Alright this topic came up on another Black forum i'm on and the answers were interesting......
If you were pregnant ... married or not ... and you told "the Father of your unborn child" ... that "yall" were expecting a baby ... and he immediately (or eventually) asked for DNA tests, proving that fact ... what would be your response? I would be fine with that.
Would you offer to pay for the tests, easing his fears and concerns? No. Me agreeing to take the test is my contribution to his "ease."
Would you welcome him to pay for it? No. See above.
Would you be happy, angry, sad, understanding, or ect. I'm indifferent about this. I think that all men should request DNA tests. As the mother carrying the child, a woman is certain of maternity. That's not the case for a man.
What would be your response, and why? Sure, let me know when you're ready.
You don't gotta pick those above ... they're just examples ...
Is there a "right way" for a Brother to ask for DNA tests? If so, how? He should just ask. Unfortunately for men, too many of them don't have the balls to ask, particularly if they are married or they are in a committed relationship.
You Are Pregnant And The Bro Asks For DNA Tests
- Thread starter Medicate
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this is false and actually the other way around
- Men are more likely to cheat than women. (
of course)
He can get the test all he wants, I'm just leaving. I'm not doing it multiple times. Once and I'm done.If I'm stupid enough to stay, he better be happy with that one kid because he'll never get another one from me.
This is insane
why are you nikkas even asking her, if don't think the child is yours take the test behind her back and if it's not just disappear like thief in the nightSouthernBelle
#Feyonce
Logic escapes some people. They keep quoting a stat that basically says the overwhelming majority of men are raising children that are theirs. Especially, if you are married, the probability that the child is NOT yours is slim; therefore, why wouldn't you do it behind your wife's back (if you just had to know) instead of bringing BULLshyt to someone. Why? Just get one of those Walgreens tests.
I don't feel any type of way about girlfriend/boyfriend DNA testing, but you are stupid and selfish is you don't think you should handle this type of situation with you WIFE delicately. Most of y'all are selfish and inconsiderate as hell when there are alternatives to you finding out without YOU causing issues in your marriage.
The only thing with this is in the event the child turns out to not to be his and he addresses it, the issue is compounded by him sneaking to take the test in the first place.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Thank you for this sense.
But no - this isn't the "only" thing. There's also:
- the child turns out to not be his and he addresses it, she's probably not gonna be all "you're right - I fucced up." lol
- the child turns out to not be his and he doesn't address it - it just eats away at him forever. That's fine with her, huh?
- the child turns out to be his, and she finds the Walgreens test box in the wastebasket when she goes to throw something away.
- the child turns out to be his, and she sees the debit from the bank account/credit card bill and asks what that was for.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
He obviously doesn't think too highly of me, I doubt he'll care if I leave. Hell know the kid is his though. I've already thought about it. I never said he couldn't be re-assured that the kid is his, he can get his DNA test and I can leave. I'm not seeing the problem, he doesn't have to have another child with me and worry about if its his or not and I don't have to get every child I have tested like I'm some hoe that doesn't know who the father of my child is.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
No - that wasn't what I was saying.
I was saying "think about" how you would rather not raise your child with his father if this was to take place.
That don't plague your mind?
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
We can have joint custody. My parents did it. I got to see my dad almost everyday because he took us to school and he would take us places on the weekends.
But like I said, he'll know the kid is his and I dont have to worry about having another kid with him. We both win. and besides, the relationship wouldn't be the same anyways, I would hate him, so it would be better to just end it.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
...Which is entirely not the same as a woman raising a child WITH their father. And you know that.
Ah - this explains it. This explains it all.
Your father did it. It's his fault. He is the cause of your mess.
I get it now. Hold my hand.
Sing it with me if you know the words.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
Look, breh. idc if it's the same or not, if I stay I will not be happy. He will never have sex with me again, he will never get another child from me, I wont cook for him, I'm not washing his clothes, I'm not showing any affection towards him whatsoever, I probably won't even talk to him unless I'm telling him how shytty he is. So it would be better for me to just leave. I didn't stay a virgin until I got married just to be called a hoe. I don't even want kids so If I get pregnant it's because HE wants kids so I get pregnant for you and the first thing you do is question if it's yours or not. I'm not ok with that and it will automatically make me hate you. I'm willingly putting myself through this horrible experience for you and all you can do is insult me. no thanks.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
What can she really say if the child isn't his? I can't believe you got the test behind my back? She would get a bytch please because she's the one who cheated and had a baby that wasn't by her husband. She wouldn't have shyt to say. fukk her at that point.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
...and that's all that matters when you get pregnant right?
Your happiness. Not the well-being of the child. I get it.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
Asking your wife for a DNA test for a child that is likely your because of YOUR insecurity is only thinking about YOUR feelings...NOT the well being of the child.
Only care about YOUR feelings and not respect the feelings of others brehs.
Also, in case you didn't know, a child shouldn't grow up in an unhappy household so if she wants to get a divorce it's her life.