My short time here on the coli, I always see us hating and talking down on each other; pointing out flaws and how we fail as black men and women in regards to healthy relationships. Wanted to see if some of yall are actually in or have ever been in a good relationship with someone. Some of yall probably gon front, but we all have had that one chick or for my ladies, that one guy, whom have held us down.
Me and my girl been together since '11. I was in school (Alabama A&M) and slipped got a chick pregnant. Soon afterwards I met my current lady and we became friends but I knew she was feeling me so I told her straight up like yo I got a kid on the way, but me and the babys mom ain't really together like that. She understood and still would drive up to see me (bout a 2-3 hour drive). She would visit often, and even went out her way and mailed me a huge box of baby clothes and items on valentines day. Some time later, the chick miscarried and I was like
but then I was like
. Can't even lie. I was devastated over the miscarriage (it was gon be a girl). But I was happy for another start and I HATED the babys moms anyway. Hooked right up with my girl and she been holding me down ever since. We just hit our 4 year anni today. Show ya boy some love. Ima Black King with a Black Queen. Where yall at?
Edit: Some throwing me a lil shade for being 4 years in and not married. A wedding is in the future. Just no rush. We just wanna make sure we're financially and spiritually prepared because marriage just isn't saying "I do". I just turned 25 and she's 24. We're working on it fam.
Me and my girl been together since '11. I was in school (Alabama A&M) and slipped got a chick pregnant. Soon afterwards I met my current lady and we became friends but I knew she was feeling me so I told her straight up like yo I got a kid on the way, but me and the babys mom ain't really together like that. She understood and still would drive up to see me (bout a 2-3 hour drive). She would visit often, and even went out her way and mailed me a huge box of baby clothes and items on valentines day. Some time later, the chick miscarried and I was like
but then I was like. Can't even lie. I was devastated over the miscarriage (it was gon be a girl). But I was happy for another start and I HATED the babys moms anyway. Hooked right up with my girl and she been holding me down ever since. We just hit our 4 year anni today. Show ya boy some love. Ima Black King with a Black Queen. Where yall at?
Edit: Some throwing me a lil shade for being 4 years in and not married. A wedding is in the future. Just no rush. We just wanna make sure we're financially and spiritually prepared because marriage just isn't saying "I do". I just turned 25 and she's 24. We're working on it fam.
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Also, congratulations.
it's great when relationships work out. I wish you two many more anniversaries.