This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

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Call Me James said:
Black men are still in this thread complaining that a black woman helped a black man out when he was down while also complaining about black men having to go at it alone.

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I ain’t complaining so much as I am pointing out why a lot of BW and BM don’t see eye to eye in relationships and why so many crash and burn.
The story doesn’t end at marriage my friend it starts at marriage.

We live in the age of microwaveable relationships, if she has done before even saying I do, I have to wonder how much fuel she has left over during the marriage and involving kids.

I foresee it ending just as soon as it started and if as a man you don’t see what’s wrong with that picture. Then...:hubie:
 
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I’m 50/50 on this now that I’m older.

This was over 10 years ago when ya boy was young and in college.

My first long term girlfriend who was a few years older than me did some of the things this lady did.

She had a giving spirit and I took advantage of it.

For my B-Day she bought me a $2,700 laptop.

Paid for our meals, bought me clothes, etc.

I needed a new vehicle because my car died on me and couldn’t be repaired. She helped me finance a new Yukon. Her credit was A1 for a 23 year old.

Looking back on all this we were young, each other’s first sexual partners and she was madly in love with me. Even though I was broke back then she didn’t care, she was in love.

Looking back on it. I would have married her but I was young and dumb and focused on clapping as many cheeks as I could.

I broke up with her and broke her heart.

Now that I’m married and a dad to a little girl I would caution my daughter to stay away from someone like me when I was at my lowest.

My mother and father taught me to be a responsible and self made man, and mom dukes would always say, “Stop letting her do those things for you. And, I hope you are not using her.”
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My ex came at just the right time and in a sense I used her, but I did care for her.

A few years after our relationship we reconciled and she told me that the next man she gets with she would not do the things for him that she did for me :francis:

To you young bruhs out there, be on your purpose!
 
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Ya? said:
We live in the age of microwaveable relationships, if she has done before even saying I do, I have to wonder how much fuel she has left over during the marriage and involving kids.
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breh... what are you talking about?
again.... lets imagine people date for 10 years... and those are a hard 10 years.... they get married right...
then they have to be married FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES.

scenario:
meet at 25... get married at 35
life expectancy around 80

thats 45 years of marriage...
if a woman is gassed out before being marriage because she helped pay rent and buy a laptop... she ain't built for marriage period.

helping a guy financially should take alot of energy is he's a righteous person...
dude didn't say he was cheating and having hella baby mommas, and getting locked up or on drugs...
dude said he was working on his business and needed help financially with a few things...

your view is so pessimistic for no reason
 
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Gotdamn :mjcry:

All this thread proves is that in this society, you can be a

criminal, drug dealer, downlow homosexual, scammer, pathological liar, murderer, ephebophile, sociopath, sex addict, hater, mentally challenged, mentally deranged, drug addict, deadbeat dad, woman beater, rapist, c00n, bedbuck, illiterate, dyslexic, handicapped, handicapable, unhygenic, ugly, fat, cock-eyed, crosseyed, lazy-eyed, chronically ill, constipated, effeminate, hypermasculine, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, socially awkward, 2 genders, 3, genders, genocidal or antiblack and find love and demand respect,

But if you're a broke nikka you better not even think of stepping to a female cuz you not even worth the air you breathing. Money runs everything around me.:wow:
 
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Dude is an aspiring rapper well that changes everything. If he was in medical school or law school that would be different. I know plenty of professionals who when they were in grad school their girlfriends held it down for them. I misunderstood what OP’s intentions. I would never depend on a chick to pay my bills or give me money. I would never take money from my girlfriend because it’s just my pride. I’m in grad school and my girl is working yet I still provide for most dates. Sometimes we divide up responsibilities. For example if I’m paying for dinner she pays for the Uber/Lyft. Or if we to the movies I pay for the tickets she gets the food etc. However I would say 8 times out of 10 I pay for shyt. If I’m in a rough patch I never ask her for money even though she says she would give me money but nah that ain’t happening.Because a woman will lose respect for you if you ask for money even once. She is working and making more than me but in the longer term once I finish imma make more than her.

Another thing too @Ya? I see what you are saying that non black women choose men who have potential in things that are tangible. Like if he is in med school, law school, getting his MBA, etc. Basically he is struggling in the short term but in the longer term any investment will come two fold. A struggling rapper/comedian/actor is not an intangible investment to invest in. If I had a daughter I wouldn’t want her to do what this woman did. fukk outta here.
 
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ZoeGod said:
Dude is an aspiring rapper well that changes everything. If he was in medical school or law school that would be different. I know plenty of professionals who when they were in grad school their girlfriends held it down for them. I misunderstood what OP’s intentions. I would never depend on a chick to pay my bills or give me money. I would never take money from my girlfriend because it’s just my pride. I’m in grad school and my girl is working yet I still provide for most dates. Sometimes we divide up responsibilities. For example if I’m paying for dinner she pays for the Uber/Lyft. Or if we to the movies I pay for the tickets she gets the food etc. However I would say 8 times out of 10 I pay for shyt. If I’m in a rough patch I never ask her for money even though she says she would give me money but nah that ain’t happening.Because a woman will lose respect for you if you ask for money even once. She is working and making more than me but in the longer term once I finish imma make more than her.

Another thing too @Ya? I see what you are saying that non black women choose men who have potential in things that are tangible. Like if he is in med school, law school, getting his MBA, etc. Basically he is struggling in the short term but in the longer term any investment will come two fold. A struggling rapper/comedian/actor is not an intangible investment to invest in. If I had a daughter I wouldn’t want her to do what this woman did. fukk outta here.
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To be fair he’s graduated from college. This woman paid for him to go

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Its embarrassing at how lowly he started but no judgement were he embraced his journey and downfalls with her and is happy with him. So no worries.
 
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