You Are Pregnant And The Bro Asks For DNA Tests
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Cool. I dont mind paying an extra $4-600 to make sure that my son is actually mine.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
I'm sayin.
It's absolutely unreal da lack of logic runnin rampant in dis mufukka.
I don't think it's illogical to not want to be married to someone that thinks you're lying hoe. But I guess since you're not the one being insulted, you don't see a problem with it.
OG_StankBrefs
Da Spice...
Again, I'm not eam trynna come too sideways at y'all females in hea but like @Taadow said, da fact dat you're willing to completely throw away your marriage and potential complete family unit all because a brotha wants reassurance just seems incredible stupid to me.
Okay, ya feelins might get hurt a lil bit but to dead ya whole future family unit because of dat tho? Seriously?
@Desirous seems to be da only female in hea who has shown any remote kinda undastandin of where guys are comin from nowadays in regards to dis shyt.
Why are so many of you actin like its some Earf shatterin thing for a man to want to know dat his seed is in fact...his seed? Especially in today's marriage/relationship climate where so many cats are out chea gettin caught up and being FORCED to take care of chirren dat ain't theirs?...man, please.
I love you but we gone get dis DNA test. I'd rather be in da dog house for a lil bit knowing dis family is mine than to be hit wit da okie doke when I've already established a bond wit da child and end up hatin YOU and by proxy resenting him/her.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
Again, I'm not eam trynna come too sideways at y'all females in hea but like @Taadow said, da fact dat you're willing to completely throw away your marriage and potential complete family unit all because a brotha wants reassurance just seems incredible stupid to me.
Okay, ya feelins might get hurt a lil bit but to dead ya whole future family unit because of dat tho? Seriously?
@Desirous seems to be da only female in hea who has shown any remote kinda undastandin of where guys are comin from nowadays in regards to dis shyt.
Why are so many of you actin like its some Earf shatterin thing for a man to want to know dat his seed is in fact...his seed? Especially in today's marriage/relationship climate where so many cats are out chea gettin caught up and being FORCED to take care of chirren dat ain't theirs?...man, please.
I love you but we gone get dis DNA test. I'd rather be in da dog house for a lil bit knowing dis family is mine than to be hit wit da okie doke when I've already established a bond wit da child and end up hatin YOU and by proxy resenting him/her.
Sorry but the thought of cooking for, cleaning for, being faithful to and having sex with a man that thinks I'm a hoe doesn't sit well with me. Am I gonna have to get a DNA test every time I get pregnant? lol @ being a good and faithful wife and STILL have to get a DNA test for all of your children because your husband thinks you're a hoe. Sounds amazing.
@ being in the dog house for "a little bit", he'll be there forever. You can think it's stupid all you want.
OG_StankBrefs
Da Spice...
Sorry but the thought of cooking for, cleaning for, being faithful to and having sex with a man that thinks I'm a hoe doesn't sit well with me. Am I gonna have to get a DNA test every time I get pregnant? lol @ being a good and faithful wife and STILL have to get a DNA test for all of your children because your husband thinks you're a hoe. Sounds amazing.
I do and will continue to do so.
I'm not condoning or condemning da shyt. I just undastandin why brothas would choose to do it. So to sit hea n act like dere's absolutely no merit whatsoeva to da reasonin is in of itself disingenuous.
You females aren't da ones gettin financially n emotionally yoked up by a flawed system on da reg so its expected most of you wouldn't undastand dis perspective at all.
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Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
I do and will continue to do so.
I'm not condoning or condemning da shyt. I just undastandin why brothas would choose to do it.
You females aren't da ones gettin financially n emotionally yoked up by a flawed system on da reg so its expected most of you wouldn't undastand dis perspective at all.
He can get the test all he wants, I'm just leaving. I'm not doing it multiple times. Once and I'm done.
If I'm stupid enough to stay, he better be happy with that one kid because he'll never get another one from me.
He can get the test all he wants, I'm just leaving. I'm not doing it multiple times. Once and I'm done.
What if the baby don't look anything like him...
Imma be like
LiberianGirl
Rookie
I'd be hurt/irritated, HOWEVER I'd do it to ease his fears
If it's my husband I'd probably tell him to go fk himself and we'd need counseling to get through whatever it is
Wouldn't be coming out of my pocket
I mean there's a lot to consider
Were we having issues surrounding him accusing me of cheating?
I would need to know where the concern came from all of a sudden
If it's my husband I'd probably tell him to go fk himself and we'd need counseling to get through whatever it is
Wouldn't be coming out of my pocket
I mean there's a lot to consider
Were we having issues surrounding him accusing me of cheating?
I would need to know where the concern came from all of a sudden
OG_StankBrefs
Da Spice...
He can get the test all he wants, I'm just leaving. I'm not doing it multiple times. Once and I'm done.
I'm not condoning or condemning da shyt. I just undastandin why brothas would choose to do it. So to sit hea n act like dere's absolutely no merit whatsoeva to da reasonin is in of itself disingenuous.
You females aren't da ones gettin financially n emotionally yoked up by a flawed system on da reg so its expected most of you wouldn't undastand dis perspective at all.
MzButtafly
Rookie
to be honest if not married i think EVERY man should get one.
I'd be hurt/irritated, HOWEVER I'd do it to ease his fears
If it's my husband I'd probably tell him to go fk himself and we'd need counseling to get through whatever it is
Wouldn't be coming out of my pocket
I mean there's a lot to consider
Were we having issues surrounding him accusing me of cheating?
I would need to know where the concern came from all of a sudden
Nah, I don't want the kid to grow up and turn against you for lying about their daddy not being the biological one.
it should be mandatory at birth anyway. It would cost the hospital virtually nothing.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
No, you're not "sorry".
You're the opposite of that.
The Lion's Share of y'all can't see past your emotions here to see the other side.
You would rather raise your child alone than re-assure the father the child is his. Think about that.
I would be angry and welcome him to pay for the test. I wouldn't have a problem doing it but he would have to deal with my nasty attitude for awhile. If I was a promiscuous person then I would understand and just be quiet lolAlright this topic came up on another Black forum i'm on and the answers were interesting......
If you were pregnant ... married or not ... and you told "the Father of your unborn child" ... that "yall" were expecting a baby ... and he immediately (or eventually) asked for DNA tests, proving that fact ... what would be your response?
Would you offer to pay for the tests, easing his fears and concerns?
Would you welcome him to pay for it?
Would you be happy, angry, sad, understanding, or ect.
What would be your response, and why?
You don't gotta pick those above ... they're just examples ...
Is there a "right way" for a Brother to ask for DNA tests? If so, how?
