SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
I wasn't referring to the STD test with that comment sweetie. I was referring to his feelings of insecurity and her feelings of betrayal/insecurity or whatever she's feeling after he asks for the test.
You Are Pregnant And The Bro Asks For DNA Tests
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I wasn't referring to the STD test with that comment sweetie. I was referring to his feelings of insecurity and her feelings of betrayal/insecurity or whatever she's feeling after he asks for the test.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Why not?
Why wouldn't the husband just go ahead and do that?
Husbands do that kind of thing all the time!
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
She's just wants to be re-assured. Do you know how many women get STDs from their husbands?
Right girl...and our partners should be the only who deals with our insecurities (not us).
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
You have some stats...or stories beyond the personal ones that suit your point because if we are going off anecdotes I don't know any husband and wife doing that.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
Yeah...that's what you gave .
First, let me say that I don't believe there is a "one size fits all" way of dealing with all relationships, and that people need to know their mates and go from there. But regarding STD's and such, I feel that sexual responsibility is on each us, as individuals, and we have to do whatever we can on our end to lessen risks. If that means, as a woman -- even a married woman -- that she requires the use of condoms, it's her right. Just as it's her husbands right to not be okay with her decision.
Personally, I think it's unwise to have 100% blind trust in anyone. We're raised to "be aware" of this, that, and the other all our lives, but toss all of that out the window JUST because of marriage. Not me.
And I'm cool with being asked for a paternity test because I don't roll like that. I am also person who likes to be sure about things/situations, and wouldn't blame my husband for being that same way.
OG_StankBrefs
Da Spice...
I actually don't see a prollem wit dis.
shyt also can put mah mind at ease knowin she ain't ridin dirty neeva. We bof can do it togetha.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Personal stories are the best, because you've observed them yourself.
If you haven't observed anything like that I won't knock you, but I have.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
I actually don't see a prollem wit dis.
shyt also can put mah mind at ease knowin she ain't ridin dirty neeva. We bof can do it togetha.
As long as you aren't a hypocrite. I personally couldn't live like that. I'd rather be alone than be in a trust less relationship.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
But stats show that you the personal stories you've written about just far (men raising children that are theirs) are not the norm, but the VAST minority of cases. That's why stats are important...so people can see that their neighborhood is not the world.
I honestly don't know of any studies about the percentage of men named as fathers of kids who are not biologically theirs. However I do know of enough instances of this occuring that I feel it's in a man's best interest to have a DNA test administered.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
But is your response to him that it doesn't matter if he's not okay with it because "it's not about him"? That's all I want to know.
I am NOT cool with being asked for paternity test by my husband (boyfriend I don't care because we aren't married) even though I don't roll like that and would pass with flying colors. Why? Because if I planned a family with a man then I be damn if he wants to question it now.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
"The Norm" and stats mean little to zero when that "non-normal" event does happen, though.
The most important thing at that point is the fact that you have to deal with it.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
Everyone shouldn't be treated like suspects because of the ratchet minority.
