40 Dating a 21 Year Old

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21 and 37, 23 and 34. The first stalked me after I left. The second wanted to start a 3rd family.
I'm not trying to play you or anything, but why did you even get to the point of having sex with them if they had all that baggage?

Their conversations should have shown you that you needed to stay away from them
 

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I'm not trying to play you or anything, but why did you even get to the point of having sex with them if they had all that baggage?

Their conversations should have shown you that you needed to stay away from them

Bad experiences. Second dude shouldn't have been messed with in the first place....

What attracted you to them? Truthfully?

Both pretended to be someone they weren't.
 

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Both pretended to be someone they weren't.

Well you have to explain that. What did they pretend to be?
I can understand they took advantage of your naivety. There are dudes that do that. No excuse for them. That's why a lot of people look at it the way they do.
 

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go for yours.

I was thirty five with a presidential intern/state beauty queen on roster.
who was twenty two.

Ol girl who gave me the crib in that same wrinkle of time.
i found out, was probably fifty three or more.





art barr
 

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Is it toxic for a man in my position to entertain this? Have any of you ladies done this or currently doing this?
nikka she's legal WTF?? Only push back you gonna get is from woman who done hit the wall and are no longer an option for a man who's finally set financially in life. A woman's prime years are 21-25. Why? Because every single fukking day a batch of new chicks turn 21.
You see females who still look good in there mid 30s to late 40s but as far as getting with them you always gonna know the chick is old on a biological clock level. Plus those the years women get desperate for a man and have a baby so they throw that mask on in order to get that ring and baby and after she gets what she wants that mask comes off and you get the real her that made it out her 20s without dudes finding her not worthy for wife status.
 

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Always look at it this way, would you want a 40 year old dating your 20 year old daughter?

If the answers no, then you shouldn't a youngin either.


as long as it is not some guy who i knew knew my kid as a kid.
we cool.
if you on some,...
i know you and you jay down on my daughter.
imma put the back of your head and your pelvis region.
throughed't the edge of the table.

believe that.


art barr
 

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Both pretended to be someone they weren't.
This is why older men should tell the younger chicks in their life what to look for, because conversation ALWAYS tells you about someone. The only time he can fool you is if you have no idea what to look for in character.

One thing I give women who come from the streets, and came up, is they know bullshyt when they see it. People talk shyt about them, but a lot don't go through the shyt square chicks go through. The issue is they seen so much bullshyt, its hard to get them out of that tricking mentality, they have game, and know how to get shyt from it. that aint a good thing if you want a trusting relationship, you never know when she is gaming you or if she is serious
 

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Well you have to explain that. What did they pretend to be?
I can understand they took advantage of your naivety. There are dudes that do that. No excuse for them. That's why a lot of people look at it the way they do.
I was book smart but very naive and dumb when it came to men. I didn't know what red flags to look out for. First one wouldn't leave me alone and pretended to be a college student. He pretended to be into the things that I was into and once we were official he came clean and started to show who he really was. He lied about everything except his favorite color. He turned out to be a controlling, creepy ass, weirdo. He always referred to me as a girl, never a woman. I started noticing weird shyt he would do and it made me feel like I was in a father/daughter or predator type relationship. On top of everything else, it just didn't feel right. Felt gross.
 
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