Social Media Will Cause More & More Women To Have the "Melyssa Ford" Dilemma

[Ashley Banks]

I'm not sure it's as much of a problem as people think. People are caught up in their ideals to the point that anything that jives with it is a problem usually.

The way I see it, these girls only seem like a majority when most women I know don't really put themselves out there on social media websites like that. And even the ones that do - eventually they find someone who's into them, with such a large presence it's hard not to. Not sure taking pictures online makes them unwifeable personally. Doesn't indicate promiscuity either - the most promiscuous girl I've ever known (who took my virginity actually lol) has almost no online presence other than her OKCupid account which no longer exists. (and she has a boyfriend too )

There's someone out there for everyone IMO. For every guy that gets funny about girls who do this type of stuff, there's guys who don't care. Let em cook, I say

You didn't know? This is the coli, posting pictures on a website made for sharing pictures makes you a worthless, unwifeable, hoe. A lot of these chicks don't even have nude pictures just a lot of random selfies and bikini pics, somehow that makes them thots. The coli is just creating another reason to shyt on something women like.

 

[Tae]

You didn't know? This is the coli, posting pictures on a website made for sharing pictures makes you a worthless, unwifeable, hoe. A lot of these chicks don't even have nude pictures just a lot of random selfies and bikini pics, somehow that makes them thots. The coli is just creating another reason to shyt on something women like.

Its not the posting of pictures it is the type of pictures.
If 75% of your pics on Instagram are of yourself and/or of yourself scantily clad then that screams to me "attention seeker" and "looking for validation". Those qualities don't typically make for a good partner.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Its not the posting of pictures it is the type of pictures.
If 75% of your pics on Instagram are of yourself and/or of your self scantily clad then that screams to me "attention seeker" and "looking for validation". Those qualities don't typically make for a good partner.

In your opinion, not all guys care about that. The coli constantly makes the mistake of thinking all men want the same type of woman they want. They're forgetting that there are married prostitutes, married strippers, married porn stars etc but yet they think an attractive woman will have a problem finding a man because she posts non-nude pictures on her instagram.

 

[TM101]

I don't know, I think a lot guys don't care as long as she contiues to look good

 

[the cac mamba]

There are plenty of men out here that would "wife" a Melyssa Ford.
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[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Yall need to show the receipts mayne

How many IG accounts are owned by thots

If u cant put a hard number on it u are full of shyt.

 

[PlainSight]

You didn't know? This is the coli, posting pictures on a website made for sharing pictures makes you a worthless, unwifeable, hoe. A lot of these chicks don't even have nude pictures just a lot of random selfies and bikini pics, somehow that makes them thots. The coli is just creating another reason to shyt on something women like.

It's the same on other forums really, even the female forums where some of the girls think this way, then the "red pillers" invade them on some infiltration tip

It's just strong remnants of old moral guidelines, which were made obviously for a reason. People who fall outside of them are always going to be targets of ridicule as long as those guidelines of "how people are supposed to be" stay in the consciousness. As a slightly loose & off-topic example, every day when I interact with people I have to alter my entire behavior and be a certain way. It's not difficult as I don't have to act opposite to my character, but being autistic, there are weird habits that I can't do around people otherwise I'm an outlier.

Nowadays, there's more of a push for acceptance of people outside realms of what is deemed "normal" and "right". I've always been a pretty accommodating person so this isn't something I'm necessarily against, but the backlash from others is an interesting observation. I've mentioned before but I'm against what they call "slut-shaming" - I don't do it. I do think there is a point where it becomes excessive to be too promiscuous but let them do them as I see it. If I really meshed with a chick, then I would date her regardless of her past. If it don't work out, it don't work out, I ain't gonna cry about it. And I'm a big boy, so "simp" insults aren't going to bother me

I've gone on a bit of a tangent but the point is, people everywhere - not just the coli - still hold people to these particular standards of behavior. It's more magnified here but it's not that different. It's a shame for those who fall outside, but judgements will always be made sadly.

As an aside, if dudes really wanted to stop encouraging "hoes", they'd stop fukking them, but the cycle will always continue

 

[Tae]

In your opinion, not all guys care about that. The coli constantly makes the mistake of thinking all men want the same type of woman they want. They're forgetting that there are married prostitutes, married strippers, married porn stars etc but yet they think an attractive woman will have a problem finding a man because she posts non-nude pictures on her instagram.

A woman can be a stripper or prostitute and not be looking to others for validation or attention.
When women constantly post pics of themselves (especially scantily clad) on Instagram it screams to that they are looking for the attention and "likes" of others and are a bit self-absorbed. They can easily get a dude but can they keep a man.

 

[Ashley Banks]

But he didn't say all or even most women he said more and more women. Someone like Amber Rose got married but she also got divorced.
A woman can be a stripper or prostitute and not be looking to others for validation or attention.
When women constantly post pics of themselves (especially scantily clad) on Instagram it screams to that they are looking for the attention and "likes" of others and are a bit self-absorbed. They can easily get a dude but can they keep a man.

so liking attention is worse than selling your body and taking off your clothes for money, got it. and whether they can "keep a man" or not is not up to them or the type of person they are, it's up to the man, you could be amazing to a man but if he wants to leave, he will leave. I hope you're not a female saying stuff like "can they keep a man". shyt is gross. If you are, maybe you missed the thread on here with guys saying they plan to leave their wives when they get "too old".

 

[Tae]

so liking attention is worse than selling your body and taking off your clothes for money, got it. and whether they can "keep a man" or not is not up to them or the type of person they are, it's up to the man, you could be amazing to a man but if he wants to leave, he will leave. I hope you're not a female saying stuff like "can they keep a man". shyt is gross. If you are, maybe you missed the thread on here with guys saying they plan to leave their wives when they get "too old".

Never said it was. I don't necessarily consider prostitution or stripping a bad thing either way.
I agree that there's no real way to "keep a man", because human beings are fickle, however I still maintain that constantly seeking out attention is not an ideal quality for a partner.
Furthermore it also calls into question they types of men these women are attracting. Are they attracting men that want to be a one woman man for the rest of his life?

 

[philmonroe]

Its not the posting of pictures it is the type of pictures.
If 75% of your pics on Instagram are of yourself and/or of yourself scantily clad then that screams to me "attention seeker" and "looking for validation". Those qualities don't typically make for a good partner.

Everybody looks for "validation" in their own way why be pissed theirs is different from yours? I think the real thing is dudes don't want no competition (which I can understand) so they pick the chick they think look,the best and won't have dudes gunning for,them. Chances are you want that you going to get a chick that's not that good looking

 

[Dwolf]

Not all women want to get married and have kids.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

This thread got me thinking: http://www.thecoli.com/threads/how-in-the-world-is-melyssa-ford-not-married.309604/

Basicly with more and more females posting half naked pics and doing things online that will make them unwifeable its going to be harder for a lot of women to find men that would look past their "online" past and make them wives. Every pic and hookup and rumor is available with a quick google search. All of these IG "models" and video girls are gonna have a rude awakening when their assets depreciate and theyre ready to settle down. Very few men would wanna wife someone who has her body pics and past sex escapedes available with a click of a button

then they will find a white simp because black men can't "handle" them.

 

[Tae]

Everybody looks for "validation" in their own way why be pissed theirs is different from yours? I think the real thing is dudes don't want no competition (which I can understand) so they pick the chick they think look,the best and won't have dudes gunning for,them. Chances are you want that you going to get a chick that's not that good looking

Who's pissed?
I said those qualities don't necessarily make for a good partner. If you crave the "likes"/approval of others, especially strangers to help feel good about yourself then you are probably bringing insecurity to the relationship. When the most someone has to share are pics of themselves, what does that say about what they have to offer in a relationship?

 

[jeh]

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