Would you be open to dating a bisexual woman?

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

Which makes you wonder why mentally they not making full time commitment to men. Or it's fear or something else.

From what I've gathered, outside of jealous rage domestic abuse and catty shyt (which it tends to eventually end up happening) it's just easier for women to be with women. Especially if both sides know they not really taking each other seriously.

No pregnancy scares, girl dates, the allure of the "male gaze"

A lot of friends who surround them who are anti men.

Yeahhhh. It be a lot of this, but then a girlfriend or a previous lover fukks them up or they come across a super toxic dyke and that shyt goes out the window. They see first hand how fukked up it is tryna date women and they back on the winning team

I be telling dudes that get insecure when they find out the woman they checking is bi that dicc is eternal ()

Unless physically a man does nothing for a brehette (and even then dykes be slipping up), over a milennia of biological makeup isn't going away

There's a reformed bi chick every day

 

[RadaMillz]

I don’t support that lifestyle, so a big no.

 

[Ziggiy]

I’ve done it before and I personally wouldn’t recommend it if you are the mindset that you want a wife and a kids

 

[murksiderock]

@Yinny please give me a female perspective real quick...

How old are you one, that's a preface to my next question!

As a percentage how many black women would you say are bisexual, how many do you think would actually date women?

Ehhh. From my experience bi girls have a tendency to be more promiscuous, less faithful and somewhat confused in general about life. It depends on what kind of bisexual she is. A lot of them don't really see being with a woman long-term, but definitely will use them for a nut or to fill in a space for a period of time. A lot of em have a kind of cognitive dissonance where they don't really count being with a woman as a 'real' relationship. I have a close dyke friend that strictly doesn't date bisexual women because of this

Ask her if she's 'out' to her parents or family. That'll be a huge indicator of how serious she takes the whole bi thing.

Outstanding post...

With my girlfriend:

•she isn't overly promiscuous, but I can see it in her in a past life...

•she's faithful, but like most people, I think that's conditional. I'm a grown man, I understand this. She's cheated before, and I think she'd do it again if she felt something was missing in her relationship--->but I do believe at present she's really, really faithful to me...

•she's definitely confused about life. She hasn't found her purpose yet or even established what she's going for...

•100% on many of them not viewing being a woman as an actual relationship!

This applies to her for sure, at least it did early in our relationship when we had these conversations. I'll say with other bisexual women I've known, most of them also wouldn't date a woman exclusively but enjoy sex with them in the right moment. That "placeholder" thing to fill a gap seems really accurate; @Yinny female perspective, do you find that to be true?

•my girlfriend isn't out to herself, and isn't out to her mother. She's said before that her mom doesn't approve of homo unions, but what I took from that is if her mom did, she'd be more comfortable with it...

But for background, of her mom's five kids, her oldest brother (35) is openly gay and exclusively dates men, though he used to date women until he came into comfortability with himself. Her parents had a hard time accepting him for years....her middle oldest brother (33) is straight....

her youngest oldest brother (29) dates women but she suspects he's downlow, and honestly I wonder if she senses this because she's downlow and uncomfortable with her bisexuality. And I've been around dude, personally, he seems very gay to me but he doesn't identify as that, has only dated women to everyone's knowledge...

She (27) of course is closet bi. And her sister (17) is openly bisexual, though she's been dating a boy for a minute now and is head over heels for little dude; I had lunch with my girl and their mom yesterday and mom was going in on how 17-year old is upside down over this guy lmao...

So of 5 kids, two are openly into the same sex, one (my girl) is definitely into the same sex secretly but not exclusively, and one (#29) is probably into the same sex on the low...

Their upbringing is really interesting and it does make me wonder the influences that family had as they were raised...

 

[KING WILL]

I would, but us working would be more dependent on her other traits, not me being excited about having a 3some here and there.


Everyone is capable of cheating and dating someone thats bisexual just increased those chances by double.

 

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

@Yinny please give me a female perspective real quick...

How old are you one, that's a preface to my next question!

As a percentage how many black women would you say are bisexual, how many do you think would actually date women?



Outstanding post...

With my girlfriend:

•she isn't overly promiscuous, but I can see it in her in a past life...

•she's faithful, but like most people, I think that's conditional. I'm a grown man, I understand this. She's cheated before, and I think she'd do it again if she felt something was missing in her relationship--->but I do believe at present she's really, really faithful to me...

•she's definitely confused about life. She hasn't found her purpose yet or even established what she's going for...

•100% on many of them not viewing being a woman as an actual relationship!

This applies to her for sure, at least it did early in our relationship when we had these conversations. I'll say with other bisexual women I've known, most of them also wouldn't date a woman exclusively but enjoy sex with them in the right moment. That "placeholder" thing to fill a gap seems really accurate; @Yinny female perspective, do you find that to be true?

•my girlfriend isn't out to herself, and isn't out to her mother. She's said before that her mom doesn't approve of homo unions, but what I took from that is if her mom did, she'd be more comfortable with it...

But for background, of her mom's five kids, her oldest brother (35) is openly gay and exclusively dates men, though he used to date women until he came into comfortability with himself. Her parents had a hard time accepting him for years....her middle oldest brother (33) is straight....

her youngest oldest brother (29) dates women but she suspects he's downlow, and honestly I wonder if she senses this because she's downlow and uncomfortable with her bisexuality. And I've been around dude, personally, he seems very gay to me but he doesn't identify as that, has only dated women to everyone's knowledge...

She (27) of course is closet bi. And her sister (17) is openly bisexual, though she's been dating a boy for a minute now and is head over heels for little dude; I had lunch with my girl and their mom yesterday and mom was going in on how 17-year old is upside down over this guy lmao...

So of 5 kids, two are openly into the same sex, one (my girl) is definitely into the same sex secretly but not exclusively, and one (#29) is probably into the same sex on the low...

Their upbringing is really interesting and it does make me wonder the influences that family had as they were raised...

That's pretty interesting. Her siblings dating same sex definitely could have something to do with her own curiosities, but in my opinion, if you look at a lot of media today and the whole 'sex sells' marketing, a lot of it pushes girl on girl stuff. Hell, do a rough scan over music videos in the 90s and 00s and you'll notice that they've been suggesting it more and more to pinnacle of that which I believe is Nicki Minaj (early in her career she professes countless times how she like women)

But mostly I think it's how straight men sexualize girls getting with girls to where it seems like an 'edge' to some women (I think the phrase my friend used is 'play gay') to the point that's it's generally accepted and won't affect them getting with a man in the future whereas another poster pointed out, ask these same women if they'd be willing to date a bisexual man and you'd see Bible-belt redneck levels of homophobia.

There's a lot of studies on the phenomena of Bisexuality in black women that touches on a whole wide range of possible factors

 

[richaveli83]

I wouldn't want to but the chances are high nowadays that a woman has done something sexual with another woman. I had an ex tell me she's gotten her p*ssy eaten by women but she says she's not bisexual because she only received and didn't eat p*ssy.

Another ex-girlfriend revealed to me that she used to fukk her female high school basketball coach when she was a junior in high school.

Had another girl I dated allude to the fact that she did something sexual with another woman. She denies it but I'm pretty sure she did.

 

[Yinny]

I am not bi, perhaps speak to someone who is. Based on what they have shared with me it is confusing and quite over the top, not my thing but I am respectful and courteous in declining and no longer accept them as friends. Some can be predatory.

Also def a diff between how they id prior to losing their v and someone who has activities or was uh coached into it. There is an influence from older people.

As for the men, something similar-many of their women are in denial. I don’t out or shame unless it’s a health risk (sexual).

 

[richaveli83]

I am not bi, perhaps speak to someone who is. Based on what they have shared with me it is confusing and quite over the top, not my thing but I am respectful and courteous in declining and no longer accept them as friends. Some can be predatory.

Also def a diff between how they id prior to losing their v and someone who has activities or was uh coached into it. There is an influence from older people.

As for the men, something similar-many of their women are in denial. I don’t out or shame unless it’s a health risk (sexual).

See I can see why a man would be in denial and in the closet but for women being in denial or in the closet, it makes no sense. Two women kissing, threesomes, etc are celebrated and at times even encouraged. There's no really no stigma for a woman coming out the closet compared to a man.

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

I have a former coworker jumpoff who is bisexual. Pretty much down for whatever and yeah she is a lil bonkers. She is very very nice just kind of slow and bubbleheaded. She was raped as a child and its definitely effected her. Shes down for just about anything and begs to spend time but I just don't have it in me to mess with a clearly hurt little girl looking for affection.

I dated another girl who was bisexual but she turned out to be really shallow and shyt just didnt mesh with us. She just wanted to fukk all the time we were around each other and almost anything else I wanted to do together would annoy her or turn her off. I wanted someone I can chill and watch movies and do good shyt with, as well as sex. She got tired of my ass and so did I. She was also a single mom and a cocaine addict.

Dated another woman more than ten years older than me. She was a proud Christian and would NEVER call herself "bisexual " but good lord she was freak. She was very open to having sex with a woman but only if a man was also involved. She and I did do some freaky shyt. She was very unstable emotionally and had really poor financial skills. She was also the type that is obsessed with entertainment industry pipe dreams. Last I heard of her she "owned a record label" and was managing some guy she was also fukkin uh huh (theyve since seperated). Ive teied to have something going on with her again but everytime we around each other it always turns to some arguing and bullshyt over her getting mad ober something. Not worth it. Shes also a single mother of 7 children from 4 different men and she really wants an 8th child. Yeah....

 

[EA]

I’m friends with a couple bisexual girls and they’ve told me that a lot of bisexual women have sex with bisexual men…

So with all things considered…it’s a no for me

I’m not going to willingly join a six degrees of separation chain where 5/6 people could potentially be men

 

[King]

Been with them in my past and had no issues whatsoever...

Got with my current a year ago, and the issue is that she's a closet bisexual, something I didn't really think existed amongst women in this day and age. Her lying and denying of it is what scared me earlier on, and to a lesser extent now...

She's 27, was with a woman once when she was 21 and says she didn't enjoy it. Later on she contradicted that "bad" experience with fond memories of that woman; has stated she would date that woman and fukk her again; has stated she would date and fukk a different woman; has stated she'd have a threescore with me and another woman as long as it's a woman we don't know; has stated she's only attracted to black and Latina women; has stated she likes female ass; enjoys lesbian porn...

Has also stated she doesn't like p*ssy; has stated she isn't attracted to women; has stated she'd never date a woman; has stated she'd never fukk a woman; has stated she'd never have a sexual experience with a woman again; has stated no threesome for us; etc...

I got to learn her more over the last year and I think it ultimately boils down to this. She is sexually attracted to women, and in the right situation she'd have sex with a woman again, whether just her or with us, but I dont think she wants to be with a woman. I do think in the right situation she'd date a woman, but it would probably be low because she doesn't want to be viewed as a lesbian---->even though she obviously likes men...

She doesn't want to be viewed as bisexual. The right woman could probably get her to claim her publicly, but I think its more likely she fukks women on the low than publicly date a woman...

If this sounds confusing, it's because it is but I also have some clarity after a year of dating, it's hard to explain. I've never dated a woman who was closeted with or in denial with her bisexuality. Today's culture promotes that especially for women, so it's interesting and she has an interesting personality...

The way she's described it is there are too many characteristics about men that women can't replicate, that she loves. She'd smash a woman, and even if she dated a woman, I think ultimately she'd end up with a man because she would never leave dikk alone. And she isn't into polyamory or sharing partners...

Yeah that sounds mad annoying. Akin to a woman dating a downlow dude in denial. Wouldn't be able to trust a woman like that if she can't even trust herself

All it takes is the right Mannie Fresh looking dyke to spit some game at her and next thing she'll be submitting to the next woman's suitcase

I am not bi, perhaps speak to someone who is. Based on what they have shared with me it is confusing and quite over the top, not my thing but I am respectful and courteous in declining and no longer accept them as friends. Some can be predatory.

Also def a diff between how they id prior to losing their v and someone who has activities or was uh coached into it. There is an influence from older people.

As for the men, something similar-many of their women are in denial. I don’t out or shame unless it’s a health risk (sexual).

I remember reading this book or movie one time (can't remember). But it was two dudes having a dinner party and their wives went in the kitchen to cook but they were actually making out and shyt. fukked me up for a bit cause I was like wow, gay women are really out here in disguise, whole ass marriages but they ain't even like men

I have a former coworker jumpoff who is bisexual. Pretty much down for whatever and yeah she is a lil bonkers. She is very very nice just kind of slow and bubbleheaded. She was raped as a child

 

[King]

Had several relationships with bi women and I talked about them being secure enough to talk to me about it. Never had issues but mainly because they liked to have sex with women but wouldn't be in a relationship with them. Most women I know have had same sex experiences but aren't romantically attracted to women but get off on the sexual experience of being with a woman.

I tried to turn one of my FBs gay when I was younger

At first I thought all women were kind of gay and down for that shyt from what I touched on in the last post

But she was so nonchalantly uninterested sexually that I was like damn straight women really do exist

 

[Hey_zeus]

I just passed on a cute lil Delivurt chick. At this point in my life, it opens the door to too much fukkery. We were talking about the kinda girls we like and in my head I'm like nope. I don't need to be having 3somes and shyt and that's all I'm gonna be thinking about with her. Sometimes the layup is too easy.

 

[Spence]

Been with them in my past and had no issues whatsoever...

Got with my current a year ago, and the issue is that she's a closet bisexual, something I didn't really think existed amongst women in this day and age. Her lying and denying of it is what scared me earlier on, and to a lesser extent now...

She's 27, was with a woman once when she was 21 and says she didn't enjoy it. Later on she contradicted that "bad" experience with fond memories of that woman; has stated she would date that woman and fukk her again; has stated she would date and fukk a different woman; has stated she'd have a threescore with me and another woman as long as it's a woman we don't know; has stated she's only attracted to black and Latina women; has stated she likes female ass; enjoys lesbian porn...

Has also stated she doesn't like p*ssy; has stated she isn't attracted to women; has stated she'd never date a woman; has stated she'd never fukk a woman; has stated she'd never have a sexual experience with a woman again; has stated no threesome for us; etc...

I got to learn her more over the last year and I think it ultimately boils down to this. She is sexually attracted to women, and in the right situation she'd have sex with a woman again, whether just her or with us, but I dont think she wants to be with a woman. I do think in the right situation she'd date a woman, but it would probably be low because she doesn't want to be viewed as a lesbian---->even though she obviously likes men...

She doesn't want to be viewed as bisexual. The right woman could probably get her to claim her publicly, but I think its more likely she fukks women on the low than publicly date a woman...

If this sounds confusing, it's because it is but I also have some clarity after a year of dating, it's hard to explain. I've never dated a woman who was closeted with or in denial with her bisexuality. Today's culture promotes that especially for women, so it's interesting and she has an interesting personality...

The way she's described it is there are too many characteristics about men that women can't replicate, that she loves. She'd smash a woman, and even if she dated a woman, I think ultimately she'd end up with a man because she would never leave dikk alone. And she isn't into polyamory or sharing partners...

My wife almost to a T. She’s closeted and I try to get her to explore that side of her sexuality since she had a couple run ins before we met and she said she had a fun time. She’s too afraid she would develop feelings for another woman and feels that would be wrong but I told her I know she would never leave me and the babies for a woman and that if she wanted to go have fun with some vagina and or bring it back to the house for some 3somes I’m down. She’s too scared though but said in the right situation with a random we don’t know she would be more than down for a 3some. Which is why I’m trying to get us to go back to Vegas just me and her