You can almost tell who grew up with a FATHER their home.

[Hiphoplives4eva]

My old man just had enough one day. I vaguely remember them arguing all the damn time but I was too young to realize or know what it was about at the time. Love mom dukes to death but she was and still is a handful. And I hate to use this term cuz I love my Black queens and my mother to death but ma dukes is the prototype of an angry Black woman. Just be mad for no reason. Like shyt ain't right in her mind if it ain't no drama. She wanted the finer things in life but yet complained when pops was always out on the grind. out the blue nikka was just like fukk it one day. They split up and she tried to cock block that nikka from seeing me outta spite. He one upped her and bought a spot down the street and changed his schedule up so he could take and pick me up from school everyday. Then my mom turned around and tried to move us out to Cali with her new guy. Pops was like "b***** please". Pulled up at her spot and dragged the shyt out that nikka. nikka was like this still my house. You only fukking my ex wife cuz I'm letting you. He was like I could care less about you and my ex but stop putting these dreams into her head about moving away with my son. I love my pops to death. That nikka literally my best friend

I applaud your dad for fighting to maintain a relationship with you.

 

[Hiphoplives4eva]

I don't think it matters as much as people think. The guys I know with good fathers don't seem to take responsibility as serious as the ones I know without them. They fukk up often because they can lean on their parents. This is something I've seen in my experience.

You must be mad young.

 

[Monster]

People with father figures don't act right. Even Waka said it

 

[ZEB WALTON]

Yea i noticed this with my own friends/girls i been with

Girls with daddy problems always are an issue

My boys with no fathers have ZERO drive. Talkin bout lets make ten dollars an hour our whole life cuz why not.. Pops didnt do shyt. Never paid no bills. So why ahouldnthey

I got one friend who turned that ahit around. Hes one in a milli tho. I can prolly name 20 non responsible ass people in my life and they all last a parent.

I also have friends who had BOTH parents leave them and raised by grandma/pa. They always end up the worst.

My friends with most stable lives had their fathers involved in some way. Ones who didnt waste their lives away on videogames, alcohol n drugs. Not that u need ya father to leave to do drugs but the odds change a lot.

 

[Swirv]

You must be mad young.

I'm not. Just speaking on what I see.

 

[h2o_proof]

Not that there's a direct correlation, but growing up, all the dudes I knew that didn't have dads seemed to have a TON of Jordans, lol. I was always jealous cuz my dad bought me Avia's and LA Gear all through elementary and middle school (I bought my own shyt once I got to high school).

I'm sure everybody's story is different, my parents weren't married, but my dad was definitely in my life. The kids who I knew who didn't have that were always filling that void with something external. Of course there are exceptions, and the OPs point is that we know that already, but in general as you get older you see the impact this has had on the kids that weren't able to overcome. We all are grown now in our mid-thirties, but them same nikkas be on Twitter heavy now still fronting. I got a homie who I be trying to get through to, but he always be on some "everybody ain't like you" and my point to him is "that may be true, but nikka you ain't EVERYBODY neither, so quit always lumping yourself into a group and making it too easy for you to be categorized". He real big on that detrimental "group think" tip, everything is always "so and so does it too" or some other lame cop out but I think as he gets older its finally sinking in. I think not having his pops has caused him to not be able to think for himself, or trust and be confident in his individuality.