UCLA Study: Women want bad boys to knock them up, nice guys to raise the babies...

[Ziggiy]

That some game of thrones shyt I would be heated

 

[Ziggiy]

Being nice guy doesn't mean
you are a simp or a pushover

I'm the nicest person in the world but I'm not a sucker and I'm not scared to speak my mind.

Got to find balance and you won't get played

 

[Ashley Banks]

I ain't say all that

I mean things like make him cook and clean for a while, paint ya nails, some shyt like that



Don't get carried away with the no sex stuff


You sure are emotional. Usually emotional girls bomb in bed

No I mean I would never cook for him, or clean anything for him and NEVER have sex with him again, and he wouldn't paint my toes because I wouldn't want him to touch me. So don't you think it would be better for me to just leave?

not concerned, just curious about how the logic and maybe i learn a different way of thinking.

your original post was about how him assuming you're a cheating (and therefore a hoe) made you feel and could make you end your marriage (which is your right). that was the main reason why you would leave him in that hypothetical scenario (it wasn't about dragging the children). the main thing that was hurting you was the lack of trust. but either way it's a lack of trust. either way he thinks you could be a hoe (again, this is all following your logic).

since we've established that either way would mean he thinks you're a hoe (not that i agree but let's assume) let's forget the children situation for a second. what would make you stay in a situation where your life partner who has known you for years, would treat you like a hoe by checking your phone/social media?

how many times do I have to say I don't think it's the same? I already said I wouldn't leave for checking email/social media. What don't you understand?

I strictly said I have a problem with the paternity test. not checking email/social media

and again in case you're still curious. I don't think it's the same so I don't treat it the same way.

 

[MalikReloaded]

not concerned, just curious about how the logic and maybe i learn a different way of thinking.

your original post was about how him assuming you're a cheating (and therefore a hoe) made you feel and could make you end your marriage (which is your right). that was the main reason why you would leave him in that hypothetical scenario (it wasn't about dragging the children). the main thing that was hurting you was the lack of trust. but either way it's a lack of trust. either way he thinks you could be a hoe (again, this is all following your logic).

since we've established that either way would mean he thinks you're a hoe (not that i agree but let's assume) let's forget the children situation for a second. what would make you stay in a situation where your life partner who has known you for years, would treat you like a hoe by checking your phone/social media?

Just leave it alone man.

She's selfish.

She wants some dude to raise her kid for 20 years on her word that it's his kid and if he requests a DNA test she'll divorce him and destroy the family because her feelings were hurt.

Him raising a kid that's not his for 2 decades >>>>>> her feeling disrespected two weeks. What she's doing is emotional blackmail Either do it her way or she's divorcing you.

 

[Mowgli]

I don't agree.

Women are hypergamous by nature

The women that are on your paygrade are usually looking for someone above her paygrade.

Women want to look "up" to men. Not eye to eye or down at them.

So for your theory to work harmoniously, men would actually have to date a few levels below.

Then her hypergamy can feel like she "won", otherwise she'll always feel like she could do better.

A nerd can only go so far down before everyone looks the same.

Nerds with nerds.

Above your paygrade is an analogy meaning above what you can handle and have your way

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

No I mean I would never cook for him, or clean anything for him and NEVER have sex with him again, and he wouldn't paint my toes because I wouldn't want him to touch me. So don't you think it would be better for me to just leave?

Nah. Because if you really loved him it wouldn't be that easy for you to leave. Maybe you should reevaluate your feelings for him in the first place

 

[Phitz]

the theories you all come up with

 

[Turbulent]

No I mean I would never cook for him, or clean anything for him and NEVER have sex with him again, and he wouldn't paint my toes because I wouldn't want him to touch me. So don't you think it would be better for me to just leave?



how many times do I have to say I don't think it's the same? I already said I wouldn't leave for checking email/social media. What don't you understand?

I strictly said I have a problem with the paternity test. not checking email/social media

and again in case you're still curious. I don't think it's the same so I don't treat it the same way.

you're dodging simple questions. i didn't say they were exactly the same. what i said is that in both scenarios you're being treated like a hoe by your husband (which was the main reason stated as to why you're leaving him). i even said in my post to forget about the children. but let's end this here because you don't seem to understand my point and why i'm asking you this.

if other posters see my side, they might be better at expressing it than me

 

[Ashley Banks]

Nah. Because if you really loved him it wouldn't be that easy for you to leave. Maybe you should reevaluate your feelings for him in the first place

I knew it was coming.

believe it or not, I can love someone very much and still leave them if I don't like the way I'm being treated. Just because I leave, doesn't mean I don't love them.

I think I'm allowed to be hurt by my husband wanting to "confirm" that he is actually the father of the child IM pregnant with. Especially since he's the one that wanted kids. like how are you going to want me to get pregnant, get me pregnant, then deny the kid? I think that is a good reason to leave a relationship. and you guys are acting like I said I'm going to kill him or something, I'm just leaving.

you're dodging simple questions. i didn't say they were exactly the same. what i said is that in both scenarios you're being treated like a hoe by your husband (which was the main reason stated as to why you're leaving him). i even said in my post to forget about the children. but let's end this here because you don't seem to understand my point and why i'm asking you this.

if other posters see my side, they might be better at expressing it than me

I'm not dodging anything I answered them I literally said that I wouldn't leave because I don't view them the same. You keep saying forget about the children but that's WHY I don't view them the same way. yes lets end this because you just refuse to accept my answers.

 

[PartyHeart]

This is not what this study is about. Its about sexual attraction based on physical characteristics vs. attraction for long term purposes. Its a hormonal thing and it makes sense. It doesn't mean you have to act on it. Unlike men, women don't act as if we have a right to multiple partners because of our hormones.

For some reason you all want to shame women for being human just like you though. Many men gladly talk about all the women they'd have raw sex with because of how she looks but that they'd "never wife" (as if you'd have the opportunity), but want to get up in arms about women having similar sentiments.

Anyway, if DNA tests are mandatory to protect men from women's infidelity, shouldn't something be done to protect women from men's? And no, 'choose better' can't just be the option for women, when you want to facilitate billions of dollars being spent for DNA tests on the house for men.

 

[Wink Beaufield]

So have we ever found the female equivalent of Tupac in a business suit yet?

 

[Turbulent]

Just leave it alone man.

She's selfish.

She wants some dude to raise her kid for 20 years on her word that it's his kid and if he requests a DNA test she'll divorce him and destroy the family because her feelings were hurt.

Him raising a kid that's not his for 2 decades >>>>>> her feeling disrespected two weeks. What she's doing is emotional blackmail Either do it her way or she's divorcing you.

we're all selfish, and that's her right. my whole point was that she would be upset over her husband treating her like a hoe in one situation and would leave him over that, but i describe another situation in which she's treated in a similar way and she wouldn't leave him even though in both cases the husband thinks she could be a hoe. i believe in letting people choose.
i just wanted to understand something i perceived as inconsistent.

ultimately, as long as her system works for her and her family she'll be good. if he's ok with it then it's whatever.

 

[Turbulent]

I knew it was coming.

believe it or not, I can love someone very much and still leave them if I don't like the way I'm being treated. Just because I leave, doesn't mean I don't love them.

I think I'm allowed to be hurt by my husband wanting to "confirm" that he is actually the father of the child IM pregnant with. Especially since he's the one that wanted kids. like how are you going to want me to get pregnant, get me pregnant, then deny the kid? I think that is a good reason to leave a relationship. and you guys are acting like I said I'm going to kill him or something, I'm just leaving.



I'm not dodging anything I answered them I literally said that I wouldn't leave because I don't view them the same. You keep saying forget about the children but that's WHY I don't view them the same way. yes lets end this because you just refuse to accept my answers.

cool

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

I don't care about this thread.

A person could easily say "men want to fck and knock up hoes, but marry good girls".

& lots of back and forth will go on.

I'm not interested. There are other threads I want to read/make.

This only applies to 20 percent of men so it's different. Nice try though. Most women, though, get pumped and dumped because women have the power to have sex with men better looking than they are.

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

I knew it was coming.

believe it or not, I can love someone very much and still leave them if I don't like the way I'm being treated. Just because I leave, doesn't mean I don't love them.

I think I'm allowed to be hurt by my husband wanting to "confirm" that he is actually the father of the child IM pregnant with. Especially since he's the one that wanted kids. like how are you going to want me to get pregnant, get me pregnant, then deny the kid? I think that is a good reason to leave a relationship. and you guys are acting like I said I'm going to kill him or something, I'm just leaving.

Well you would be killing his heart if you leave him. It's not that serious, bruh. Don't you like to double check things to see if it's right?

And it's not like he's beating your ass. He just want a test. That really a good reason to leave someone? Maybe you have something to hide and feeling guilty