Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

[no.]

I thought this was about paying for dates. What bills do you have with a dude you're just dating? Cleaning what?

It sets the tone for the relationship though If the guy is bringing her over to cook for him and clean his place when she's staying over, AND he isn't paying for dates, how do you think it'll be moving forward?

 

[FTBS]

Then we'll be ok. We'll take turns doing stuff and support each other.

If my tone is like this, it's because this is THE COLI, where it's generally agreed women should be submissive and domesticated (a thread on this got over 70 daps), yet I see the same posters don't want to provide for women?

Like I said...

Everybody wants things to be all the way there way. Adults understand that isn't realistic and make concessions accordingly.

You can't really give much credence to musings of bruised children .

 

[BezO]

It sets the tone for the relationship though If the guy is bringing her over to cook for him and clean his place when she's staying over, AND he isn't paying for dates, how do you think it'll be moving forward?

You're losing me. What sets the tone? Him paying for dates or not?

 

[no.]

You're losing me. What sets the tone? Him paying for dates or not?

Not just that. It's him not paying for dates (having the expectation that she should help pay for stuff), BUT at the same time having the entitlement that she should serve him with domestic skills in order to be "wifed up"...

Going forward, he'll continue to expect her to pay for stuff and continue to expect her to serve him at the same time. If they ever move in together, they'll both be getting home tired from work, but he gets to rest and relax, while she has a whole new workload to take on alone.

 

[mcdivit85]

Exactly. Even when they "invite" you out, they still expect you to pay.

Where they do that at?

I've had chicks drop me a line on some:

Chick: Hey, I had some business to take care of and I'm about 15 minutes away. Want to grab lunch?

Me: Yea that's cool. What time?

Chick: I'll be there in 20

I always took that as they asked me out because they did.

Dudes need to stand on principle about that. If a chick is going out her way to see you, then her paying for a date shouldn't be an issue.

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

I work in a restaurant, when I get couples, the man always pay,
If you don't wanna to pay, don't expect women to cook."


Dead at yall bragging about having women spending on you guys "if she is feeling you"

Touch a nerve, sis?

Peace

 

[Youseenmywork]

100 years ago, women also didn't have a calendar of dinner dates lined up from a simp roster they've amassed from Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, POF, Tagged, etc.

Our fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers didn't have to worry about paying for something dozens of other nikkas had already had free access to.

Chicks want to bring up how men treated women 100 years ago as if they are the same quality of women from 100 years ago. with that bullshyt.

Damn so accurate

 

[CashmereThoughts]

Netflix, wing stop. I'm getting lemon pepper what flavor your want?




































Oh yeah bring a bottle too.

 

[mcdivit85]

Nah, men be gassed. They want women to pick up the domestic role, but can't even pick up the role of the provider? If he hits me with "you're a modern woman, we can share the bills", I'm going to hit him with "you're a modern man, we can share cooking and cleaning".

Nah, you gassed, baby. But it's all good....The Coli still loves ya

Peace

 

[Youseenmywork]

Exactly. Any woman that charges you for her time is a no go. The dinner thing is an act of generosity that I would choose on my own to do. Ain't no such things as roadblocks from a woman who really likes you.

Last i checked that means the man is getting pimped.

 

[Jahmal]

Where they do that at?

Atlanta

 

[Youseenmywork]

More than anything, women are afraid to talk about their pasts, not solely because of the "number" of bodies per se.

It's all about the selling price. They will always lie about the number of bodies.

But, whether it's 2, 20 or 200, once a man finds out another man or men got it for free, his likelihood of wifing plummets. The amount of time, effort and money he'll put in to get it also plummets!

Revealing the selling price is what scares them.

...and what ive learned its not so much about that body count that makes them a hoe. What makes them a hoe is there decision making when dealing with ceartin men. If a chic has 15 bodies and majority of those was a relationship ...what type of "arrangement" did she have with those other guys that wasnt a "committed" relationship. I have so many question for a lot of these women.

 

[MikelArteta]

15 relationships raises red flags to me

She can't handle a stable long term relationship

And if all these dudes were bad she has bad decision making choices

Gotta sit back like columbo acting all slow and dimwitted and let them underestimate you while you cling to every word, phrase and body language

...and what ive learned its not so much about that body count that makes them a hoe. What makes them a hoe is there decision making when dealing with ceartin men. If a chic has 15 bodies and majority of those was a relationship ...what type of "arrangement" did she have with those other guys that wasnt a "committed" relationship. I have so many question for a lot of these women.

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

I'm only paying for my meal and mine alone

 

[unit321]

If you "expect" a woman to pay for the dinner date, you are emasculating yourself. It has nothing to do with modern day relationship standards. When you "look" like a mooch, "act" like a mooch, have expectations of a "mooch", then that is what you are. Word gets around. Your reputation is one of a boy, not a grown man. You want to know who is wearing the pants in a relationship where the woman is paying for the meal? It definitely isn't the dude. Go to a work-related Christmas party, everyone will look at you like the cheapest d-bag of the universe. "Oh, you're so-and-so's boyfriend. I've heard lots about you. Nice to meet you. <fake smile>".
If the relationship has been going along for awhile and she wants to 'treat' you, that's different.