Woman says it didn't last with nice guy because he wouldn't put her in her place

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Females are pretty much ubiquitous. That being the case, there is no reason to take bullshyt off of any female you are attracted to.

Before I found the right one for me, I had to go through loads of females, crossing them out because of their poor attitudes and unwillingness to actually take responsibility for their actions. After awhile, I was able to spot the problems in the first interaction with most females, and so I could drastically decrease my time wasted messing with a female that was unsuitable.

The problem I think a lot of times is that brothers are allowing Lust to override common sense. So the red-flags are ignored and eventually they find themselves asking why are they with this woman (after the Lust has long subsided). After I noticed the physical attributes that I found attractive on a woman, I would then focused intently on her mindset and the things she said and did. Doing that kept me out of a lot of BS situations.

There are good women out there that do not require their man to be a surrogate father figure. It just takes a bit of effort to sift through the chaff to find the wheat. The key again is to not allow your Lust for her to turn off your brain, and pay attention to whom she really is. Well that is if you are seeking an actual relationship that lasts. If all you want is casual sex, suit up your soldier and have at it.
 

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Early on in relationships, boundaries need to be set. I don’t do arguing and I don’t suffer fools.

I’ll just say this. Some women are used to dudes putting up with whatever they dish out. There’s nothing that says a man has to stick around for a roller coaster ride. My method may be extreme, but trust me, it works.
I know the method works.

No one is saying to deal with a wild boar of a woman. lol I’m saying in a healthy relationship you don’t just go silent. The only ppl who respond to that are those who come from households/families who gaslight and ignore what is happening around them. Trust me, I KNOW.

It’s one thing to take a moment to fall back and cool off, but another to just shut someone out because you don’t like something they said/did without addressing it. If she does something rude and you address it and she acts dumb about it then yea, after that you can go silent so she gets the message that you aren’t going back and forth.
 

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Because street people usually argue and cut up openly in front of the world. They have no clue on how to peacefully put their foot down and set things in order.

But in relation to what we’re talking about when a woman is saying ‘He is too nice’ doesn’t mean they want a street nikka, a normal man with 9-5 is perfectly capable of putting a woman in her place.
 

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Who are these people? Why entertain some chicks delusions? Like, some of y’all dudes get so emotionally invested in these gender wars it kinda scary :picard:

Yeah, some women are like this. If you’re leading with your wallet for a top tier ho, an ATM is what you’re gonna be first and foremost. That’s why she ain’t cuffed up just like all these other hoes that swear they’re happy when they’re alone at 45.

I mean, once a woman is at that level and married to the idea of fame and riches, rather than any sense of genuine love, there really ain’t nothing you can do. Women like that should automatically be bushed or just paid for a fun time.

I just live in this world I didn’t make it :pachaha:
 

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But in relation to what we’re talking about when a woman is saying ‘He is too nice’ doesn’t mean they want a street nikka, a normal man with 9-5 is perfectly capable of putting a woman in her place.

True. But who wants to deal with a woman who requests to be put in her place? Why doesn't she already have some type of idea what her place is?
 

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I know the method works.

No one is saying to deal with a wild boar of a woman. lol I’m saying in a healthy relationship you don’t just go silent. The only ppl who respond to that are those who come from households/families who gaslight and ignore what is happening around them. Trust me, I KNOW.

It’s one thing to take a moment to fall back and cool off, but another to just shut someone out because you don’t like something they said/did without addressing it. If she does something rude and you address it and she acts dumb about it then yea, after that you can go silent so she gets the message that you aren’t going back and forth.
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Been married 2 years now and my default has always been passive and going silent when things are haywire
I’m just now learning to do the opposite of that by the grace of God
As a man the burden is on me to be responsible for my family including my wife. Is she a grown woman? Yes.
Is she more talented and knowledgeable than me in a lot of ways? Yes
But at the end of the day all that aside, it’s on me to make sure things don’t go haywire
 
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Been married 2 years now and my default has always been passive and going silent when things are haywire
I’m just now learning to do the opposite of that by the grace of God
As a man the burden is on me to be responsible for my family including my wife. Is she a brown woman? Yes.
Is she more talented and knowledgeable than me in a lot of ways? Yes
But at the end of the day all that aside, it’s on me to make sure things don’t go haywire

Going silent won't last long breh.. Eventually even small things will make you explode because its a result of being passive for a long time.. Im definitely not saying you should sweat everything she does you don't like, because im sure you do things she doesn't like.. Just be sure you being passive doesn't result in a pile up of issues that's explode in a few years.
 

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Females are pretty much ubiquitous. That being the case, there is no reason to take bullshyt off of any female you are attracted to.

Before I found the right one for me, I had to go through loads of females, crossing them out because of their poor attitudes and unwillingness to actually take responsibility for their actions. After awhile, I was able to spot the problems in the first interaction with most females, and so I could drastically decrease my time wasted messing with a female that was unsuitable.

The problem I think a lot of times is that brothers are allowing Lust to override common sense. So the red-flags are ignored and eventually they find themselves asking why are they with this woman (after the Lust has long subsided). After I noticed the physical attributes that I found attractive on a woman, I would then focused intently on her mindset and the things she said and did. Doing that kept me out of a lot of BS situations.

There are good women out there that do not require their man to be a surrogate father figure. It just takes a bit of effort to sift through the chaff to find the wheat. The key again is to not allow your Lust for her to turn off your brain, and pay attention to whom she really is. Well that is if you are seeking an actual relationship that lasts. If all you want is casual sex, suit up your soldier and have at it.
Thanks for your wisdom

Went through this experience throughout my 20's. Used to be extra thirsty with lust, Attracted many "dimes" cause of my looks. Immediately got "turnt-off" when I realized their character and attitude wasn't so attractive. Looks can take a woman so far until the man realizes he's been scammed mentally.
 

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True. But who wants to deal with a woman who requests to be put in her place? Why doesn't she already have some type of idea what her place is?

I worded it wrong, what I mean is someone that’s going to correct his woman, teach his woman new things and generally lead in the relationship, that’s the role of a man naturally, and no amount of new age ism will change this. In any relationship long lasting enough there’s going to be a time you need to put your foot down or prove yourself as a man, we are humans part of a greater design and a lot of the concepts that are prevalent in the animal kingdom apply to us also,

I don’t critique women for acting in their nature, I just understand it.
 

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I worded it wrong, what I mean is someone that’s going to correct his woman, teach his woman new things and generally lead in the relationship, that’s the role of a man naturally, and no amount of new age ism will change this. In any relationship long lasting enough there’s going to be a time you need to put your foot down or prove yourself as a man, we are humans part of a greater design and a lot of the concepts that are prevalent in the animal kingdom apply to us also,

I don’t critique women for acting in their nature, I just understand it.


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Ive been married long enough to know if there is nothing wrong in a relationship, a woman will find something wrong..

As a man, im leading by example. Im in my children's life.. Im involved within my community. I take care of my home. In the midst of my doing my part, I believe a woman need to know her place.. If she doesn't know her place when as a man im doing my part, then we need to part ways.

Thats why this entire thread is trivial TO ME, because when this woman says she needs a man to put her in her place, after I've done what I'm supposed to do.. Her place is on the front porch with her bags to me.. The end.
 

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These women have a type

Then when shyt goes south they speak magical language like that mowry chick

These women need to stay on their side, don’t come to the square stability side. Be consistent with what you like
 
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