This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

[Reece]

That’s cool but he’s a bum.

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

An what percentage of the male population does that consist??

Men don’t reward these types of women with commitment or gratitude. They just prime them to continue to be used. I know way too many black women who do this already and have nothing to show for it but sad tales.

And so, some men do reward that. Just like you can treat a woman like a queen and more often than not she will respond by cheating on you. When you date you are playing scumbag minesweeper, that's just the way it is.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Hoe babble ...

This is a stable man who had a rough patch

Those are her businesses.

 

[litty]

Brehs if you on you're grind and want some support. Please get with a non-black chick. This thread is showing you that black people don't give a fukk if your're tryna hustle and find your way and might need some help.

Get you a white, latina or asian chick and she will stand by you way faster than black woman it seems. if we going by this thread

PLEASE listen to this man!!!! Just date out! Stop wasting Black women's time!

Non Black women will trick on you. Just do it! Please!!!



Super serious

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Those are her businesses.

Give it up nikka
Go play your Xbox one

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

And I was raised that a man should be a provider and protector by my father and not have to rely on a woman for my livelihood.

And that conversation in my Op was literally the most talked about post on my timeline yesterday hence why I bought it here.

How is that man/tweet keeping you from being a provider and a protector?

Were you also raised to be a chatty patty?

 

[xCivicx]

Yeah this couldn't be me at all

I honestly dont view any male that lives off of a female to be a grown man

At the same time there are a lot of females out here who will only choose men that said females can control in some way or another

 

[MikelArteta]

Um seems like the type of women you'd want to marry you , a woman whose been with you when you had nothing and helped you grow as a man and instead of nagging and discouraging you celebrating your accomplishments

 

[PhillyzFinest]

1. Everybody's situation is unique to them. No two couples are alike.

2. She gave to him, helped him. Now he wants to marry her. No big deal here.

3. There's a difference between giving and investing. When you give, you're not expecting anything in return. Clearly she was in position to give, so she gave.

4. When you invest, you're looking to get a return (profit) on your investment. But guess what? Whether you're a man or a woman... you're not ever GUARANTEED a return on just about anything you invest in.

5. That includes people. Everyone no matter how financially secure they are, take risks with their emotions and the course of their lives depending on who they choose to date and marry.

6. If a woman is pissed off at this story and outraged, they are entitled to their opinion and their position. We act like there isn't at least 100 years of generational evidence pointing to endless stories of black men that - when it comes to relationships - have shytted on black women in every possible way. And somehow we're going to pretend that they aren't aware of the risks associated. If this triggers some women, I'm not all the way judging.

7. You are going to be impacted by the decisions you make. You and only you.

8. I wish the couple the best!

 

[Maxine Shaw]

I hope she knows how this movie ends.

I just wanna know how you can be a grown-ass man and never have owned a car until your girl bought you one.

And before you ask...NO, ,this would not be acceptable if the roles were reversed. In fact, it would be downright dangerous. You let a breh pay your rent, your car, your computer...until you break up and he wants all that shyt back. NO, MA'AM.

 

[Umoja]

Yall think this is love

This is 100% codependency .

Emotionally healthy women don't entertain homeless men and make them their project

Yall really think she "loved" him so much to be doing all that after just meeting him?
Something in her "clicked " and she saw a man who she could "help" (aka control) . This dude didn't have shyt so she knew he wouldn't leave her.
She's obviously an attractive woman and could have gotten a much more stable man, but guarantee you she wouldn't be attracted to that. 9 times out of 10 women like this come from dysfunctional childhoods, which is a nice chunk of the black community, so of course many of you don't see anything wrong with it.


Codependent Behavior 101

Codepedence is a long term relationship.... who would have thought

Again, this is why so many relationships are failing. People are in it with the expectation or knowledge that they don't need their significant other. When you don't need something, you value it less and find it easier to walk away from.

If that's how you want to live your life, fair enough. Just don't act shocked when it leads to dead ends romantically.

 

[southern.girl]

Codepedence is a long term relationship.... who would have thought

Again, this is why so many relationships are failing. People are in it with the expectation or knowledge that they don't need their significant other. When you don't need something, you value it less and find it easier to walk away from.

If that's how you want to live your life, fair enough. Just don't act shocked when it leads to dead ends romantically.

To be fair, codependency may have been the wrong word, b/c I have yet to see any reason why this woman needs her fiancé.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Seems like love is zero interest loans with the option to pay back for a lot of you. If she did all of this and he decided to leave her, nikkas would be in here talking about how she wasn't entitled to marriage just for being a nice person and I'd completely agree.

I just find it to be extremely telling how in one thread nikkas complain about women prioritizing their education, in another, nikkas complain about Black women not allowing their men to lead, in another telling women to choose better after they're "investments" don't bear fruit but in here calling a woman a real one for ignoring countless red flags and building a man up while from homelessness.

If this story came from the women's angle and she listed out the 10 things she's done for a man only for him to leave her, you nikkas would be shytting on her for doing all of these things for a homeless aspiring rapper. Whole thread would be "choose better"

The only reason this is a feel good story for you nikkas is because a Black man won off the labor of a Black woman.

All of these inconsistencies is exactly why when nikkas start puffin out their chests with all these bro tales and silly bits of advice for women, I have to hit em with the

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Why'd he put all his business out there like that?

Real G's move in silence like lasagna. Man or woman no one should be a social media hoe

That line right there hit me hard outta nowhere..Repped
(Edit: I had to think about it for a second...
"I mean lasagna don't make no noise in the oven...so I guess it is silen---OOOOH the G is silent!!! That's so damn clever! It's been a rough day...and my cookies got me lit.)

 

[1LurkerChick9]

Codepedence is a long term relationship.... who would have thought

Again, this is why so many relationships are failing. People are in it with the expectation or knowledge that they don't need their significant other. When you don't need something, you value it less and find it easier to walk away from.

If that's how you want to live your life, fair enough. Just don't act shocked when it leads to dead ends romantically.

LOL now were changing the meanings of things

The term originated with AA( alcoholics anonymous ) for a reason.

Codependents enable the poor decision making habits of their partners by keeping them from dealing with the consequences of their choices

If your relationship is codependent, I suggest you see a therapist