Woman explains why she rejected Nuclear Physicist

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Absolutely. Completely agree. I think the biggest thing is she jumped in the middle of a conversation that is happening online with regards to dating dynamics and she represented an avatar and people saw it play out in real time. She also said she got more push back/vitriol from women. People can see a young pretty girl and a dude with what seems like alot going for himself and in todays market it would make sense for her to see what he had to say that is all. But at 23 she is looking for more excitement and wants it all, a doctor that goes to strip clubs, tupac in a suit, etc. Her reality is she is a nba dancer and probably been exposed to alot so she has high demands, which is understandable. Many just were watching and seen the actions of her cut that short but gave the trapper 2 trucker with painted beard and ak47 shaped dreadlocks more interest.

People more looked at it on a macro level and tried to push the community issues on to her but on a micro level its her life and she should live how she wants but when en mass people are dating based on superficial things, swag, personality, you cant complain at results where people give you what you want and run game on you with that same gift of gab or silver tongue.
Yeah sometimes even when all the ducks are aligned, you just don’t vibe. There are dudes I WISHED I could have been attracted to. Lol
But it just wasn’t there. There are people who look good on paper but there’s always somebody who’ll not be phased. Hell Drake has gotten curved before. Beyoncé got cheated on. I know some fine men and some pretty chicks that couldn’t seal the deal. It happens.
 

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Yeah sometimes even when all the ducks are aligned, you just don’t vibe. There are dudes I WISHED I could have been attracted to. Lol
But it just wasn’t there. There are people who look good on paper but there’s always somebody who’ll not be phased. Hell Drake has gotten curved before. Beyoncé got cheated on. I know some fine men and some pretty chicks that couldn’t seal the deal. It happens.
These might be 2 different things tho.. being curved upfront is different than being in a committed relationship and someone cheats but still with you. Mind you I dont believe most people are monogamous by how its defined. I think most humans are more into serial monogamy and the social contract of marriage clouds that issue.
 

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Thx. Dr. Johnson deemed the topic bronnie cause no one is heaping praise on young brehs unless he's running, kicking or dribbling a ball. That's was his point.


I gotta call Bs. Having been short at one point my life my Pops was on some afro centric ish and put me into one of those warrior class separatist schools. It was what Jermain shoemake is trying to pull off but he won't. I honestly lasted 6 months.

Yet I also cause trouble cause I didn't care about the teacher being from africa and being well off enough to get a visa to come to the states.

I told him point blank I didn't give a damn cause what he spoke on in class. His topics wasn't gonna get me into Morehouse , Cornell or Michigan. I also said if he had static for the states why not go back home?

I got picked on I had a bright future and many others had something else. Pops kept us in martial arts and I did jonez, snap with the students.

So this you putting someone like a shorter bronnie in a black neighborhood and school yet he thrives is bull. My cuz and his sisters wouldn't fit in into a typical city school.

My cuz already said don't be mad if I bring a latina or asian chick home. He told my aunt it's hard enough doing calc he ain't jumping through hoops for some first generation college chick who has the same thing between her legs and a chick his age with more money and better family pedigree. He's frank like that.
And you’re telling me all the Black girls who come from the same pedigree are overlooking him? 😳
 

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She doesn’t have to justify anything. Just like some bm loudly proclaimed that degrees don’t make you attractive, this was the case for her as well.
If you not attracted to somebody, you not attracted to them. Point blank period. They could be a rocket scientist or a carpenter.
I don’t know why some dudes seem to understand how attraction works for themselves, but get straight dumb dumb when it comes to attraction for women. They feel entitled to attraction from women based off the merits of their actions, but wouldn’t give that same consideration to women themselves.
Because trust me, a chick could be as nice, sweet, smart, charming as the dikkens…but if she can’t get you hard…da Fukk you gon do with that?

Well guess what? It’s the same for her.
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Fukk sure. Marry nope. Not unless they cheating.

Dudes are confused because they want a simple equation to attraction. They also confused because their entitlements don’t match reality. The double standards they set don’t play out.
They caught up in these rigid mindsets.

I’m a good provider. Im smart. I have money.

All of that is good to have and a smart woman will vet for those qualities…but they don’t create attraction.
The ability to vibe comfortably with somebody. To make somebody wanna spend time in a room with you without wanting to bang their head against the wall because you awkward as hell.

There’s no algorithm for attraction. You just gotta be your best self and vibe with your tribe. There’s plenty of chicks similar to him personality wise that he’d vibe easily with.

So there’s no reason for her to have to justify her lack of attraction to him.
men are pretty easy to figure out when it comes to attraction. women got it easy.

women are complex. women lie about what they really want. the media lies. men lie. no fathers or father figures to teach otherwise. only recently have women become more open about what they really are attracted to and want so it's easy to understand why people have confusion
 

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You're correct but the one thing I wish someone could tell young brehettes is that the longer you wait to get married the bigger the chances are that you're gonna end up fukking dudes that you don't respect.

What I mean is because of the genetic imparative Lizzo knows that she can get a Man at least to pipe her out because it's hard for a Man to turn down easy trout unless he's flooded by options.

Women have tons of options but they start to fall by the wayside as they age. I noticed that women are kinda like Men chicks really like to have sex. The issue is that young women are bombarded with dudes offering dikk so they have to be picky.

But once she gets 40 and flabby it's not just that women hit the wall it's that a lot of Men have settled down and Testosterone levels drop so Men become less pressed and less likely to simp. Women love free attention and gifts and gestures once a woman passes a threshold that's different for every women or what manosphere dudes call "The Wall" Chick's have to fukk dudes that they wouldn't have in their younger days because that's all that's left.

I also think that this whole 304 culture is just justification for women who really like to have a lot of sex.
I don’t think women are just procrastinating when it comes to love. The problem is that life is happening. And there’s so much more to life than relationships. And you can’t advise women to prioritize relationships in their youth because that’s an unstable investment with some really risky returns. Have you seen how crazy a lot of men are these days? As mentally broken as many men are, plenty of women do shyt the “right way” and still be divorced and tired by their 30s.

Just like a lot of men feel women are unmarriable, a lotta chicks feel men aren’t worth investing time in. That’s where this BOE mentality comes from. They might get their dikk from whoever makes em cum, but in the meantime, many are trying to invest in themselves b/c they can’t risk investing emotional, financial, mental, physical energy into a relationship and potentially deal with getting their asses beaten, getting cheated on, not getting an orgasm, or dealing with somebody who might make their lives worse than they were single.

I think men are going through a similar quandary where they feel the juice isn’t worth the squeeze for women too.

Telling people to start young isn’t necessarily the best solution because too many don’t have their heads on straight in their youth. A lotta dudes still living at home with parents and some dudes are resistant to establishing careers. Some are addicted to porn and unable to love or pair bond. All the same things a lot of men complain about in women, are things many women are recoiling from in men, especially in their youth. And in our race, it takes a minute to reach a point where you feel okay b/c we go through so much shyt. So that’s why a lotta women are just saying fukk it and trying to establish themselves before they worry about marriage and kids.
 
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