overlooked until I hit the college scene and then everyone wanted to make sure I didn’t “date out” lol
The kids you’re describing come from money and good backgrounds, but they aren’t necessarily the Bronnies.
Bronnie is the rich, popular, handsome kid who happens to be Black- he has his pick of all the girls ( who doesn’t want to date LeBron’s son?!).
Imagine Blue Ivy when she hits high school and starts dating. She’ll be the rich, popular, pretty girl who happens to be Black- she will have her pick of all the boys (who won’t want to date JayZ/Bey’s daughter?!).
If she steps out with a white boy it will be because that’s what she wants!
The kids you’re describing who get overlooked are not the Bronnies, Sashas, Malias, or Blue Ivys.
They are the average Black kids who would’ve learned how to get in where they fit in, if they were allowed to grow and flourish in Black environments.
The Bronnies and the Sashas get to PICK whatever partner/race they want because they have the looks + social capital that is necessary in shallow environments like high school.
The Bronnies don’t get ignored. They can pick the popular White girls OR Black girls because they have the social capital to do so. Whether it’s height, looks, popularity, etc they have the cache to make that move within dominant society.
The kids you’re describing aren’t Bronnies. That’s the key difference.
Yep. Even the enlisted nukes crip walk into a six-figure job after the navy.Well he’s young, I’m sure he doesn’t.
6 years as an officer doing Nuke shyt is still more than 99% of the planet will be doing.
Like I said, them nikkas are weird though but just because he’s military doesn’t mean shyt. You literally have to score mid-90’s for nuke positions and I’m sure a lot of those cats do go to/through serious schooling…. And for free
She actually said he was initially cute and she found him attractive thoShe doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?
Well guess what? It’s the same for her.

the media and women lie about what they find attractive so many dudes be confused.She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?
Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
men fukk women they don't like all the time lolEveryone is like this. She could've said he seems like he don't like Black women if she wanted to play the PR game.She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?
Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
If the media told Men the truth about what women think the economy would be two thirds smaller than it is now.the media and women lie about what they find attractive so many dudes be confused.
also at the bold, most dudes would still fukk given the chancemen fukk women they don't like all the time lol
Well then something about his personality might have made her clit wanna run and hide. It happens. God knows I’ve been there. When I was dating I met some dudes who were fine fine and as soon as they opened their mouth, it was like nails on a chalkboard. Or they just seemed strange. Gave off weirdo vibes. Ruined the whole vibe. Meh. Such is life.She actually said he was initially cute and she found him attractive tho![]()
Yep. And Sometimes other stuff is a nice bonus, but there has to be some attraction there. Attraction is so complicated and that’s what can be frustrating. The women aren’t capping. Those accomplishments are cool, but they can’t carry the entirety of somebody’s attraction to another person.Everyone is like this. She could've said he seems like he don't like Black women if she wanted to play the PR game.
Attraction isn't a choice but women do cap like non media accomplishments mean anything to young women. That matters to old brehettes but not to young ones.
The äverage at best" lady is going on another dating show assuming that her pet shop business is gonna take away from her face.
It really is a #bothsides issue.
Fukk sure. Marry nope. Not unless they cheating.the media and women lie about what they find attractive so many dudes be confused.
also at the bold, most dudes would still fukk given the chancemen fukk women they don't like all the time lol
You're correct but the one thing I wish someone could tell young brehettes is that the longer you wait to get married the bigger the chances are that you're gonna end up fukking dudes that you don't respect.Yep. And Sometimes other stuff is a nice bonus, but there has to be some attraction there. Attraction is so complicated and that’s what can be frustrating. The women aren’t capping. Those accomplishments are cool, but they can’t carry the entirety of somebody’s attraction to another person.
My husband makes a good amount of money. But if he didn’t match my personality, I still wouldn’t have married him. I’ve dated men who made more than him that me no want because we ain’t vibe.
You never know how things are gonna work out.
Absolutely. Completely agree. I think the biggest thing is she jumped in the middle of a conversation that is happening online with regards to dating dynamics and she represented an avatar and people saw it play out in real time. She also said she got more push back/vitriol from women. People can see a young pretty girl and a dude with what seems like alot going for himself and in todays market it would make sense for her to see what he had to say that is all. But at 23 she is looking for more excitement and wants it all, a doctor that goes to strip clubs, tupac in a suit, etc. Her reality is she is a nba dancer and probably been exposed to alot so she has high demands, which is understandable. Many just were watching and seen the actions of her cut that short but gave the trapper 2 trucker with painted beard and ak47 shaped dreadlocks more interest. We can try to justify but actions speak louder and it spoke volumesWell then something about his personality might have made her clit wanna run and hide. It happens. God knows I’ve been there. When I was dating I met some dudes who were fine fine and as soon as they opened their mouth, it was like nails on a chalkboard. Or they just seemed strange. Gave off weirdo vibes. Ruined the whole vibe. Meh. Such is life.
Correct but it depends. I'm in no way attracted to big girls but I can't say that there's no way I won't fukk a big un.Fukk sure. Marry nope. Not unless they cheating.
Dudes are confused because they want a simple equation to attraction. They also confused because their entitlements don’t match reality. The double standards they set don’t play out.
They caught up in these rigid mindsets.
I’m a good provider. Im smart. I have money.
All of that is good to have and a smart woman will vet for those qualities…but they don’t create attraction.
The ability to vibe comfortably with somebody. To make somebody wanna spend time in a room with you without wanting to bang their head against the wall because you awkward as hell.
There’s no algorithm for attraction. You just gotta be your best self and vibe with your tribe. There’s plenty of chicks similar to him personality wise that he’d vibe easily with.
So there’s no reason for her to have to justify her lack of attraction to him.