Woman explains why she rejected Nuclear Physicist

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Firstly- you are doing something amazing. Truly. Bless you for giving back.

Secondly- this kind of illustrates my point. I said myself that I was overlooked until I hit the college scene and then everyone wanted to make sure I didn’t “date out” lol

The kids you’re describing come from money and good backgrounds, but they aren’t necessarily the Bronnies.

Bronnie is the rich, popular, handsome kid who happens to be Black- he has his pick of all the girls ( who doesn’t want to date LeBron’s son?!).

Imagine Blue Ivy when she hits high school and starts dating. She’ll be the rich, popular, pretty girl who happens to be Black- she will have her pick of all the boys (who won’t want to date JayZ/Bey’s daughter?!).
If she steps out with a white boy it will be because that’s what she wants!

The kids you’re describing who get overlooked are not the Bronnies, Sashas, Malias, or Blue Ivys.

They are the average Black kids who would’ve learned how to get in where they fit in, if they were allowed to grow and flourish in Black environments.

The Bronnies and the Sashas get to PICK whatever partner/race they want because they have the looks + social capital that is necessary in shallow environments like high school.

The Bronnies don’t get ignored. They can pick the popular White girls OR Black girls because they have the social capital to do so. Whether it’s height, looks, popularity, etc they have the cache to make that move within dominant society.

The kids you’re describing aren’t Bronnies. That’s the key difference.


Thx. Dr. Johnson deemed the topic bronnie cause no one is heaping praise on young brehs unless he's running, kicking or dribbling a ball. That's was his point.


I gotta call Bs. Having been short at one point my life my Pops was on some afro centric ish and put me into one of those warrior class separatist schools. It was what Jermain shoemake is trying to pull off but he won't. I honestly lasted 6 months.

Yet I also cause trouble cause I didn't care about the teacher being from africa and being well off enough to get a visa to come to the states.

I told him point blank I didn't give a damn cause what he spoke on in class. His topics wasn't gonna get me into Morehouse , Cornell or Michigan. I also said if he had static for the states why not go back home?

I got picked on I had a bright future and many others had something else. Pops kept us in martial arts and I did jonez, snap with the students.

So this you putting someone like a shorter bronnie in a black neighborhood and school yet he thrives is bull. My cuz and his sisters wouldn't fit in into a typical city school.

My cuz already said don't be mad if I bring a latina or asian chick home. He told my aunt it's hard enough doing calc he ain't jumping through hoops for some first generation college chick who has the same thing between her legs and a chick his age with more money and better family pedigree. He's frank like that.
 

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Well he’s young, I’m sure he doesn’t.

6 years as an officer doing Nuke shyt is still more than 99% of the planet will be doing.

Like I said, them nikkas are weird though but just because he’s military doesn’t mean shyt. You literally have to score mid-90’s for nuke positions and I’m sure a lot of those cats do go to/through serious schooling…. And for free
Yep. Even the enlisted nukes crip walk into a six-figure job after the navy.
 

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She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?

Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
 

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She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?

Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
She actually said he was initially cute and she found him attractive tho :yeshrug:
 

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She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?

Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
the media and women lie about what they find attractive so many dudes be confused.

also at the bold, most dudes would still fukk given the chance :russ: men fukk women they don't like all the time lol
 

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She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?

Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
Everyone is like this. She could've said he seems like he don't like Black women if she wanted to play the PR game.

Attraction isn't a choice but women do cap like non media accomplishments mean anything to young women. That matters to old brehettes but not to young ones.

The äverage at best" lady is going on another dating show assuming that her pet shop business is gonna take away from her face.

It really is a #bothsides issue.
 

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the media and women lie about what they find attractive so many dudes be confused.

also at the bold, most dudes would still fukk given the chance :russ: men fukk women they don't like all the time lol
If the media told Men the truth about what women think the economy would be two thirds smaller than it is now.

Media caps about women because women cap. Women really don't know what they want. In a lot of ways they are like Men they have ther prefences but they'll take what they can get.
 

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She actually said he was initially cute and she found him attractive tho :yeshrug:
Well then something about his personality might have made her clit wanna run and hide. It happens. God knows I’ve been there. When I was dating I met some dudes who were fine fine and as soon as they opened their mouth, it was like nails on a chalkboard. Or they just seemed strange. Gave off weirdo vibes. Ruined the whole vibe. Meh. Such is life.
 

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Everyone is like this. She could've said he seems like he don't like Black women if she wanted to play the PR game.

Attraction isn't a choice but women do cap like non media accomplishments mean anything to young women. That matters to old brehettes but not to young ones.

The äverage at best" lady is going on another dating show assuming that her pet shop business is gonna take away from her face.

It really is a #bothsides issue.
Yep. And Sometimes other stuff is a nice bonus, but there has to be some attraction there. Attraction is so complicated and that’s what can be frustrating. The women aren’t capping. Those accomplishments are cool, but they can’t carry the entirety of somebody’s attraction to another person.
My husband makes a good amount of money. But if he didn’t match my personality, I still wouldn’t have married him. I’ve dated men who made more than him that me no want because we ain’t vibe.
You never know how things are gonna work out.
 

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the media and women lie about what they find attractive so many dudes be confused.

also at the bold, most dudes would still fukk given the chance :russ: men fukk women they don't like all the time lol
Fukk sure. Marry nope. Not unless they cheating.

Dudes are confused because they want a simple equation to attraction. They also confused because their entitlements don’t match reality. The double standards they set don’t play out.
They caught up in these rigid mindsets.

I’m a good provider. Im smart. I have money.

All of that is good to have and a smart woman will vet for those qualities…but they don’t create attraction.
The ability to vibe comfortably with somebody. To make somebody wanna spend time in a room with you without wanting to bang their head against the wall because you awkward as hell.

There’s no algorithm for attraction. You just gotta be your best self and vibe with your tribe. There’s plenty of chicks similar to him personality wise that he’d vibe easily with.

So there’s no reason for her to have to justify her lack of attraction to him.
 

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Yep. And Sometimes other stuff is a nice bonus, but there has to be some attraction there. Attraction is so complicated and that’s what can be frustrating. The women aren’t capping. Those accomplishments are cool, but they can’t carry the entirety of somebody’s attraction to another person.
My husband makes a good amount of money. But if he didn’t match my personality, I still wouldn’t have married him. I’ve dated men who made more than him that me no want because we ain’t vibe.
You never know how things are gonna work out.
You're correct but the one thing I wish someone could tell young brehettes is that the longer you wait to get married the bigger the chances are that you're gonna end up fukking dudes that you don't respect.

What I mean is because of the genetic imparative Lizzo knows that she can get a Man at least to pipe her out because it's hard for a Man to turn down easy trout unless he's flooded by options.

Women have tons of options but they start to fall by the wayside as they age. I noticed that women are kinda like Men chicks really like to have sex. The issue is that young women are bombarded with dudes offering dikk so they have to be picky.

But once she gets 40 and flabby it's not just that women hit the wall it's that a lot of Men have settled down and Testosterone levels drop so Men become less pressed and less likely to simp. Women love free attention and gifts and gestures once a woman passes a threshold that's different for every women or what manosphere dudes call "The Wall" Chick's have to fukk dudes that they wouldn't have in their younger days because that's all that's left.

I also think that this whole 304 culture is just justification for women who really like to have a lot of sex.
 

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Well then something about his personality might have made her clit wanna run and hide. It happens. God knows I’ve been there. When I was dating I met some dudes who were fine fine and as soon as they opened their mouth, it was like nails on a chalkboard. Or they just seemed strange. Gave off weirdo vibes. Ruined the whole vibe. Meh. Such is life.
Absolutely. Completely agree. I think the biggest thing is she jumped in the middle of a conversation that is happening online with regards to dating dynamics and she represented an avatar and people saw it play out in real time. She also said she got more push back/vitriol from women. People can see a young pretty girl and a dude with what seems like alot going for himself and in todays market it would make sense for her to see what he had to say that is all. But at 23 she is looking for more excitement and wants it all, a doctor that goes to strip clubs, tupac in a suit, etc. Her reality is she is a nba dancer and probably been exposed to alot so she has high demands, which is understandable. Many just were watching and seen the actions of her cut that short but gave the trapper 2 trucker with painted beard and ak47 shaped dreadlocks more interest. We can try to justify but actions speak louder and it spoke volumes

People more looked at it on a macro level and tried to push the community issues on to her but on a micro level its her life and she should live how she wants but when en mass people are dating based on superficial things, swag, personality, you cant complain at results where people give you what you want and run game on you with that same gift of gab or silver tongue.
 

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Fukk sure. Marry nope. Not unless they cheating.

Dudes are confused because they want a simple equation to attraction. They also confused because their entitlements don’t match reality. The double standards they set don’t play out.
They caught up in these rigid mindsets.

I’m a good provider. Im smart. I have money.

All of that is good to have and a smart woman will vet for those qualities…but they don’t create attraction.
The ability to vibe comfortably with somebody. To make somebody wanna spend time in a room with you without wanting to bang their head against the wall because you awkward as hell.

There’s no algorithm for attraction. You just gotta be your best self and vibe with your tribe. There’s plenty of chicks similar to him personality wise that he’d vibe easily with.

So there’s no reason for her to have to justify her lack of attraction to him.
Correct but it depends. I'm in no way attracted to big girls but I can't say that there's no way I won't fukk a big un.

It's just that the world's would have to align correctly for that to happen and even then it might just be a dikk suck.


That's how it is for #uglygang Can you stand on your wallet? Maybe If the world's align .

That's all a Coli Incel needs to hear, That there's a chance. You can win the lottery too but it's hella unlikely and you will go broke in 5 years.
 
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