UCLA Study: Women want bad boys to knock them up, nice guys to raise the babies...

[philmonroe]

This is not what this study is about. Its about sexual attraction based on physical characteristics vs. attraction for long term purposes. Its a hormonal thing and it makes sense. It doesn't mean you have to act on it. Unlike men, women don't act as if we have a right to multiple partners because of our hormones.

For some reason you all want to shame women for being human just like you though. Many men gladly talk about all the women they'd have raw sex with because of how she looks but that they'd "never wife" (as if you'd have the opportunity), but want to get up in arms about women having similar sentiments.

Anyway, if DNA tests are mandatory to protect men from women's infidelity, shouldn't something be done to protect women from men's? And no, 'choose better' can't just be the option for women, when you want to facilitate billions of dollars being spent for DNA tests on the house for men.

Bold is a load of bullshyt. Y'all don't act on it in general because of stereotypes and a double standard that is not favorable to y'all. Spare me that other stuff.

Also here is the disingenuous shyt regarding protect a woman from mans infidelity. How the fukk can you do that outside of getting std test and or catch a dude cheating? Its not like dudes can get y'all pregnant with some other dudes sperm or some shyt so what are you really saying? Sounds like you just on some childish tit for tat stuff right now.

 

[PartyHeart]

DNA tests aren't to protect men from infidelity

Nothing can protect anyone from infidelity....if someone in a relationship wants to cheat at any time....it's gonna happen, and can't nobody stop it

DNA tests are to protect me from potential LIES about not just infidelity, but also biological connection to a child. Why do they need this protection? 1. to avoid later devastation and depression after realizing that the child they loved and connected to for years isn't their blood legacy (this applies to the child as well as the tricked man), and 2. to avoid being forced by the law to pay hard-earned money for a child that's not even biologically theirs

Now why would a woman need this particular protection when she KNOWS that the kid that came out of her, is hers?

Obviously women and men's situation's are not going to be exactly the same because biologically they do not play the same role. However, a woman can have all those same things ruined for her by her man/husband fathering a child outside of their relationship/marriage. Explain exactly how she avoids devastation and depression or gets her child bearing years back after realizing she's wasted it with a husband who destroyed their marriage and fathered children outside of it? How does she avoid having money come out of her household to support a child that is no biologically hers?

I agree with you that nothing can protect anyone from infidelity, men included. My point in bringing that up was to make you guys see how nonsensical the idea of mandatory DNA testing is. Men have the added burden of being uncertain of paternity, the same way that women have the added burden of bearing the children. Its not exactly fair, but you will deal.

 

[MalikReloaded]

Obviously women and men's situation's are not going to be exactly the same because biologically they do not play the same role. However, a woman can have all those same things ruined for her by her man/husband fathering a child outside of their relationship/marriage. Explain exactly how she avoids devastation and depression or gets her child bearing years back after realizing she's wasted it with a husband who destroyed their marriage and fathered children outside of it? How does she avoid having money come out of her household to support a child that is no biologically hers?

I agree with you that nothing can protect anyone from infidelity, men included. My point in bringing that up was to make you guys see how nonsensical the idea of mandatory DNA testing is. Men have the added burden of being uncertain of paternity, the same way that women have the added burden of bearing the children. Its not exactly fair, but you will deal.

Your argument makes no sense. What are you even arguing?

 

[philmonroe]

Your argument makes no sense. What are you even arguing?

Must be on that K2 cause she talking that stupid shyt that her girlfriends must have been co signing in one of their yaaaaass girl sessions

 

[Lo-Co]

 

[PartyHeart]

Your argument makes no sense. What are you even arguing?

You created an entire thread without understanding the study you are quoting and you're asking me what I'm arguing.

OK. Here it is in small words:

Infidelity sucks. The consequences of infidelity--wasted years, financial support, depression, emotional damage--suck. It is a fact of life. However, you cannot create legislation that would cost billions of dollars yearly to enact to protect you from or help you identify it.

 

[MalikReloaded]

You created an entire thread without understanding the study you are quoting and you're asking me what I'm arguing.

OK. Here it is in small words:

Infidelity sucks. The consequences of infidelity--wasted years, financial support, depression, emotional damage--suck. It is a fact of life. However, you cannot create legislation that would cost billions of dollars yearly to enact to protect you from or help you identify it.

I understand the study just fine.

Women want masculine men before pregnancy. Nurturing providers after pregnancy. And sometimes women will find those roles in different men.

I've read this study multiple times before i ever created this thread.

What is there to misunderstand? @PartyHeart.

 

[deimoz]

good info ...

 

[ORDER_66]

I know this if Pattyheart was concerned about men/boyfriends/husbands having kids outta wedlock with other women the wife/girlfriend is not on the hook for child support the man is, but why is the man still on the hook for a child he did NOT father in the marriage with his trifling wife and or relationship with a girlfriend. IT's a blatant double standard the laws need to be changed... period...

 

[Sensitive Blake Griffin]

Women go after bad boys when they've been abused (or abandoned) physically, verbally or sexually by their father or male figures in their life.

 

[yo moms]

what women say and how they actually feel are two completely different things. never listen to a womans words look at her actions.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Wait, so dudes are supposed to just willingly accept the risk of being on the hook for children they didn't father? I don't see how in the world anyone can say mandatory paternity testing is "nonsensical". What is nonsensical is this blind trust we've been shamed into. We're constantly told that times have changed. That's true. So this is something that needs to be addressed with the changing times. If not, that 30% stat will only increase.

 

[yo moms]

@Juicy have fun being a single mother. i will feel sorry for your child.

 

[Ashley Banks]

@Juicy have fun being a single mother. i will feel sorry for your child.

If I have a kid, he or she will be fine. Being a single parent doesn't mean your child is doomed.

 

[yo moms]

If I have a kid, he or she will be fine. Being a single parent doesn't mean your child is doomed.

smh. this is selfish thinking. you are setting your child up for failure before its already born. this kind of ignance is not what the black community needs. cant believe how ignorant you are being right now.