Second part; Don't listen to haters both on and offline, plenty of people have been through what you've been through, and many of us have the key, you just need to walk through that door. Obviously, everything is easier said than done, but this is the blueprint. Workout; PPL - Push, pull, legs, you can look that up online but its pretty basic. Think of yourself as unfinished carbon steel. You need to layout the plans and sculpt yourself properly. Again, being only 20% better than a room full of guys, makes you desirable.
You more than likely have some charming characteristics, just expand on those, be a bit bold, don't be afraid to explore a scenario or to be rejected. There's 3.2 billion whores walking around, go venture forth and enjoy. Don't think of it as a need-to, think of it all s an experiment, and you'll soon realize that its all just a game, that you might have the cheat codes for.