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This week, one of my old roommates (who is a long time "friend") hit me up told me he needed to speak to me. Prior to him calling I had already told myself that I know this guy is calling me about something related to a woman.
The phone call arrives, and he informs me of a rape accusation from a mutual friend of ours; where she said that I "coerced her AND raped her" during a sexual encounter in 2018. Due to the severity of the accusation and it being my first time being made aware of this, I just listened to all my friend had to say so I could gather more information about this accusation.
My "friend" told me I need to correct behavior, and that no matter horny I am I should be not raping woman. Mind you all of this said before asking me what was my recollection of our encounter. So it had been to clear me that this guy had decided I was guilty already. At the time I was preparing for a workout, so I said my peace and my truth on the situation and went about my day.
The woman accusing me of such an act is a woman I was very good friends with, that I had multiple sexual encounters with. So it was beyond as to why this was being told to people I know but I had just been made aware of such accusations. Another mutual friend of the accuser and I, informed me that she had hinted at this accusation a year ago but she didn't say I raped her it more gave her more of the impression that she was just regretful that we had sex. All along, I've lived oblivious to all of this. I've seen the woman in public multiple and we've had very cordial encounters that led me to believe our friendship wasn't impaired in anyway.
The guy who relayed the news to me, was more interested in just giving me the knowledge of the accusation and nothing more, he was instructed to do this by her and he told me not to talk to her either. Not gonna lie, I'm very confused as to what is going right now because, I did not rape or coerce that woman. I'm also very confused as to why the "friend" would relay such accusation on me and tell me not to talk to the accuser, seems as if he was just trying to exonerate his name. He later went on to say that when accusation comes he has no choice but to believe the woman. I think I am in a very tough position because I think the only way handle this before it gets escalated is to talk to the woman. But I'm not interested in doing it over a phone call or facetime or anything because I feel as if she just wants me to incriminate myself on something she has told herself occurred.
What I want to know, is my anger towards my "friend" justified and if you were me would you make any attempt to reach out to the accuser?
Much love, and for the record I have no prior criminal record or anything. I maintain my innocence. My heart is out for the actual victims of sexual assault, but this is not one of the cases.
This week, one of my old roommates (who is a long time "friend") hit me up told me he needed to speak to me. Prior to him calling I had already told myself that I know this guy is calling me about something related to a woman.
The phone call arrives, and he informs me of a rape accusation from a mutual friend of ours; where she said that I "coerced her AND raped her" during a sexual encounter in 2018. Due to the severity of the accusation and it being my first time being made aware of this, I just listened to all my friend had to say so I could gather more information about this accusation.
My "friend" told me I need to correct behavior, and that no matter horny I am I should be not raping woman. Mind you all of this said before asking me what was my recollection of our encounter. So it had been to clear me that this guy had decided I was guilty already. At the time I was preparing for a workout, so I said my peace and my truth on the situation and went about my day.
The woman accusing me of such an act is a woman I was very good friends with, that I had multiple sexual encounters with. So it was beyond as to why this was being told to people I know but I had just been made aware of such accusations. Another mutual friend of the accuser and I, informed me that she had hinted at this accusation a year ago but she didn't say I raped her it more gave her more of the impression that she was just regretful that we had sex. All along, I've lived oblivious to all of this. I've seen the woman in public multiple and we've had very cordial encounters that led me to believe our friendship wasn't impaired in anyway.
The guy who relayed the news to me, was more interested in just giving me the knowledge of the accusation and nothing more, he was instructed to do this by her and he told me not to talk to her either. Not gonna lie, I'm very confused as to what is going right now because, I did not rape or coerce that woman. I'm also very confused as to why the "friend" would relay such accusation on me and tell me not to talk to the accuser, seems as if he was just trying to exonerate his name. He later went on to say that when accusation comes he has no choice but to believe the woman. I think I am in a very tough position because I think the only way handle this before it gets escalated is to talk to the woman. But I'm not interested in doing it over a phone call or facetime or anything because I feel as if she just wants me to incriminate myself on something she has told herself occurred.
What I want to know, is my anger towards my "friend" justified and if you were me would you make any attempt to reach out to the accuser?
Much love, and for the record I have no prior criminal record or anything. I maintain my innocence. My heart is out for the actual victims of sexual assault, but this is not one of the cases.
