Women and their emotions...

[opulence]

I don't have a "spot"...I mean they say everyone has it but I damn sure don't know where it's at. Consistent stimulation of my clitoris has always given me an orgasm but I have never cum from penetration alone. That's why I said with oral or fingering, I can "tell" the guy how to make me cum but with penetration, I have no idea.

I do know that the guy that can make me orgasm from penetration will be very special to me. Whatever that will mean if that will ever happen. I'm more doubtful than hopeful at this point.

lol I wish I could show you how to find it...but you should stick your finger in yourself and move it around while its inserted deeply where you can feel a little pressure...and flick your finger up and down...you will feel it...and the spot you feel that makes you orgasm...have a man keep hitting that...

 

[Turbulent]

lol @ the suicide rate going up...

but no one said anything about loving anyone...but I would imagine most women would want their feelings reciprocated....

i feel you. that's why i said "not even necessarily love but a certain level of affection".

the way a lot of men feel is this. We do A LOT to get what we want. girls will make us jump through hoops to have sex with us f they can get away with it. It's the same way with those feelings women feel that aren't necessarily mutual. And the longer a girl makes a guy wait and teases and play with him, the more resentment he builds up and he makes her pay afterwards if he doesn't feel the same feelings she feels. and it's not even conscious all the time.

like i said, in order to sleep with us, women have to like us. Another way of saying this is, in order to sleep with women, guys have to be likable. So we learn to be likable. Once you like me, you also want me to magically like you because if not you feel rejected. The problem is, to be likable you have to be willing to look at things from the other persons' perspective. And a lot of women simply don't have that skill. they don't know how to be likable/lovable because they never had to learn since attention rains on them on a daily basis. so they get sloppy on that front (not all girls but still too many girls). and when they want those feelings to be mutual and have no skills on how to do it, they rely on the puss (where a lot of their confidence comes from). But the deal fails because it was suppose to be my charm for your p*ssy. I already filled my end of the bargin. If she wants to be liked by him on the same level, she now has to find a way to be likable in his eyes and she already gave up the weapon she was most confident about. EDIT: She now has to broker a new deal:her charm and likability (which she never developed that much) for my affection/love... That's why she ends up hurt.

the difference between most men and most women is that men strategize on how to get what they want. Most men want p*ssy first and then want love if she's lovable. So they become likable to get puss from different women and then pick the one who's the most lovable to build with.

Women is the opposite. Sex is the easy part for them but they want it to be with a guy they like. The difference is that a lot of them just don't think ahead. They just let guys attempt to charm them. then they start liking one in particular so they sex him. they start liking him even more but never planned for how to get him to like you beyond sex. Their only strategy to get the guy to like them back is p*ssy+hope. And the ones who keep thinking like that end up losing in the long run...



sorry for the long winded post plus it's mostly what i've already said but i felt like elaborating a little bit.

 

[Rawtid]

I am surprised it took you that long to figure it out.

Not refering to oppulence, but there are a lot of females that simply "relationship hop". Sex with someone they've considered themselves being in a relationship with was never casual. I think those type of females don't get the concept of casual dating or attempting to have sex without feelings until they stop putting labels on the interaction they have with guys. I still know a rack of females who consider themselves in a legit ass relationship at least every few months.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

and what man is this?

**Raises hand**

Can't do it. If I have no feelings for the woman I'm sleeping with, then the sex is meaningless, unfulfilling and feels selfish.​

 

[Liquid]

Tell us why you're asking? LOL

edit: No, seriously do you see something wrong with that she is saying? Usually when someone asks that, they think the OP is young or inexperienced. I'd be interested in knowing your thoughts.

In these kind of threads I always like to know the age. Age number is definitely not the only factor in this, but women in general tend to have more sexual partners than men do in their earlier years. The average tends to balance itself out after 30.

So when a woman comes out with this sort of revelation its something that always pops into my head. I record numbers all the time in real life...obviously I won't record Opulence's because I don't know her like that.

27 is actually not a bad number, she just always seemed a bit more open with her sexuality. Appeared to be a little more open in terms of sharing her experiences thus giving the impression that the numbers were higher. By numbers I mean chances of her figuring out how she felt after an encounter or a guy dogging her out and crushing her. A mistake on my end.

 

[Liquid]

lol I wish I could show you how to find it...but you should stick your finger in yourself and move it around while its inserted deeply where you can feel a little pressure...and flick your finger up and down...you will feel it...and the spot you feel that makes you orgasm...have a man keep hitting that...

This is what I mean...

 

[Rawtid]

In these kind of threads I always like to know the age. Age number is definitely not the only factor in this, but women in general tend to have more sexual partners than men do in their earlier years. The average tends to balance itself out after 30.

So when a woman comes out with this sort of revelation its something that always pops into my head. I record numbers all the time in real life...obviously I won't record Opulence's because I don't know her like that.

27 is actually not a bad number, she just always seemed a bit more open with her sexuality. Appeared to be a little more open in terms of sharing her experiences thus giving the impression that the numbers were higher. By numbers I mean chances of her figuring out how she felt after an encounter or a guy dogging her out and crushing her. A mistake on my end.

I totally understand what you're saying but it's totally possible to get a lot of sexual experience in one and/or few relationships. I don't always assume that a woman with a lot of experience was sleeping around.

 

[ClassyME]

It happens to many chicks. I also know some girls who can have sex n not feel any attachments. You just gotta watch who you're fukkin... Reevaluate them as friends and individuals before you do the nasty. This explains why i don't bother with sex

 

[opulence]

In these kind of threads I always like to know the age. Age number is definitely not the only factor in this, but women in general tend to have more sexual partners than men do in their earlier years. The average tends to balance itself out after 30.

So when a woman comes out with this sort of revelation its something that always pops into my head. I record numbers all the time in real life...obviously I won't record Opulence's because I don't know her like that.

27 is actually not a bad number, she just always seemed a bit more open with her sexuality. Appeared to be a little more open in terms of sharing her experiences thus giving the impression that the numbers were higher. By numbers I mean chances of her figuring out how she felt after an encounter or a guy dogging her out and crushing her. A mistake on my end.

Yes love I am pretty outspoken about my sexual experiences...but I was with my ex practically my entire adult life...so no I have not racked up my numbers...plus with the way my emotions are attached to my vagina I do not think that would be a good idea...

 

[Black Magisterialness]

**Raises hand**

Can't do it. If I have no feelings for the woman I'm sleeping with, then the sex is meaningless, unfulfilling and feels selfish.​

i used to feel like that, until i decided to try this "no feelings" thing out. Its "meh"

i prefer a chick i care about...it amplifies the sex but if a chick is just down and she cute...then so am i.

 

[opulence]

It happens to many chicks. I also know some girls who can have sex n not feel any attachments. You just gotta watch who you're fukkin... Reevaluate them as friends and individuals before you do the nasty. This explains why i don't bother with sex

you are celibate?

I assumed when most people were randomly fukcing they did not really get to know that person well...

if you are fukcing a friend...how could you not develop feelings for a friend?

 

[ClassyME]

you are celibate?

I assumed when most people were randomly fukcing they did not really get to know that person well...

if you are fukcing a friend...how could you not develop feelings for a friend?

ma'am. If you're fukking a friend then you both are in a shytty situation. Its awkward for both of you, someone will eventually catch feelings while the other one is just sittin there like

 

[opulence]

i feel you. that's why i said "not even necessarily love but a certain level of affection".

the way a lot of men feel is this. We do A LOT to get what we want. girls will make us jump through hoops to have sex with us f they can get away with it. It's the same way with those feelings women feel that aren't necessarily mutual. And the longer a girl makes a guy wait and teases and play with him, the more resentment he builds up and he makes her pay afterwards if he doesn't feel the same feelings she feels. and it's not even conscious all the time.

like i said, in order to sleep with us, women have to like us. Another way of saying this is, in order to sleep with women, guys have to be likable. So we learn to be likable. Once you like me, you also want me to magically like you because if not you feel rejected. The problem is, to be likable you have to be willing to look at things from the other persons' perspective. And a lot of women simply don't have that skill. they don't know how to be likable/lovable because they never had to learn since attention rains on them on a daily basis. so they get sloppy on that front (not all girls but still too many girls). and when they want those feelings to be mutual and have no skills on how to do it, they rely on the puss (where a lot of their confidence comes from). But the deal fails because it was suppose to be my charm for your p*ssy. I already filled my end of the bargin. If she wants to be liked by him on the same level, she now has to find a way to be likable in his eyes and she already gave up the weapon she was most confident about. EDIT: She now has to broker a new deal:her charm and likability (which she never developed that much) for my affection/love... That's why she ends up hurt.

the difference between most men and most women is that men strategize on how to get what they want. Most men want p*ssy first and then want love if she's lovable. So they become likable to get puss from different women and then pick the one who's the most lovable to build with.

Women is the opposite. Sex is the easy part for them but they want it to be with a guy they like. The difference is that a lot of them just don't think ahead. They just let guys attempt to charm them. then they start liking one in particular so they sex him. they start liking him even more but never planned for how to get him to like you beyond sex. Their only strategy to get the guy to like them back is p*ssy+hope. And the ones who keep thinking like that end up losing in the long run...



sorry for the long winded post plus it's mostly what i've already said but i felt like elaborating a little bit.

hmmm makes sense I never really thought about it this way...

I guess my biggest fear would be if I had sex with someone casually and I really liked him...and he would only try to call me only to hook up...men complain about being in the friend zone...but women do not want to be in the pusse zone...

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

@ClassyME

when we meeting up

 

[muse]

EYE can have casual sex with no feelings involved although i am one of the few. i could go into the many things in my past that led me to detach my emotions from things but i'll just go with the basics.

many people experience bad things in their life and they dont change. they stay the same, they get bitter about that experience and dont attempt to learn from it. your boyfriend cheated on you and you continued to stay with him. so instead of going into your next relationship with no baggage you express that you dont want your next man to cheat. but even if he does, there are no consequences, for him or you. you have to really experience pain and loneliness and be ok with that and you'll see how to keep emotions out of certain situations

while other people experience things and they learn from and use it to change. your boyfriend cheats on you and you let him go. you think of where things went wrong "i showed my feelings, i gave too much of myself. blah blah blah" so in the next relationship you're more emotionless. you're not as vulnerable.

but even then people take that too far and dont open up at all and the person feels shut out and end up leaving. you really have to know yourself and how to play. its not manipulation


many people grow up in a house where they "felt" emotionally deprived, so they take that baggage into their adult relationship and want an emotional connection all that time cuz they didnt have that when they were young. you have a parent that wants you to succeed all the time but when you finally achieve something great you dont get that hug or pat on the back or smile or "good job"

i really think it has to do with the praise you're given and when/how.

its really hard to explain but its little things that happen in a person's life and they either learn from it and change or they let it affect them


i will say however op, that it is odd that a person who is so sexual and has no problem showing her puss would have trouble separating emotions in sex, but at the same time it makes sense