Spin:Do black women really nurture black men?

[Neuromancer]

The Black women more prone to nurture Black men tend to be the ones we don't want. The Black women who give us the biggest headaches tend to be who we go after.

Not I sir.

 

[Neuromancer]

Some nikkas' moms aint shyt......


Just ask around.....

I know of two examples of abuse by mothers. One physical the other sexual.

 

[intra vires]

Most of the women in my family are. Some are rubbish though

All of my female friends are... if they weren't I wouldn't be friends with them (of course it's reciprocated).

I personally don't care for generalizing people, especially my own people, so I'm going to leave it at that.

 

[Neuromancer]

These threads always make me feel shame. Shame about how bad things have gotten between bw and bm.

There’s so much toxic energy and it’s gonna mestastize it’s something else. The new generation is already on some fukk shyt.
Black boys are emotionally castrated and lack guidance and black girls are desperate for affection and a sense of importance. It’s sad but to answer your question. No.

My Mama nurtures me and that’s all I need. I am not entitled to black women’s nurturing but they should not expect protection from me either. Random bw and bm for that matter, are just people to me. It used to be depressing but hey it’s life. Skinfolk ain’t kinfolk, I guess.

The most nurtured I’ve ever been has been by non-black women. And that confuses me. Around bw, i feel invisible and unimportant. But growing up it was a Cuban Mestiza who made me feel important or a white girl who saw me and made me feel special. I’m not just divulging bedbuck fantasies here. I want to heal. Cuz I know a lot of bw, say they feel the same way. It hurts me when a sister says she felt the most love when it was with a nonblack man and that the most pain she endured was from her own. We don’t love each other the way we used to

Why do you think this is?

 

[nullnullnullnull]

Why do you think this is?

The crack epidemic, globalization, weirdly misplaced expectations, feminism, western media, hip hop culture, post colonial and post segregation breakdown of the black family, academia that panders to some people by demonizing others and the continued stupidity of giving instigators a voice.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I was very loved by my mother, sister, grandmother, god mother and my aunts. So for my personal case the answer is yes.

That being said I can ALSO see where socioeconomic problems and societal/racial stress may make SOME sisters more hostile than their Caucasian counter part. It’s tough been a black Women when you have to argue and defend your femininity (I am woman) and your racial existence ( I am black) on a daily basis . For black women it comes down to this, they’re looked at as more masculine in comparison to white women (darker = Violent and aggressive/ white= Safe, soft, pure, etc) so they get treated worse in the work force. But they’re women who have been fetishized by society as giving it up quickly and only known for their physical assets (emphasis on ass), add the fact they’re female ( weaker physically than male) so men are willing to be more assertive and aggressive in violent ways ( RIP Sandra bland, Nia Wilson, Chareleena Wilson, Korreyn Gaines and Rekia Boyd). Add the fact they’re considered uglier by the white patriarch society you can understand where SOME black women can go off on the rails and lack the time “to nurture”.

I really wish I knew what to do but nobody wants to offer/debate credible solutions.

 

[Henri Christophe]

I really wish I knew what to do but nobody wants to offer/debate credible solutions.

Aint nothing you can do.


Just make sure the women in your family are always taken care of, and keep their self esteem sky high.


That's all you can do.

Let the next man worry about his own family...... you don't need to go around handling other people's responsibility

 

[010101]

women give to what they have been given

the rule of relationships generally is reciprocation

most people are trying to get over on one another

there's no love to give on either side

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[Caprisun]

The ones in my life do. I don't really take what I see on the internet to heart.

 

[Neuromancer]

Aint nothing you can do.


Just make sure the women in your family are always taken care of, and keep their self esteem sky high.


That's all you can do.

Let the next man worry about his own family...... you don't need to go around handling other people's responsibility

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

AA women aren’t nurturing at all. Even more so now that the younger generation of AA women are pushing that toxic feminist anti male bullshyt far more than anyone else

East African women are extremely nurturing as are Non Nigerian West African women

Islander women is a mix

 

[King of Creampies]

I can be fortunate enough to say black women are nuturing since that is what I have experienced in my life as a black man...

My mother. My eldest sister. The security guard who I met at the last start up job I worked who would always take time out to see if I was ok, the older black nurse who held me and sang to me while I was having a panic attack before I went into surgery...

So yes...I can say AA women are nurturing.

 

[Taadow]

Nurture - to care for and encourage the growth and development of

Going by this definition, I would say yes.

...but the real questions become "how do they do so?" and "why do they do it?"

 

[Reno89]

Going by this definition, I would say yes.

...but the real questions become "how do they do so?" and "why do they do it?"

If you say that black women do nurture black men, why do you feel the need to ask how they nurture black men? You should already have examples.

 

[The Fade]

Every woman I’ve met in my family has been.