TheGreatMTB
All Star
I have seen this play out a few times, and every time there were red flags the dude ignored on the way to this situation
for sure...not saying a dude holds no responsibility for signing up for that
1 in 8 divorces is caused by student loans
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for sure...not saying a dude holds no responsibility for signing up for that
JOHN.KOOL
Manchester United/Atletico Madrid
Im 26 and im not married. That doesn't have anything to do with wisdom tho.
In response to the bold how do you KNOW that? Have you interviewed every single married couple on this planet to know that all marriages are partnerships where both sides have to pull 'their weight'? How do you KNOW FOR A FACT all these things you claiming? You dont know, you are talking about your own SUBJECTIVE OPINION as if it is fact, your opinion is not fact. You do not know the workings of every marriage on the planet to be able to make statements such as love in marriage is VERY conditional. Maybe the love in the marriages you have known is conditional, BUT YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT EVERYONE'S MARRIAGE IS LIKE. It seems like your using your own marriage and assuming every human beings marriage works like yours. That is not true.
Even you first example about family is false, your acting as if never in the history of humanity a scenario like that has happened but one family hasn't continued to love. Your are acting as if there are no marriages on this planet the two parties are not concerned with money or other things and where the love for one another was the sole reason for getting married, are you trying to say that has never happened in human history? and if you say yes tell me how do you know that?
Learn to separate YOUR OPINION from what is actually fact.
Chapter_BLK
Pro
Finances are a huge factor in marital success...
and when I say finances, I don't only mean of the spouses. I also mean of their immediate family. Loans are bad, but health and money problems of in-laws can be a huge problem for married couples. If your spouse has one or both sick parents, part of your money is going there. If your spouse has financially irresponsible parents and he/she doesn't have the nerve to keep them in check or resist their whining for money, then you are walking into a disaster.
Dating and relationships can't just be approached on some, "I just love how they make me feel" type nonsense, especially these days. Love is unconditional, but that doesn't mean love is stupid. It has to be approached like running a business like someone else says. Each person knows and plays their part, focuses more on being successful and stable more than looking successful, and keeping all personal matters in-house.
and when I say finances, I don't only mean of the spouses. I also mean of their immediate family. Loans are bad, but health and money problems of in-laws can be a huge problem for married couples. If your spouse has one or both sick parents, part of your money is going there. If your spouse has financially irresponsible parents and he/she doesn't have the nerve to keep them in check or resist their whining for money, then you are walking into a disaster.
Dating and relationships can't just be approached on some, "I just love how they make me feel" type nonsense, especially these days. Love is unconditional, but that doesn't mean love is stupid. It has to be approached like running a business like someone else says. Each person knows and plays their part, focuses more on being successful and stable more than looking successful, and keeping all personal matters in-house.
Marriage as an institution was crafted for the sheer purpose of the moving and amalgamation of property.
Originally, women were a part of the property, hence the use of dowries.
You can be different all you want, that’s cool. But that doesn’t change the purpose of marriage well into the 20th century.
Mortgage is different from student loan debt.pretty much
nikkas worrying about $30K of debt...but then gonna go and get in $350K in debt buying a house together?
these people were gonna get divorced regardless
yung Herbie Hancock
Funkadelic Parliament
Breh I'm in the military. The amount of times I've heard a breh "I"m paying for my wife to go to school" is astounding. Oddly enough, I've seen nearly hundreds of these marriages end in divorce once the wife finishes school
. These simps are so blinded by "love" that they can't see that they are being used 
. The military used to have this thing where brehs could pass on their GI bills to their wives or kids. (they stopped it a year ago). before that though women around base would prey on men by laying it down in the bedroom so that these brehs would marry them. They would use the breh for school then divorce him right after.
yung Herbie Hancock
Funkadelic Parliament
And the guys that celebrate being married are simps tbh. Only maybe 30 percent of marriages are marriages where both the wife and spouse are attracted to each other. In most marriages someone is using the other. Either it's a gold digger or a man using his wife for access to sex
Marriage is a business decision. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
. Or both parties marry each other for some mutually beneficial financial reason (buying a house etc.). My dad was a professor in Nairobi so he made a decent amount of money. I'm not surprised that my mom chased after him given her circumstances in Congo. Not really surprised by the divorce rate in America .
yung Herbie Hancock
Funkadelic Parliament
If all of a sudden she starts working out more than usual, dressing out more, and going out more alone. you are done It's a wrap because she's probably trying to impress someone else
yung Herbie Hancock
Funkadelic Parliament
It's a known fact that women hold the most student loan debt.
CNBC is a reputable source
Women have $890 billion in student debt, the country's biggest share
also in the article:
"Black women, in particular, are taking on a disproportionate amount of debt, racking up around $25,000 in student loans to receive their bachelor's degree, the study found."
CNN "
Student loan debt just hit $1.5 trillion. Women hold most of it"
Student loan debt just hit $1.5 trillion. Women hold most of it
Women hold nearly two-thirds of all student debt in the US, according to a report from the American Association of University Women, a group that advocates for equity and education for women and girls.
You a simp breh
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Then why should anyone listen to your advice or views on marriage?
Have you ever even had a long term relationship? If you feel like this why aren't you married yet?
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
Gonna drop this here:
Ol girl deleted her comments but basically her fiancé was $400k in debt and decided he didn’t want to a doctor any more.
In general more people should talk about finances with their sig other. I was 3 months into my last relationship thinking she was the one until we started talking money. Smh. No way am I marrying someone who is gonna make life harder financially.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. A lot of these smart, pretty girls have poor money management skills. bytches be having multiple masters and be 6 figs in debt to work a $50k job as a social worker.
Ol girl deleted her comments but basically her fiancé was $400k in debt and decided he didn’t want to a doctor any more.
In general more people should talk about finances with their sig other. I was 3 months into my last relationship thinking she was the one until we started talking money. Smh. No way am I marrying someone who is gonna make life harder financially.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. A lot of these smart, pretty girls have poor money management skills. bytches be having multiple masters and be 6 figs in debt to work a $50k job as a social worker.
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
If u ain't got debt before marriage... You'll probably run into it during marriage.... There's always gonna be something... That's just life...
Even more reason to NOT saddle yourself with it before marriage. Having crazy debt makes it hard af to purchase property, have kids, etc
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
Historically marriage has always been about economics. Partnering up with another person and having kids was all about saving money.
Only in modern times did marriage become about love.
Always talk financials with your potential wife or husband.
What type of debt(s) do they have entering a marriage?
Does the person have a positive net worth?
Is the person an impulsive spender?
Do they invest?
Do they save?
What were their parents like in terms of money management?
Is the person resourceful?
These things are important.
As I've gotten older, a fat ass and a pretty face can only do so much for me. I want to know whether or not a woman has her shyt together. Because I have my shyt together, financially.
I'm not trying to carry dead weight.
What type of debt(s) do they have entering a marriage?
Does the person have a positive net worth?
Is the person an impulsive spender?
Do they invest?
Do they save?
What were their parents like in terms of money management?
Is the person resourceful?
These things are important.
As I've gotten older, a fat ass and a pretty face can only do so much for me. I want to know whether or not a woman has her shyt together. Because I have my shyt together, financially.
I'm not trying to carry dead weight.
One more thing. As I mentioned above, most women don't plan to work after they pop out a kid or two. Especially if they have the kids in the 30s.
So, if a woman is telling you how much she makes and other shyt. Take that with a grain of salt, as her income will likely disappear the minute she has children.
So, you're there doing the calculations about how much your two incomes combined will have you all living the good life.
Take a second to assess how much debt she has. Don't even think about her salary.
Just some words of wisdom for the brehs.
So, if a woman is telling you how much she makes and other shyt. Take that with a grain of salt, as her income will likely disappear the minute she has children.
So, you're there doing the calculations about how much your two incomes combined will have you all living the good life.
Take a second to assess how much debt she has. Don't even think about her salary.
Just some words of wisdom for the brehs.