Young single mom cries about needing a break

[jwonder]

as a father of 2 boys (a 4 y/o and a 8 month old) i cannot relate to that ladies pain....i've been through all of what she has as far as dealin with poop/pee/vomit/tireless nights etc and i wake up ready to do it all over again cuz i decided when and how i wanted to have my kids....i got myself right waaaaay before i thought of gettin married and having my sons...now granted every parent NEEDS to vent and i feel this is where the woman in the vid is at....she's sayin a lot of shyt that given clarity she will regret in the future....so don't hold ALL of what she says against her....

raising kids is hard but imo easier when planned and having a partner to help u....u don't have to be a married breh like me but a co-parent situation can make a big difference....

if u want kids...no one is gonna tell when the right time is...its just somethin u adapt and flow with naturally....the lady in the vid is just frustrated if u ask me...she'll be aight tho...

More power to you and wish you the best.
Too many people are parents and don't need to be. The child suffers due to that.

I realized early in life that I didn't want kids. They are just too much responsibility and it's really fukking hard work if you plan to be a great parent.

 

[LurkMoar]

Its not even about not having sex. You're not going to stop human beings from having sex.

Its just as simply as maybe taking a pill or using a condom. Folks can't bother to even do that much.

Nah I agree completely, I’m just saying some of these women just make terrible choices. Then they turn to Christ

 

[kayslay]

Because it comes back to this basic question, if women are the gatekeepers of sex and know the risks associated with potentially getting pregnant / std then they why are they sleeping with or entertaining someone who wouldn't be there for them or care about the health(willingly give them an std)...

I personally live by a rule that I never smash a woman I couldn't see myself have kids with for this reason. It takes a lot of self discipline in a world of casual sex being accessed like candy, but I can truly say I've dodged some bullets. Not every attractive person is worth entertaining especially if you're not compatible and only the physical aspect is there.

This is 100% bullshyt.
I have a Blood cousin that was messing around with a guy for almost a year slipped and got pregnant.
She went up to the Clinic and he literally begged her for weeks and came to the clinic to stop her.
Said he’d help out and he wanted a family etc etc.
He’s not gone and my counsin can’t contact him.
This is REAL life.
I know quite a few women who have dads that are “there” and help financially but don’t help at all physically.
Can’t call for impromptu pickups or childcare.
Stop trying to paint this bullshyt picture that all Black women are”choosing” the wrong men.

I practice the same rule as well but unfortunately people know how to play a role.
They can be perfect up until they don’t get what they want or they feel shyt is too heavy.

People need to realize that a man or woman can be the perfect girlfriend or boyfriend but horrible mom or dad.

 

[kayslay]

Nah I agree completely, I’m just saying some of these women just make terrible choices. Then they turn to Christ

You speak as if post partum depression isn’t a real thing.
It’s amazing the hoops people jump throw to avoid the real questions.

 

[poundedyam]

I have no sympathy for women like this.
None whatsoever.

 

[Serious]

This is 100% bullshyt.
I have a Blood cousin that was mess by around with a guy for almost a year slipped and got pregnant.
She went up to the Clinic and he literally begged her for weeks and came to the clinic to stop her.
Said he’d help out and he wanted a family etc etc.
He’s not gone and my counsin can’t contact him.
This is REAL life.
I know quite a few women who have dads that are “there” and help financially but don’t help at all physically.
Can’t call for impromptu pickups or childcare.
Stop trying to paint this bullshyt picture that all Black women are”choosing” the wrong men.

I practice the same rule as well but unfortunately people know how to play a role.
They can be perfect up until they don’t get what they want or they feel shyt is too heavy.

People need to realize that a man or woman can be the perfect girlfriend or boyfriend but horrible mom or dad.

This is anecdotal. I just gave a rule of thumb. One thing I'll agree with is that not everyone is cool with being a parent. A lot of people are unfortunately selfish and only want to deal with things on their terms.

I know few cases where mothers werent shyt to their kids well. Heck my grandmother was barely in my mom's life because she was too busy having a life of her own. Sure she helped out financially and made sure my mom was always taken care of, but as far physically being there she just wasnt. And to this day my grandmother exhibits those selfish characteristics of only considering her needs first. Matter of fact, i'll take it a step further my grandfather tried to be in my mom's life, but grandmother pushed him away. Literally she ran him off. Wanted to raise my mom on her own. Theres multiple accounts of this in my family.

The point is the warning signs are usually there is subtle ways. And it's not solely a "black male" problem, sure from your perspective it is, but my brother deals with roughly the same shyt. And ex wife is an absolute parasite incapable of taking her self or even the kids...

 

[LoStranger]

Its not even about not having sex. You're not going to stop human beings from having sex.

Its just as simply as maybe taking a pill or using a condom. Folks can't bother to even do that much.

^^this^^ That's why I don't feel sorry for em fam. Nikkas brag about busting in girls raw and the whores who let them are JUST as bad.....

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

The fact that it’s to the point where Mfs don’t even bother to ask is what’s sad.

Did y’all even look at the vid? At some point the father showed up to get the kid

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

That woman looked so broken. I sadly suspect that the baby father is only doing this as a one time thing and she’ll go back to depression shortly.

I hope somebody can help her. We all need to do better.

 

[LoStranger]

That woman looked so broken. I sadly suspect that the baby father is only doing this as a one time thing and she’ll go back to depression shortly.

I hope somebody can help her. We all need to do better.

Typically there needs to be a punishment mechanism in order to force people to do better. Unfortunately simply asking people to do it out of the niceness of their hearts or out of some moral obligation isn't going to work. Black folk are way to selfish for that. There's a reason why people women in particular behave themselves in countries like Saudia Arabia. Now while I'm not certainly suggesting we should do anything as extreme as what goes on in SA we do need to begin a punishment mechanism to where we punish single mothers and irresponsible fathers.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

@Booksnrain don't dap posts about me, bytch I don't fukk with you. At all.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

We don’t have these socio-economic issues in my part of town

You do, they're just hidden behind Dominion Homes brick facade, credit debt, and rehab.

 

[Originalman]

I feel sorry for the kids for having the parents they have.

Folks act like getting pregnant is a blessing and a great thing when a lot of people aren't mentally or financially prepared to have children and raise them properly.

Then we have parents having mental breakdowns and abusing their children cause it's "hard".

No shyt sherlock.

That's why you don't have them until you are ready. You may never be 100% "ready" but you damn sure know when you not close to it.

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[EndDomination]

If the children each have a father, she should only have half of the stress and responsibility because those useless Negroes should each be taking care of their child alongside her.

I understand her stress and anxiety, not bad decision making on the part of her and the childrens’ father(s) are at the root here.

 

[EndDomination]

Didn’t press play. My biological mother was this bytch. Had me and my brother back to back and left when I was two. Just dipped. She’d come around every now and then. But the last time she called a few years ago, I didn’t answer and I’ve since changed my number.

As a father I have no sympathy for anyone, man or woman that complains or cries about taking care of their children. None. I’ve had no weekends or breaks for years. Thursday through Sunday I had to do all the shyt two parents normally have to do. Is it easy? No. But they didn’t ask to be here.

Are you comparing having kids 4 days a week to having kids 7 days a week