The issue is that I already said there is no such thing as a nice guy. It’s used as a catch all—either describing a nerdy awkward guy that is perceived to be nice because he’s a nerd that’s smart and doing well financially but that doesn’t necessarily translate to how he is as a partner and then there are the ugly gang guys who call themselves nice because they don’t get women, and then there are the men who for whatever reason believe they are nice men but if you ask women who’ve dated them, depending on the woman he wasn’t a good partner. And then I’m assuming the man who pulls on my heart strings is supposed to be the emotionally unavailable dude that looks good but doesn’t give me attention, the thug/bad boy who has a mouth piece and swag, the pretty boy who is a player and cheater and gets a lot of women so he won’t commit… do I have all those stereotypes right lol?
I’ve dated the pretty boy type(my son’s father) with the caveat that he did commit to me, I’ve dated the attractive but emotionally unavailable smart successful guy when I myself was unavailable and wanted a shallow relationship lol. And I’ve dated Brehs that are in between. I’ve never dated the thug/street guy. I’ve never dated ugly gang. I’ve never dated a nerd. What made me want to date the men I have once I got past the attraction and vetting was how they made me feel. Whether it be lust, intrigue, mentally stimulated, admiration, etc. but all of them were considered “stand up” men by others based on how they lived their life, treated loved ones, etc.
I have friends who’ve dated ugly gang and nerd gang, and there weren’t any major differences in their relationships with these men versus mine. All of them came with some form of bs it was just different kinds.
Now if what your really asking is about would I choose the attractive cheater/player who pulls at my heart strings versus the loyal nerdy man? If both men were equally attractive and I have the same connection to both, I would obviously choose the one who didn’t cheat. But life is hardly ever that black and white when it comes to that particular situation. And water always seeks its own level so in most cases the women is choosing one man over the other based on where she’s at(mentally, emotionally, spiritually). So on a subconscious level, I would most likely choose the one who is at the same point in their journey as I am in mine, if I chose the bad boy then it’s likely for a reason—we both have the same low vibrations.
