Its a fundamental misunderstanding these men have about women. They are judging women from their own perspective. Also they are jealous or resentful of the imagined easy life they think women have. For them it becomes a competition of who has it harder in dating.
Women initially more hurt by breakups, but recover better: study
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I agree with the article because women are socialized to have healthier relationships with their emotions than men are.
Also it's easier because in many cases women are told that we have an expiration date. If that's the case, we don't have time to sit around cryin over a sorry piece of shyt. Cut ur losses and keep it movin.
Also it's easier because in many cases women are told that we have an expiration date. If that's the case, we don't have time to sit around cryin over a sorry piece of shyt. Cut ur losses and keep it movin.
xoxodede
Superstar
I agree. I think they are not looking at the relationship as something emotional ending, but regular consistent sex ending. My ex was really my best friend, we were really close - so I knew when we broke up that everything would change - it needed to change.
shyt, I love sex, but not with a random - so even if I went that route I would be just going to the motions with someone I could care less about (or not enough about...) - what's the point? And for most women, we not jumping in the bed with a new dude (or "friend" or another ex) to get over an ex - especially when hurt.
I don't think it's hard to date for either sexes if you look pretty good and appear to have your ish together. But, don't immediately go into a new relationship or "friendship" with baggage and unresolved issues/feelings just to get some, numb feelings or front like you over it and done.
I really didn't care what the woman in my life at the time would be "O.K with" as far as talking to random females because they didn't know shyt anyway. And if they had ever found out & got so upset that it caused a breakup on their end, even though I wasn't cheating or doing anything nefarious, then so be it because I already had females ready to sign up and take her place!
xoxodede
Superstar
I really didn't care what the woman in my life at the time would be "O.K with" as far as talking to random females because they didn't know shyt anyway. And if they had ever found out & got so upset that it caused a breakup on their end, even though I wasn't cheating or doing anything nefarious, then so be it because I already had females ready to sign up and take her place!
Not cute.
Would you have been cool with her talking to random nikkas on the side - as long as you didn't know?
You must never really cared about that woman, cause you would understand the problem with that statement - and you wouldn't be so quick to risk it or give up on it.
Just saying...
When you in something that's good, most people not keeping people on the sidelines.
philmonroe
Superstar
Honestly this could be switched around too because a lot of men think y'all do the same thing and its true. Its you gender perspective most times that forms what you think goes on regarding this.1st Post on the Coli- but I think men are way better at getting over breakups due to them usually immediately finding another woman (hitting up a ex or "friend") to help them get over it faster. All the men I know (including my ex) was on Match.com, some other dating site or clubbing looking for some new chick to get under while I was at home listening to self-help books and meditating.
Edit That dude you quoted before me is scarred to date because he must not have his stuff together so he needs options. Him or anybody else that needs options are scarred period regarding dating. Probably could take that out further and say life too.
It wouldn't have made any difference if I were "cool" or not with my girlfriend/wife "talking to random nikkas on the side" because based on your scenario, I wouldn't have known anyway. So this is really a moot point. This also goes back to my previous theory (which you probably didn't read) that relationships are basically flawed concepts built on blind trust & faith. Therefore regardless of your own good intentions or actions to maintain the union positively, you don't ever really know what the other person is doing or if they're living up to requirements set within the relationship.
Nonsense. Having a few arbitrary, amicable, friendly, non sexual conversations with women isn't considered or in no way cheating or an affair.
Meh, here today, gone tomorrow. Sometimes even the best of relationships eventually fail. Which is why that divorce & cheating spouses statistics are at a all time high, while traditional marriage & child birth for Americans is at it's lowest. Not to mention the advent widespread technology of being able to meet people via online dating, high STD rates, etc the landscape of traditional dating or relationships for better or worse have changed & so have the rules.
xoxodede
Superstar
Your right. I didn't see (well go through and read) your other post - apologies.
I agree though - you never know what your mate is doing - I know I didn't when I found out about my ex stepping out. It was very much so blind-trust. #neveragain
Right - being in a relationship is hard these days. I am happy I'm at a place where I could care less about a man/dating or being in any type of relationship.
No, actually the real deal is that you've been dropped previously or recently by a female who has duped you by employing the same system of tactics I've mentioned that men should use & now you're having flashbacks because your feelings are hurt You're simply a simp dressed in wolves clothing lashing out, posing like you're trying to give insightful advice to men in reality you are just a scorned loser.
philmonroe
Superstar
Step up your trolling its lacking man. By the time you get this message I will give you exactly what you've been wanting from me my dude.
I think it depends on the person. Some topics are far too general and this is one of them. Welcome to thecoli.1st Post on the Coli
I think this survey is about when women do the breaking up,not when they get broken up with,because it says "When women decide to move on they recover more quickly".
When women decide to move on they spent months moving on in they mind,and probably have already got familiar with what seems like a suitable replacement before they actually pull the trigger
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Men can move on at any given moment
Obviously when you make rash decisions you might regret it.
"Damn,so freedom to get random puzzy aint the only important thing
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But when a man breaks up with a chick and catches her off guard,and both had feelings for each other?Nah this study is innacurate
When women decide to move on they spent months moving on in they mind,and probably have already got familiar with what seems like a suitable replacement before they actually pull the trigger
.Men can move on at any given moment
Obviously when you make rash decisions you might regret it.
"Damn,so freedom to get random puzzy aint the only important thing
"But when a man breaks up with a chick and catches her off guard,and both had feelings for each other?Nah this study is innacurate
gonnagetit
Banned
Its difficult process but something you must come to grips with