This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

[Elle Driver]

Good to hear. My best friend growing up had something similar. He starts dating his girlfriend in college. He drops out of college they move in together with her still going to college (while dropped out of school he works odd jobs). She graduates from college with a nice paying job. She ends up paying most of the bills in the house and pays for the cars. She eventually encourages him to go back to school. He goes back to school and finishes then goes to law school (all the while she pays most of the bills). During law school they have 2 kids. He graduates and becomes a lawyer and marries his girlfriend. With his new career he can make good money and tells tells her she can be a stay at home wife since she has been working for years putting him through school.

She stays at home for 6 years (in between he leaves law and becomes a VP at a large company). She informs my friend (her husband) that she would like to go to medical school and become a doctor. He pays out of pocket and sends his wife to medical school and she becomes a doctor (she is now doing her residency).

I remember my friend's wife telling my wife that her girlfriends would hate on her for dating my friend back in the day calling him sorry and not good enough for her. She said she never forgets that shyt to this day and makes sure to throw that shyt in their face now. Especially now when they crying about how they ain't got a man and how she picked a good one...

She be like whatever hoe you said he wasn't shyt (as she sips wine in her 400k house with a 10k rock on her hand all paid for by her husband)

Most women ain’t willing to be around before the come up.

 

[Originalman]

Most women ain’t willing to be around before the come up.

Its a shame sista cause a lot of women (no matter the race) miss out on potential great mates. And I ain't talking about holding out for some dude who trying to be an entertainer or athlete either. I am talking about dudes with realistic career goals.

I got a cousin right now who is kicking herself cause she was in college following around some clown cause he had a little dough and was the cool kid in college. All the while the square dudes with real potential she was curbing. One dude she curbed for 4 years is now the assistant dean at a university and another dude she was curbing is a big time plastic surgeon now.

My cousin was mentioning just this past weekend how she fukked up and wasted that time with that chump (who now is a bum living at home with his parents living off they asses). Instead of dating either one of the squares (now made men) she was curbing.

 

[Elle Driver]

Its a shame sista cause a lot of women (no matter the race) miss out on potential great mates. And I ain't talking about holding out for some dude who trying to be an entertainer or athlete either. I am talking about dudes with realistic career goals.

I got a cousin right now who is kicking herself cause she was in college following around some clown cause he had a little dough and was the cool kid in college. All the while the square dudes with real potential she was curbing. One dude she curbed for 4 years is now the assistant dean at a university and another dude she was curbing is a big time plastic surgeon now.

My cousin was mentioning just this past weekend how she fukked up and wasted that time with that chump (who now is a bum living at home with his parents living off they asses). Instead of dating either one of the squares (now made men) she was curbing.

What even makes them dudes squares?

 

[Originalman]

What even makes them dudes squares?

She said they were nerds. I remember when she use to mention they hit on here. I told her when she went to school to ignore the jocks and too cool for school kats in college. The dudes who were gonna be something were the nerds in the front row who got all the good grades.

I was like look if you gonna get you a boyfriend get you a nerdy brotha that sits up front and gets all the good grades. You know the one that studies all the time and none of the girls want. Thats the dude who gonna be something big and will eventually grow out if his shell. He will look totally different in 10 years and go from the dude no one wanted to the dude everyone wanted.

She told me then forget that she needed a boy with a sense of style, fashion and someone all the other girls wanted (to be 18 to 22 again..lol)

And she ended up with the big guy on campus who was the cool pretty boy. Only thing the brotha was lazy, didn't want to study and was only there cause his parents made him and they had money.

 

[Elle Driver]

She said they were nerds. I remember when she use to mention they hit on here. I told her when she went to school to ignore the jocks and too cool for school kats in college. The dudes who were gonna be something were the nerds in the front row who got all the good grades.

I was like look if you gonna get you a boyfriend get you a nerdy brotha that sits up front and gets all the good grades. You know the one that studies all the time and none of the girls want. Thats the dude who gonna be something big and will eventually grow out if his shell. He will look totally different in 10 years and go from the dude no one wanted to the dude everyone wanted.

She told me then forget that she needed a boy with a sense of style, fashion and someone all the other girls wanted (to be 18 to 22 again..lol)

And she ended up with the big guy on campus who was the cool pretty boy. Only thing the brotha was lazy, didn't want to study and was only there cause his parents made him and they had money.

I wish someone could’ve told me at 18-22 that you dumb af at that age and look at the bigger picture. We be so dumb at that age.

 

[Originalman]

I wish someone could’ve told me at 18-22 that you dumb af at that age and look at the bigger picture. We be so dumb at that age.

We do sista. A old kat (like 50) who was like my mentor told me when I was 19. If your dumb ass is in college not looking for a mate you half stepping. Where else you gonna find multiple women your age, trying to get educated like you, having the same goals as you and with similar like minds as you.

I was like sir you are right. Now my parents told me the same but of course as a kid I never listened to that. But when he told me it hit a nerve. Crazy part was he ended up hooking me up on a date with his niece that went to jackson state. But we always had conflicts in schedule so we only went on one date.

Anyway what he said stuck with me and eneded up meeting my eventual wife in college. So I really owe it to him cause he forced me to look at the dating game as a end result and not as something just to do.

 

[BornReady]

Cool, but he should've kept that between them. A lot of Black American men have no problem letting the world know a woman was taking care of them. At the end of the day, you're a man, and you shouldn't date if you're not self sufficient.

 

[Elle Driver]

We do sista. A old kat (like 50) who was like my mentor told me when I was 19. If your dumb ass is in college not looking for a mate you half stepping. Where else you gonna find multiple women your age, trying to get educated like you, having the same goals as you and with similar like minds as you.

I was like sir you are right. Now my parents told me the same but of course as a kid I never listened to that. But when he told me it hit a nerve. Crazy part was he ended up hooking me up on a date with his niece that went to jackson state. But we always had conflicts in schedule so we only went on one date.

Anyway what he said stuck with me and eneded up meeting my eventual wife in college. So I really owe it to him cause he forced me to look at the dating game as a end result and not as something just to do.

You went to Jackson State? How’d you like the sip?

 

[Originalman]

You went to Jackson State? How’d you like the sip?

I went to USM for undergrad then Miss State for Grad.

My parents would only let me go to Mississippi for college if I left Illinois since my dad side of the family was there. The options were to go to Jackson State or USM. Since I had cousins at both universities who would keep an eye on me.

Being from chicago I picked USM since going to J state was considered a mini chicago with all the chicago transplants there..... Oh to be young and dumb....

Love the sip my bad ass use to be in New Orleans and Atlanta every other weekend...if my parents knew how wild my cousins were.

 

[Elle Driver]

I went to USM for undergrad then Miss State for Grad.

My parents would only let me go to Mississippi for college if I left Illinois since his side of the family was there. The options were to go to Jackson State and USM. Since I had cousins at both universities who would keep an eye on me.

Being from chicago I picked USM since going to J state was considered a mini chicago with all the chicago transplants there..... Oh to be young and dumb....

Love the sip my bad ass use to be in New Orleans and Atlanta every other weekend...if my parents knew how wild my cousins were.

Some Chicago folks are country like folks from the Sip lol.

 

[Originalman]

Some Chicago folks are country like folks from the Sip lol.

Yes ma'am my daddy one of them...

You know that great migration. My dad side of the family from Mississippi and my moms side is from Alabama.

Guess thats why I ended up marrying a country sista from Mississippi...

 

[BXKingPin82]

I remember when I was struggling to beat MegaMan 11 not too long ago.
See, there was this bouncey level where youd be bouncing around smackin into shyt.


I started to feel low.
I didnt know if Id be able to overcome this hardship.

But my Boobi was there for me.
She cheered me on.
She helped me stay positive.
She even rolled my Ls sometimes when my hands were sore.
Had the s'mores Poptarts on deck.


And guess what?
I beat it yall!


I love that woman so much.

 

[Gold]

Bump bump bump it up

 

[EndDomination]

There’s a lot of hurt women who supported ain’t shyt nikkas who threw it back in their face. That’s why this story resonates with them. They’re mad at their lack of returns on their investments.

But rather than just accept they chose wrong, they want to say all nikkas ain’t shyt.

If I invest my life earnings into some stock that turns out to be worthless, do I blame the whole stock market or my poor decisions?

Women want to invest in Nike but Nike is an established brand and has a lot of options. They rarely want to invest in the unknown brand that has potential because it’s not as flashy or desirable. And then they get upset when that unknown brand becomes the next Nike and are mad they missed out on that opportunity because they were busy chasing Nike, Reebok, Adidas etc.

Or because most investments in unknown brands end in the person losing their money
Plenty of men play the game, the same as women. They use someone's love for gain, and rinse them.
its a cold world out here.

 

[EndDomination]

To me a bum is someone who is not trying.

People keep saying "what if it was your daughter's boyfriend" when the answer is simple. If I valued his character, I would treat him like a son and help him get on his feet.

It's like people have lost sight of the meaning of family when engaging in relationships.

If he's in his mid-20s and homeless, he's not trying that hard.

This is very true especially with white and asian women. You see it in college they will literally change majors and move to cities to follow dudes. Then the kat blows up with a high paying gig and marries her....and folks shocked.

I have literally seen white girls see a nerd who sits at the front of the class in some high paying field and will latch on to him. With the end goal of marrying him once he gets a job and is on his feet.

Them jokers are just trained to be very strategic in the dating process.

This is more a sheer numbers game than anything else. White and Asian women are getting thrown to the bushes left and right everywhere.
Even still, White and Asian men are more likely to marry women than AA men are.

That is called being practical.

Women all over the World do that, which is how they find husbands. African American women used to do that too, which is why Big Mama and older Black women had husbands. I never ever heard an older Black woman say that there ain't no good men. I only hear that from modern Black women who have frustrated themselves with stupid notions about what is a man and what a relationship is supposed to be like and about some supposed ridiculous level that they themselves are not even on.

I think you're missing a pretty crucial key part: marriage rates in the past were higher, people got married younger, and men as a whole were more likely to propose.
Men were also on the grind from their teens on to try and make a living, and access to industrial and manufacturing jobs with a lower education level made things a hell of a lot easier.