Woman crushed by online dating -Asks Reddit Am I Ugly? (PHOTOS)(Update: she joined the coli pg 88)

[mamba]

You insinuate she's feminine, you insinuate that she is with her because black women gave him no attention in middle school. Feminity is more than dress.

What in the hell? I didn't say anything about that breh's past. I said he's probably with her because she has the things he values in a woman.

You know, typically that's what leads a man to ask for a woman's hand in marriage, brehette.

 

[Yup]

It's very likely they got dropped off on Bush Avenue because they lacked the qualities Black men really desire--that all sensible men desire.

Elite may put you in the vicinity of elite Black men, but it doesn't mean you have the bait to reel them in. Femininity, a pleasant disposition, etc. will always hold greater value in man's mind. A lot of Black women (elite and non-elite) are lacking in those areas.

Stop justifying every choice a black man makes as if it is done unselfishly. Sone black mem don't want black women because non-black is ejat they want. Stop giving blavk women pipe dream that if there were more like tge Priya's and the beckies they would get more play from their own race of men, that's insulting.

 

[Yup]

What in the hell? I didn't say anything about that breh's past. I said he's probably with her because she has the things he values in a woman.

You know, typically that's what leads a man to ask for a woman's hand in marriage, brehette.

Why pick this couple and not a black couple?

 

[mamba]

If a black man is a doctor, so? What differentiates from ravi and kumar that are also doctors? Especially with a culture as ethnocentric and caste conscious as well as skin color obssessed as indians?

Not enough Ravis and Kumar's to go around, brehette. He didn't marry her in India. He's here in the United States. As time goes on, you're going to see more and more solid brothas wifing up Indian-American, Iranian-American, etc. women. A lot of those women come from cultures in which femininity is championed. Black men, like all men, value femininity.

 

[mamba]

Stop justifying every choice a black man makes as if it is done unselfishly. Sone black mem don't want black women because non-black is ejat they want. Stop giving blavk women pipe dream that if there were more like tge Priya's and the beckies they would get more play from their own race of men, that's insulting.

Simple fact is they would get more play if they exuded femininity, were more pleasant to be around, etc. It's not about comparing to other women. It's about understanding what men really want. Black men aren't some outlier among men. We the simple things all men want in a woman.

 

[Yup]

Not enough Ravis and Kumar's to go around, brehette. He didn't marry her in India. He's here in the United States. As time goes on, you're going to see more and more brothas wifing up Indian-American, Iranian-American, etc. women. A lot of those women come from cultures in which femininity is championed. Black men, like all men, value femininity.

Stop being delusional, indians do not change much culturally no matter where they are settled. There will always be those that date interracially. But most will not. If black men think marrying the daughters of races that take care of their families and their women will solve their problems they can go with my blessing.
I will continue ro preach what I preach to black women.

 

[bigdikkbandit]

I'd smash

 

[Yup]

Simple fact is they would get more play if they exuded femininity, were more pleasant to be around, etc. It's not about comparing to other women. It's about understanding what men really want. Black men aren't some outlier among men. We the simple things all men want in a woman.

Black men want a lot but offer little.

 

[Yup]

I'd smash

Probably couldn't.

 

[Yup]

Not enough Ravis and Kumar's to go around, brehette. He didn't marry her in India. He's here in the United States. As time goes on, you're going to see more and more solid brothas wifing up Indian-American, Iranian-American, etc. women. A lot of those women come from cultures in which femininity is championed. Black men, like all men, value femininity.

There are more ravis and khumar than there are black men in professional positions.

 

[mamba]

Stop being delusional, indians do not change much culturally no matter where they are settled. There will always be those that date interracially. But most will not. If black men think marrying the daughters of races that take care of their families and their women will solve their problems they can go with my blessing.
I will continue ro preach what I preach to black women.

No one said anything about women solving men's problems. Men aren't asking for women to solve their problems! Men solve their own problems. Men simply want a woman who is feminine, pleasant, respectable, etc. If a woman has those qualities, she'll have no problem getting a man. Bitter Black women need to really assess their situation and make sure they have the basics checked off, first.

If you're not bringing the basics to the table, I don't care how many degrees, titles, etc. you have, a man isn't going to wife you up. Women need to take the time to understand what men really want as opposed to trying to dictate to us what we should want. It doesn't work that way.

 

[Yup]

Not enough Ravis and Kumar's to go around, brehette. He didn't marry her in India. He's here in the United States. As time goes on, you're going to see more and more solid brothas wifing up Indian-American, Iranian-American, etc. women. A lot of those women come from cultures in which femininity is championed. Black men, like all men, value femininity.

Feminity is easily achieved, when women are protected by their men. Black women for the most part aren't and many still achieve feminity. I am not impressed by the feminity of indian and white women.

 

[Yup]

No one said anything about women solving men's problems. Men aren't asking for women to solve their problems! Men solve their own problems. Men simply want a woman who is feminine, pleasant, respectable, etc. If a woman has those qualities, she'll have no problem getting a man. Bitter Black women need to really assess their situation and make sure they have the basics checked off, first.

If you're not bringing the basics to the table, I don't care how many degrees, titles, etc. you have, a man isn't going to wife you up. Women need to take the time to understand what men really want as opposed to trying to dictate to us what we should want. It doesn't work that way.

You equate bittetness with black womanhood and femininity with non black women.

 

[GiGi]

@mamba expects black women to take what they can get while the priyas and beckies can have their pick.

These kneegrows LOVE seeing black men with non-black women but HATE WMBW couples. So strange. And I also notice too how they always imply that non-black women DESERVE the best while also implying that black women should settle for burger flipper and a man who smacks her around.

But in my opinion, black women(like the woman in the OP) should stop turning away great men who happen to not be black. In all honesty it really does not help the black community to have black women having babies out of wedlock or to have black women who are 55 yrs old who have never married and are bitter. I actually had an older (bitter) black lady at my job scold me for dating the guy that I am currently seeing (he works in a different department).

I really do wonder why this makes some people so angry.....

 

[Yup]

No one said anything about women solving men's problems. Men aren't asking for women to solve their problems! Men solve their own problems. Men simply want a woman who is feminine, pleasant, respectable, etc. If a woman has those qualities, she'll have no problem getting a man. Bitter Black women need to really assess their situation and make sure they have the basics checked off, first.

If you're not bringing the basics to the table, I don't care how many degrees, titles, etc. you have, a man isn't going to wife you up. Women need to take the time to understand what men really want as opposed to trying to dictate to us what we should want. It doesn't work that way.

Black men are unable to acknowledge what black women go through and only see things fron their perpective.