I feel you hun! I would like a mate as well! <3 but it's just a major sea of crazies out there! I want men to be happy just as I want the women to be happy! Don't let the bad men discourage you at all! I think the nut jobs are just more brave/forward when it comes to going after women but snap if it doesn't go as planned. I always say men don't approach me they just "stare" but the screaming and following is something that I do go through, which scares me. I probably give off the don't approach me vibe as a safety mechanism which is why I'm still single lol. But do you love!
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I feel you hun! I would like a mate as well! <3 but it's just a major sea of crazies out there! I want men to be happy just as I want the women to be happy! Don't let the bad men discourage you at all! I think the nut jobs are just more brave/forward when it comes to going after women but snap if it doesn't go as planned. I always say men don't approach me they just "stare" but the screaming and following is something that I do go through, which scares me. I probably give off the don't approach me vibe as a safety mechanism which is why I'm still single lol. But do you love!
I don't doubt the slick shyt happens but I will say that u honestly don't have to be a bytch to get disrespected in the streets. Sometimes it's a lose/lose situation. If u don't say anything u are a stuck up bytch too.
I lie to u not.
Something funny I realized about this but related. I remember I was in Wal-Mart with a guy I was dating a few years ago. We split up to get a few items and there was a cable guy who was trying to sell services. His approach to me was so aggressive and I was just demurely telling him no thank you and I'm good. My BF at the time walked past the same dude, looked at him and hit him with the "Nah I said I'm straight". My BF then decided to tell me that I have to be more direct with dudes.
I can't tell u my frustration levels b/c what works for ya'll doesn't work for us. Direct in a female doesn't get the same respect or reaction. Sometimes no matter what we do, it's gonna come down to an issue simply b/c women are more physically vulnerable. It is what it is.
And yeah most people don't handle rejection well but this shyt tends to affect women more b/c men are socialized as aggressors in romance.
I dunno. But on the other hand, I've run into some chicks that overhype this shyt for attention too. "Ewww, he's been staring at us the whole time!"
bytch we at a pool, he's the lifeguard.
Makes it hard to separate legit issues from fukkery.
There will be certain things we just cant relate to....just like theres certain things women cant relate to where we might feel like a victim.....i think there needs to be a chain of command in some of these discussions that we have....women trying to explain they point of view and why we should feel sorry for them,i simply dont think works well.
At best women can relay they grievences a little more logically....and on top of that relay that to level headed brothas,who may not agree....but are willing to logically explain to our brothas why we shouldnt do certain things,and what could be done different.
And on the flip,i think its the same for men....women dont wanna hear alot of shyt from us,or dont understand why we act or do certain things a certain way...maybe we can relay why do certain things to level headed sistas ,and they can relay the message to they fellow women,to put them more at ease.
With all that said,lets be honest,out of all the level headed brothas and sistas out here....many of us on this coli forum actually...how many of us are willing to go to war with the overwhelming ammount of emotionalist that exist....it usually doesnt go anywhere,and in worst case scenario it can come to violence or verbal altercation,which can lead to it,when we try to hold each other to task.
If we only talking on this forum,and not taking risk outside of it,by having these discussions...its really pointless,same goes for social media.
One person in real life telling somebody they wrong,or givig advice...is way more powerful then faceless strangers having a discussion.
95% of the folks on this forum dont have the heart to address the people they consider a problem,and are so passiontley against on here in real life
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The solution brehs is to keep approaching women in a very disrespectful way kinda how @PhonZhi be saying in his approaching threads. If you get rejected tell the chick to have a nice day and keep it moving. Tariq Nasheed's mack lessons and art of mackin teaches you the right way to approach and handle rejection. Dust your shoulders off and KIM. It isn't that hard to comprehend.
I don't doubt the slick shyt happens but I will say that u honestly don't have to be a bytch to get disrespected in the streets. Sometimes it's a lose/lose situation. If u don't say anything u are a stuck up bytch too.
I lie to u not.
Something funny I realized about this but related. I remember I was in Wal-Mart with a guy I was dating a few years ago. We split up to get a few items and there was a cable guy who was trying to sell services. His approach to me was so aggressive and I was just demurely telling him no thank you and I'm good. My BF at the time walked past the same dude, looked at him and hit him with the "Nah I said I'm straight". My BF then decided to tell me that I have to be more direct with dudes.
I can't tell u my frustration levels b/c what works for ya'll doesn't work for us. Direct in a female doesn't get the same respect or reaction. Sometimes no matter what we do, it's gonna come down to an issue simply b/c women are more physically vulnerable. It is what it is.
And yeah most people don't handle rejection well but this shyt tends to affect women more b/c men are socialized as aggressors in romance.
I dunno. But on the other hand, I've run into some chicks that overhype this shyt for attention too. "Ewww, he's been staring at us the whole time!"
bytch we at a pool, he's the lifeguard.
Makes it hard to separate legit issues from fukkery.
People have a tough time relating to experiences outside of what they experience which is why a man can so easily say "well all you gotta do is".
I've seen plenty times where women would try to go the polite route only to have men become even more persistent because they take the politeness as "playing hard to get".
Well where's the fun in that?
"Aye ma lemme holla at cha
Aight fukk you then bytch"
Have seen this first hand
Also have seen a dude literally grab a girls arm and made her come talk to him
You get it
Knows the coli well
NotAnFBIagent
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Pretty sure women are much more likely to be a victim of domestic violence than getting attacked by some random man she curved
NotAnFBIagent
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Op got 530 posts and 430 in the red though
You do not think dudes should aprroach on the streets? For some dudes, it works for them. For others, the social settings like parties, clubs etc work for them. I am of the opinion dudes should apprach wherever they see a pretty chick. If she rejects you then KIM and move on to the next one. Rejection hurts but there are billions of women out there. Like the Pharcyde said
Dudes need to be taught how to control their emotions like men and stop acting like bytchmade fakkits after a chick rejects them.
That real ish
You serious? I've seen a Co worker slander another co worker with gay rumors because he had the nerve (being married) to turn her down.
Women act the craziest with rejection if they approach, and don't ever try to end a relationship with a girl if it's not on her terms.
Cat Lady ☆
Feral
You get it
Knows the coli well
After 2 years here the least I could do was to observe and learn.
I just need a plat thread.
