Would You Date Someone With Multiple Kids If You Had None Yourself?
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If you put yourself in that position she will never respect you
Smash n Dash
you want to be that " good guy "If you put yourself in that position she will never respect you
Smash n Dash
Baby daddy #3
this is what single mothers do, you wonder wow we have so much in common she does so many things, she reads books finishes my sentences, keeps my belly full the sex is amazing , its all a act to get caught in their web, next thing you know you'll bebabysitting and taking her kids out for dinner.
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depends on the female and how on top
of her shyt she is.
of her shyt she is.
I don't date females with kids. I don't even bother to get to know them. I did come close to dating a female that had a daughter recently though. The only reason that happened is because we were put in social situations where I to got to know her over time, That's like the only scenario I can think of where I would even consider dating a female that has a kid (at this point in time). When a female tells me she has a kid, I just move on. I just lose interest & there's other guys out there that accommodate her.
Keep_It_Hip_Hop_Fam
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at her buying the witness protection excuseWhatever you do bring your own condoms and leave with them when you are finished
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I feel you breh, some of the coolest chicks are single mothers.
I don't know why but for the most part they hella chill and fun to hang out with, etc.
That's why I put them in the rotation.
But I won't wife em cuz I don't have any kids myself and don't want to take on that responsibility honestly.
Plus I'd want my first kid to be also my wife's first (if I ever get married). Might be selfish but I think it's fair since I expect the same of myself.
I dunno bout your situation but I'd say put her in the rotation if that's your thing and let her know whats up.
If you trynna cuff her than think bout it hard breh. Remember it's a package deal with her and the kids unless she doesn't have custody or somethin.
I don't know why but for the most part they hella chill and fun to hang out with, etc.
That's why I put them in the rotation.
But I won't wife em cuz I don't have any kids myself and don't want to take on that responsibility honestly.
Plus I'd want my first kid to be also my wife's first (if I ever get married). Might be selfish but I think it's fair since I expect the same of myself.
I dunno bout your situation but I'd say put her in the rotation if that's your thing and let her know whats up.
If you trynna cuff her than think bout it hard breh. Remember it's a package deal with her and the kids unless she doesn't have custody or somethin.
Are you serious? There are a million reasons. The real question is why would he even waste his time. But if you really don't know here are a few:
From a dating perspective: If she is a good mother then the majority of her time should be spent with her young children. That means the majority of his time with her will be spent with her children. That means the movies, trips and pretty much every social event is out. His options with her are pretty much limited to staying in the house. If he wants to go to out he will either have to go alone (which she will resent), finding a babysitter which gets expensive or spending extra money for her hoard.
From a financial perspective: As I said above, babysitters and an outing gets very expensive when you have to folk over money for 3 extra people. She and her children are liabilities. Also, just from the description in the OP this chick doesn't really sound like a go getter. She is probably living on the system and child support. Not really the type of woman I would want to date.
From a personality perspective: She is an idiot. This person is not every intelligent. Being pregnant once I could see but 3 times is obviously a sign of poor judgement skills, nonexistent common sense and the lack of the ability to understand the consequences of her actions...unless of course she was meaning to get pregnant (even worse).
When it comes down to it he is way too young to taking on a woman who has that much baggage. There are plenty of women who don't have all that to worry about. Why on Earth would he set his standards so low?
Whatever you do bring your own condoms and leave with them when you are finished
*Angel*
Frozen Flames Goddess
Only he can answer for why he chose her, even as a fk buddy, but he did and is actually warming up or attached to the idea of dating her. Now to your points.....sorry but your entire first paragraph is not true. I don't have kids but my friends do, and 1) their kids never went on a date with them, and 2) the guys they dated did not jump into replacement father figure role. Which leads to you second point, financially he is not responsible for her kids, not even to ensure a date. It doesn't work like that. He can do what you described, but he's not obligated to do so.
It sucks that the OP didn't give anymore details about the chik but I can't say she's not intelligent bc she had kids oow and you talk as if babies stop all women from doing great things in life. Shes only 24. She has plenty of time to make something of herself despite her obligations. I agree that if she's a bird, why lower his standards, but the fact that he knows her situation and is still entertaining the thoughts of dating her, the former train of thought was overshadowed by the latter. I'd only disagree if she had drama or no goals, not for having kids alone.
First, I never mentioned anything about being a father figure nor inferred it. Second, if OP plans to hang around as more than just a FB (aka SO/boyfriend/whatever) then the above are all things to consider. Unless you think he should just pretend like the children don't exist or never plan to be around when the children are around then yes he will have to spend time with the children and he will have to come out his pocket for those children. It could be as little as buying an extra pizza, buying 3 extra tickets or helping to pay for a babysitter. Either way it will cost him more than it would if that same woman had no children. Also If your friends have long term relationships and those men never see or do for their children I would seriously tell you to consider the company you keep.
Well you may not be able to say she's not intelligent but I will. Sorry but that situation doesn't read as intelligent nor responsible. Being aware doesn't make you bright. It makes you alive.My point is that whatever she has he could just easily find someone who also has those without kids. I see it as a no brainer.
Dating someone without 3 kids >>>>> Dating someone with 3 kids