Woman crushed by online dating -Asks Reddit Am I Ugly? (PHOTOS)(Update: she joined the coli pg 88)

[mamba]

Basically as a black woman I am held to the choices I've made from the age of 14 for the rest of my life.
But priya saw his potential that's why he picked her
Well let his black legacy continue through her then

Priya probably exudes femininity, is pleasant to be around, supports his dreams, etc.

Contrary to popular belief, the average Black man isn't on some superficial shyt. We want solid women. Notice I said a solid woman, not the "strong" woman!

 

[Yup]

1) I did not say that he was unhealthy; I said that he looks chubby and I would want him to slim down

2) I would not have an issue with that at all

3) Your point?

4) I have no problem with that either

5) Have no idea because I do not speak for other people.

@mamba expects black women to take what they can get while the priyas and beckies can have their pick.

 

[Yup]

Priya probably exudes femininity, is pleasant to be around, supports his dreams, etc.

Contrary to popular belief, the average Black man isn't on some superficial shyt. We want solid women. Notice I said a solid woman, not the "strong" woman!

Is popular belief created in a vacuum? Black men are superficial especially when it comes to black women, all of a sudden they have standards.

 

[mamba]

And if you think this guy was not vetted by her family then you are sadly sorely mistaken, you see a couple pictures online and infer a whole backstory.

That's par for the course. Why would the family not vet? That's how it's been done since the beginning of time! Unfortunately, that's not how it's done in the Black community.

Would most of the women we have running around in our community survive a vetting process by a man's family?

 

[mamba]

@mamba expects black women to take what they can get while the priyas and beckies can have their pick.

I never said Black women have to take what they can get. I said "if you're average, don't think you're above settling for average."

If you're truly elite, then you have every right to demand elite right back.

 

[Yup]

That's par for the course. Why would the family not vet? That's how it's been done since the beginning of time! Unfortunately, that's not how it's done in the Black community.

Would most of the women we have running around in our community survive a vetting process by a man's family?

Would most black men? What are you trying to get at? Indians have a solid family structure black people do not, why are you comparing the two? To what gain? You don't know this man and woman from Adam but yet insinuate all these things from a couple of pictures?

 

[mamba]

He seems, lol byt a picture of a woman second guessing her attractiveness due to her lack success in dating makes you infer that she is uppity.

I never made any statements about that woman! I don't know why she's not having any success. There could be any number of factors at work.

 

[Yup]

I never said Black women have to take what they can get. I said "if you're average, don't think you're above settling for average."

If you're truly elite, then you have every right to demand elite right back.

How many elite black women are passed by by elite black men? That's what you don't wabt to acknowledge that black men with options outside of black women will exercise these options.

 

[Yup]

I never made any statements about that woman! I don't know why she's not having any success. There could be any number of factors at work.

So what's the point of the posts you have been making in this thread if they are irrelevant to the topic?

 

[mamba]

Would most black men? What are you trying to get at? Indians have a solid family structure black people do not, why are you comparing the two? To what gain? You don't know this man and woman from Adam but yet insinuate all these things from a couple of pictures?

, you're the one who insinuated things from the pictures. I just posted the pictures!

If a Black man is solid, he'll survive a vetting process. shyt, if the man is a doctor, lawyer, engineer, he's in. Women are scrutinized much harder in the vetting process when it comes to selecting a wife in Indian culture.

 

[Yup]

That's par for the course. Why would the family not vet? That's how it's been done since the beginning of time! Unfortunately, that's not how it's done in the Black community.

Would most of the women we have running around in our community survive a vetting process by a man's family?

People are a product of their environment.

 

[HideoKojima]

God damn, this is 61 pages, someone give me the short version

 

[Yup]

, you're the one who insinuated things from the pictures. I just posted the pictures!

If a Black man is solid, he'll survive a vetting process. shyt, if the man is a doctor, lawyer, engineer, he's in. Women are scrutinized much harder in the vetting process when it comes to selecting a wife in Indian culture.

You insinuate she's feminine, you insinuate that she is with her because black women gave him no attention in middle school. Feminity is more than dress.

 

[mamba]

How many elite black women are passed by by elite black men? That's what you don't wabt to acknowledge that black men with options outside of black women will exercise these options.

It's very likely they got dropped off on Bush Avenue because they lacked the qualities Black men really desire--that all sensible men desire.

Being elite may put you in the vicinity of elite Black men, but it doesn't mean you have the bait to reel them in. Femininity, a pleasant disposition, etc. will always hold greater value in man's mind. A lot of Black women (elite and non-elite) are lacking in those areas.

 

[Yup]

, you're the one who insinuated things from the pictures. I just posted the pictures!

If a Black man is solid, he'll survive a vetting process. shyt, if the man is a doctor, lawyer, engineer, he's in. Women are scrutinized much harder in the vetting process when it comes to selecting a wife in Indian culture.

If a black man is a doctor, so? What differentiates from ravi and kumar that are also doctors? Especially with a culture as ethnocentric and caste conscious as well as skin color obssessed as indians?