"30 no kids"
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its fukked up because the women in our age group our getting older too....so we probably gonna end up getting young chicks pregnant but were going to be from 2 different generationsWord. Kids are meant for the rich, the way America is set up these days. Under 30 as a male isto have kids.
true, thats why this system is messed up....no way ppl are going to have kids with the amount of debt and ack of jobs, and high cost of living
MysticMonroe
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Because it shows some responsibility. Its really bad in the black community last time I checked 70% of black kids born are out of wedlock. There's no reason for so many "oops pregnancies". They are lots of birth control options out there. Go on any dating site and put in black male or female who doesnt take drugs, higher education, a car, and no kids, the results are drop, just when you add the no kids part. And even then people lie about having kids. I met a dude off a dating site, he said no kids on his profile but then admitted he had a kid. But then bashed the baby mama saying she was just a friend with benefit and the kid may not be his. (red flag!)
Having a kid limits you in every part of your life. Social, work,religion,health and fitness. As a female I'd much rather prefer a dude with no kids,even if he has one he is limited. Dude I met off the dating site had to cancel a date because he had his daughter. If you get serious with someone with kids, you are still limited. If you get married and get a job offer in another state, they can't move in another state from their kid. Kids are a permanent result of a relationship. Its stupid to have kids by someone you've known for a few months. Like people have kids when they can't afford stuff by themselves, like a car, insurance, clothes, food. And another thing I noticed since so many people have kids, people expect the new gf/bf to play step daddy after a few months. In relationships now a days, people want you to start off chaffuering people around, buying kids stuff, cosigning for stuff.
I broke up with an ex because he wanted to get married and have kids, but didnt want to get a serious job, but didnt want to know more about me, would ask me how my day is going, would give me vague answers when I tried to get to know him. He would get annoyed when I asked him stuff. Like you should want to know my medical history, mental, etc. He started to volunteer my stuff to his friends, let his friend use my laptop to do her taxes, wanted me to give his friends rides, his mom was even to comfortable asking me to help with stuff. He was too eager to have a kid with me but without knowing me. Its weird
1. limited time
2. preplanned dates no spontaneous road trips out of town
3. probably broke/irresponsible with money
4. baby mama/daddy drama
5. bad ass/spoiled/weird/demonic ass kids
6. dealing with baby mama/daddy family and friends
7. sabotage of growing relationship by the guy your dating, baby mama, friends, family and even the kid
8. if you get serious with a baby daddy
9. deadbeat houdini appearing everytime the other parents has a new boo
10. step mama/daddy expectations
Having a kid limits you in every part of your life. Social, work,religion,health and fitness. As a female I'd much rather prefer a dude with no kids,even if he has one he is limited. Dude I met off the dating site had to cancel a date because he had his daughter. If you get serious with someone with kids, you are still limited. If you get married and get a job offer in another state, they can't move in another state from their kid. Kids are a permanent result of a relationship. Its stupid to have kids by someone you've known for a few months. Like people have kids when they can't afford stuff by themselves, like a car, insurance, clothes, food. And another thing I noticed since so many people have kids, people expect the new gf/bf to play step daddy after a few months. In relationships now a days, people want you to start off chaffuering people around, buying kids stuff, cosigning for stuff.
I broke up with an ex because he wanted to get married and have kids, but didnt want to get a serious job, but didnt want to know more about me, would ask me how my day is going, would give me vague answers when I tried to get to know him. He would get annoyed when I asked him stuff. Like you should want to know my medical history, mental, etc. He started to volunteer my stuff to his friends, let his friend use my laptop to do her taxes, wanted me to give his friends rides, his mom was even to comfortable asking me to help with stuff. He was too eager to have a kid with me but without knowing me. Its weird
1. limited time
2. preplanned dates no spontaneous road trips out of town
3. probably broke/irresponsible with money
4. baby mama/daddy drama
5. bad ass/spoiled/weird/demonic ass kids
6. dealing with baby mama/daddy family and friends
7. sabotage of growing relationship by the guy your dating, baby mama, friends, family and even the kid
8. if you get serious with a baby daddy
9. deadbeat houdini appearing everytime the other parents has a new boo
10. step mama/daddy expectations
28, no kids. Thought about it long and hard a few weeks ago and I'm set on not getting any. Bloodline is fukked either way. 
I just turned 27 years old. There's no way I could see myself having kids right now. I'm thinking about getting my masters degree, and moving up in my career. I have 101 friends on Facebook ( I know every single one of them personally). The ones who have kids, aren't even married to their spouse 
. I always see the single women friends say either : I'm looking for love and the one
or, You don't really need a man to for your child
. Not one of them are doing well financially ( Not one). I see some of them are going back to school now, and I'm thinking 
you're doing things backwards. These guys and girls don't even have the choice of where they want to go to college ( Have to be close to the kids and the local schools). This is a ridiculous way of doing things.
. I always see the single women friends say either : I'm looking for love and the one or, You don't really need a man to for your child. Not one of them are doing well financially ( Not one). I see some of them are going back to school now, and I'm thinking you're doing things backwards. These guys and girls don't even have the choice of where they want to go to college ( Have to be close to the kids and the local schools). This is a ridiculous way of doing things.
I don't got kids and I got plenty of ambition.
We can create an empire without them.
I always said to people that have kids OOW: if you have one kid in a failed, non marital relationship, you are given ONE last chance to find a lifelong spouse to marry and have kids.I just turned 27 years old. There's no way I could see myself having kids right now. I'm thinking about getting my masters degree, and moving up in my career. I have 101 friends on Facebook ( I know every single one of them personally). The ones who have kids, aren't even married to their spouse
Anything more than 1 kid OOW, you fukked up and you are no longer in demand for marriage since you so reckless.
Too bad in the black community, having kids outside of marriage is a
thing and refuse to build wealth like passing down assets to the next generation. People who have kids young, have nothing to show for it and often broke. Sometimes even on government assistance.
I always said to people that have kids OOW: if you have one kid in a failed, non marital relationship, you are given ONE last chance to find a lifelong spouse to marry and have kids.
Anything more than 1 kid OOW, you fukked up and you are no longer in demand for marriage since you so reckless.
Too bad in the black community, having kids outside of marriage is a
I think you are being a little generous. Do you believe any woman or man who has their Shyt together is going for it?
I've seen highly educated attractive black women who wouldn't even consider the thought of dating a man with a kid. And I know for a fact black men with college degrees and careers aren't doing the same either. You're more optimistic on this than I am.
I think you are being a little generous. Do you believe any woman or man who has their Shyt together is going for it?
I've seen highly educated attractive black women who wouldn't even consider the thought of dating a man with a kid. And I know for a fact black men with college degrees and careers aren't doing the same either. You're more optimistic on this than I am.
Like I said, some well off black person wouldn't mind a spouse with ONE well behaved kid. Maybe.
Anything more than that, marriage ain't for them.
But I got no kids yet, but women around me beg me to have a kid with them.
I love the childless life cause I can 
and go all over the world without caring for another person besides myself.
MrPentatonic
Superstar
That's the only realistic way: Have kids when a man fukked enough women and has enough $$ to take care of himself.
Women got that biological clock that forces them to have kids early (under 25). Problem is these days, having kids in this economy will bring you to poverty.
28, no kids. Thought about it long and hard a few weeks ago and I'm set on not getting any. Bloodline is fukked either way.
My bloodline is on a stand still. My dads dad has 7 grandchildren all over 18(5of7 over 26) My sister(30) is the only one with kids.
We out here enjoying our 20s
