You better find a passion black man

What are they? Cause I asked you and you say you just work.

 

Any man that makes women their passion... is lost.

 

You can look at birds on the internet.

 

That’s exactly what I mean breh

 

Yes, jbo

 

Bump

 

@Rozay Oro

 

This thread is crucial for coli breh's.

 

Been playing guitar more lately. Loving it. 3rd passion unlocked.

 

For someone passion who is writing ur post is trash other then the message

 

Exactly. I think that's one of the reasons why simps and incels put women on a pedestal. They don't have any greater things to aspire to or something they can throw themselves into, and think that women are the sole answer to their problems. And while it's great to have a life partner alongside you, you're not gonna wanna be around each other 24/7, you need space to do your own thing. Otherwise you'll suffocate each other and that can slowly but surely turn into hostility.

Ultimately though, to each their own.

Comparison is a very dangerous thing if left unchecked, because we can easily find ourselves feeling insecure about where we are compared to our peers. However, in many cases, we don't know the full story. But even if we DID know, everyone's circumstances aren't the same. Inspiration is fine, but there's a fine line between being motivated by somebody's story and wanting to follow suit and placing someone on a pedestal and interpreting their success as a commentary on your own progress (or lack thereof).

We're so caught up in the "Damn, I haven't made it yet, but everyone's passing me by" mentality that we often forget that everything has its appointed time. We don't plant a seed and expect it to grow in 60 minutes. The same goes for anything. There's so much that can happen behind the scenes that one day you're struggling, and the next day, all of your dreams are coming true. That life changing opportunity can come at any moment, but I personally think that to even be able to see that opportunity, the journey is important to experience. Just like how a pregnancy is a nine-month period, a journey can take an indeterminate amount of time. There's many people who end up becoming successful but they aren't able to handle it mentally because it came too quickly, and then they end up having mental breakdowns due to the pressure. So as much as it might be demotivating at times, sometimes the longer road is the best path to take, especially for our mental health.

We get there when we get there, we'll cross that bridge when it's time, but let's enjoy the scenery while we're on the way.

Right. I think part of the misconception a lot of people have is the statement that says "find what you love to do, and you won't have to work a day in your life." At face value, that's wrong, because everything in life takes effort and discipline (some things more than others). You can love acting and performance theatre, but that doesn't mean you don't have to cultivate your skill if you want to be really good and go the distance. Actors like Denzel Washington, Leonardo Di Caprio, Idris Elba, they clearly love what they do, but you don't get to that level without honing your craft to an incredible degree. And with growth, there will be times where you'll hit walls and plateaus, it's not always going to be fun and games.

However, when you really are passionate about something, you know it's worth it. You love it, even though it's hard sometimes. You devote as much time as possible to it, because it's something you feel like you couldn't live without. When you're away from it for long periods of time, you start to feel empty. Like life just started losing color, and the food started tasting more bland. Passions are what connects us to ourselves, and we're either growing or stagnating. Not everyone needs to be top-tier when it comes to their hobbies, but I do think the more that you put time into something out of love, the better you tend to become. This goes without saying.

In the end, I think having that drive is what'll keep you going. It can be cultivated too, because "drive" is really just discipline mixed with consistency, willpower, self-belief and a dash of stubbornness. But I think if you really love something to the core, it'll be there in most cases. It's hard to describe, but it's an internal thing. The hunger for growth and wanting to go the distance. You just... know. That's what I think.

 

Writing is a medium that uses words to convey meaning. The writing itself is not the point but the transmission of intent. The words are just a vehicle.

Also is English your native language? Because your command of it seems to be a bit shaky.