....All they have is a WOMAN'S perspective ...they dont HAVE to DEAL with themselves. Ive spent more than 15yrs working on my personality to be as attractive as the most attractive women ...a women who came out the womb that way her value is inate a man has to CONQUER or HUNTER GATHER this world to be seen as a prize ...a woman just have to be . It actually crazy once you sit and think. Men have to have something EXTERNAL about them ...period.
It's emotional or physiological rape same as the friendzone.
Actually, being simply herself is not enough. Since you are on the biological game, which means you are a determinist to some extent, a woman simply existing is no guarantee she will not be abused, discarded, and left with a child - alone. Just possessing a p*ssy and beauty is not enough. Men claim to be simple creatures but they are not, humans generally aren't but if that gives people succour, whatever. A woman's primal fear is being used and discarded, this informs the way she loves, and sometimes not even that is enough for the mate she chooses, regardless of his status.
As for the friendzone, let me break that down.
I see certain men complain about this incessantly.
The man who typically complains about being friendzone is the man who often describes himself as "nice". This is his selling point. He believes that because he is "nice" he is entitled to sex and romance, regardless of what the person he is attracted to thinks. A self assured confidant man does not believe in entitlement, he simply is. Either the world takes him as he is, or not. He is assured in his self, his integrity and makes his moves in life that way. Women find this attractive.
A "nice guy" with nice guy entitlement however is a whole other story. This type of man is passive aggressive, has no sense of boundaries which means he allows people to walk over him because he thinks this will get him sex, he is inherently manipulative and when he has no success landing that chick he lashes out at all women, never taking accountability for his actions or behaviour. The problem is "them" not me. This type of thinking in ANYBODY whether male or female, is HIGHLY unattractive and repulsive.
As for conditional love - there are no fast and hard rules for this, but both men and women love depending on what they're prepared to put up with and what they're getting out of the relationship.
That's all there is to it.