havoc
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Yooo..No lie, my former cutbuddy just texted me and sent me a pic of her boobs and still wants to smash. She just got married last month. 
Your girl hanging out with guy friends.....
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@Lady.Libra.you been posting a bunch of bullshyt
Who? Me? (insert righteous indignation right here)
Now why on earth would I talk shyt with the best of the shyt talkers, Sir? I'd never!
Okay short answer is your cool with it.
Haha your really on some..
That dude is cute pontificating. Gives me a rush
Bless't
Living the dream
...... its almost like men know how men think
This type of behavior would've never crossed my mind SMH!!! there is principality on this and its not so much if man and women can be friends bla bla bla
your chick don't give a shyt about you, your honor and reputation.
I have male friends and when I meet them to socialize (rarely) its out in the public during daylight for a few hours and my man knows.
if she lived in the middle east her ass would be dead
your chick don't give a shyt about you, your honor and reputation.
I have male friends and when I meet them to socialize (rarely) its out in the public during daylight for a few hours and my man knows.
if she lived in the middle east her ass would be dead
Black Ball
Superstar
Oh, Mr. Jet, the same question rephrased a bit differently
I don't know how else to answer you other than to say my answer remains the same.
But here's a nugget for you -
I would be crazy to get my thongs in a knot over who is throwing coochie at a guy that I am involved with.You see, I pick men that are all around attractive and it is EXPECTED that other women are going to want him too and that may include his friends. Now logic tells me not to knock myself out worrying about another woman and her intentions but to concern myself with my ability to choose a decent man that has my back! If I should happen to find out that he's lowdown-dirty, I am prepared to walk away. The End.
I see your logic, it makes more sense on paper than in the real world though. It's one thing to know that random women might hit on your man in public or whatever. That's nothing, most faithful men will easily squash that. What am I'm gonna do exchange numbers with you & get caught up in some bullshyt? Naw I'll pass.
But an attractive platonic friend a man has been given a pass to chill with at anytime? Maybe nothing happens the 1st 10 times, but people are driven by emotions, and those emotions are more powerful than logic & good intentions. Doesn't matter if your dude is a good & well intentioned person. What if yall get into a fight and he's pissed at you, and then goes to chill with a chick willing to listen to his side and console him? What if he just chillin and has a few drinks and gets taken advantage of because of impaired judgement? They call it playing with fire for a reason.
Its like a fat person on a diet, who struggles with food. They may be able to easily turn down the prospect of stealing(or even buying) a twinkie at the store if they are craving something sweet. But if you put free donuts in front of them all day in an office environment, they probably gonna cave at some point, no matter how disciplined or well intentioned they are. Doesn't make them a bad person, but the human brain is actually limited in it's ability to turn down temptation sitting right in front of it.
I'm married and have no plans to cheat on my wife, but no way would I ever kick it alone with a chick that is willing and wants to give it up to me, friends or not. It's just foolish. This is the older me talking though, in my youth, I felt the same way as you.
This type of behavior would've never crossed my mind SMH!!! there is principality on this and its not so much if man and women can be friends bla bla bla
your chick don't give a shyt about you, your honor and reputation.
I have male friends and when I meet them to socialize (rarely) its out in the public during daylight for a few hours and my man knows.
if she lived in the middle east her ass would be dead
Knowledge drop
Oh, Mr. Jet, the same question rephrased a bit differently
I don't know how else to answer you other than to say my answer remains the same.
But here's a nugget for you -
I would be crazy to get my thongs in a knot over who is throwing coochie at a guy that I am involved with.You see, I pick men that are all around attractive and it is EXPECTED that other women are going to want him too and that may include his friends. Now logic tells me not to knock myself out worrying about another woman and her intentions but to concern myself with my ability to choose a decent man that has my back! If I should happen to find out that he's lowdown-dirty, I am prepared to walk away. The End.
You think a dude who keeps women around him who make it clear they want him to cheat on you has your back?
Thank you.
I appreciate what you are saying and something about the way you 'spoke' to me hit a spot in me. I'd like to share this with you:
I've never been one to really worry about what someone is doing until I have a reason to. Some folks consider that naïve/foolish but I am actually very grateful that I am cut this way. I can't help it...and I don't want to. I know beyond a shadow of a
doubt that I would not be able to mentally handle the tethers of perpetually worrying about what-ifs, fretting, pacing, & sweating over a man that I chose. That is pure misery that I simply could not handle and would rather be alone. I mean that.
Everything we do in life is a risk and if I bind myself up with that mentality of what-ifs then I would never get anywhere - I'd much rather live life and trust in my judgement to minimize as many lumps/kicks in the butt as I can...and learn and persevere
from the licks I do get.
I was in a relationship with a man who was controlling, domineering, & very possessive (not physically abusive): At first, I thought he loved me so much but in the end I didn't consider that love at all, only a man who wanted to own me. That relationship
strengthened my beliefs and how I apply them to my life and that isn't on some piece of paper.
ETA - The one vice I do have is exes. Even so, I am trying to figure out how to not let it be a thorn in my side.
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this is respectable. You know yourself better than we know you. If this works for you, more power to you.Sorry you went through a shytty relationship
Black Ball
Superstar
Sorry you had to experience the extremes of a fukk nikka. With everything, there needs to be balance, so the extreme in the opposite direction isn't a good thing either. You shouldn't look at it as worrying about what ifs, but more setting boundaries in your relationship. All relationships need boundaries, and each person in the relationship expects them to exist. Don't worry or concern yourself about what your man might be doing out there, but do set boundaries that show that he loves & respects you, even for appearance sake. This has nothing to do with trust either, a relationship without boundaries displays more of how little you care about the person you're with. Jealousy(not misplaced or extreme) in a relationship is a natural & positive emotion. It's an indicator of how important somebody is to you.
It's like a parent worrying about their kids when they aren't around to supervise them. I can feel alot better about what they are doing outside of my supervision if I have set rules & boundaries for them to not get into possible fukkery. I'd be stressing alot more if my kids didn't have boundaries and was on some try anything once shyt.
Allahaukbar.This type of behavior would've never crossed my mind SMH!!! there is principality on this and its not so much if man and women can be friends bla bla bla
your chick don't give a shyt about you, your honor and reputation.
I have male friends and when I meet them to socialize (rarely) its out in the public during daylight for a few hours and my man knows.
if she lived in the middle east her ass would be dead
Male best friend?
PLEEEAUZHE.
I've seen first hand that "male friend" shyt go left and ended up turning into something else.
I shake hands with a nikka occasionally that was "friends" with this chick I was fukking. She was tryna be serious for a while but it wasn't going to work out and now I see this nikka a few years later with her and a baby.
It was all just a coworker at first.
Suffice to say, I'm not playing that shyt at all. The moment a chick pull that "male best friend" shyt and she wanna get serious it's going to go down. Either he out or I'm out.
PLEEEAUZHE.
I've seen first hand that "male friend" shyt go left and ended up turning into something else.
I shake hands with a nikka occasionally that was "friends" with this chick I was fukking. She was tryna be serious for a while but it wasn't going to work out and now I see this nikka a few years later with her and a baby.
It was all just a coworker at first.
Suffice to say, I'm not playing that shyt at all. The moment a chick pull that "male best friend" shyt and she wanna get serious it's going to go down. Either he out or I'm out.
What gets me is how many women admit to being just friends with men who they know want more than friendship from them.And yet they keep arguing with us
All of them think that they found the special snowflake friend that is heterosexual male but has 0 traits of a heterosexual male
That's like waving a steak sandwich in front of a starving man with no intention of giving him a bite. What kind of an a$$hole would do that?
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I got a few female friends either through college/work that we'll all chill or whatever usually in groups, I'm single right now so I don't got shyt to worry about but I could see if one of them's man had an issue with it. Thing is I ain't even plottin on 'em like that, but I can tell u if we was havin a couple drinks and shyt who knows 
And that's why it cant work most of the time because whenever a man and female are physically attracted to one another it can happen real quick. She could just be mad at you one day and chillin with this nikka and it's a wrap.
Honestly, any girl tell me they chillin with some dude nah that can't happen.
And that's why it cant work most of the time because whenever a man and female are physically attracted to one another it can happen real quick. She could just be mad at you one day and chillin with this nikka and it's a wrap.
Honestly, any girl tell me they chillin with some dude nah that can't happen.
