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[the bossman]

The cold part is I agree with this 100%...

Now I think this is how most men feel about this topic when they figure women out.

So why all this back and forth in this thread?

It's not really back and forth, so much as it is just different perspectives. What I disagree with is trying to drive home this point that all relationships are pointless and that all women have or will cheat at some point. Especially when you've admitted all you've dealt with are average loose broads and have never attracted a loyal quality woman since you are not quality yourself. It just doesn't make sense. It literally is no difference from jaded women talking about nikkas aint shyt. I don't think men should get down like that.

My main thing is a quality woman (I admit they can be tough to find) can enhance your life in one way or another, whether that be supporting you in your business endeavors, as a great mother to your kids, that nurturing figure, etc. You can't deal with average broads all your life who bring nothing to the table other than p*ssy (while at the same time you don't even require anything more than that) then declare all women aint shyt. theyll cheat and relationships are pointless. doesn't add up breh

 

[Taadow]

It's not really back and forth, so much as it is just different perspectives. What I disagree with is trying to drive home this point that all relationships are pointless and that all women have or will cheat at some point. Especially when you've admitted all you've dealt with are average loose broads and have never attracted a loyal quality woman since you are not quality yourself. It just doesn't make sense. It literally is no difference from jaded women talking about nikkas aint shyt. I don't think men should get down like that.

My main thing is a quality woman (I admit they can be tough to find) can enhance your life in one way or another, whether that be supporting you in your business endeavors, as a great mother to your kids, that nurturing figure, etc. You can't deal with average broads all your life who bring nothing to the table other than p*ssy (while at the same time you don't even require anything more than that) then declare all women aint shyt. theyll cheat and relationships are pointless. doesn't add up breh

Do you know what "average" means?

 

[Mugenight]

3) Like attracts like. I'm trying to work on this myself. If you want something meaningful you better figure out what that means to you. Otherwise you'll just run around lost, fukking random women (let's face it, these are low quality hoes if they're cheating on their man).

The moment people stop saying this bullshyt this world might be a better place.

 

[semicko82]

Cheating definitely isn't exclusive to women. Choose a woman with the qualities you desire. Stop chasing based on looks and start looking at her personality and heart.

its the ok looking women who are on that bs

 

[BigMan]

I mean if we're getting deep with it since you threw that little tidbit about mothers, I really think alotta nikkas issues with women start with the fact that deep down they know their mom ain't shyt and if they met a woman like their mom she'd be just another hole to them.

If we keeping it 100 a lot of mothers are shyt

 

[Balla]

I just read a post here, where someone told this dude who said hes working on himself, that he should get in a relationship with a girl and have two incomes instead of one.

I feel anyone should never ever do that. Why would you depend on another person? What if she leave yo ass? Where that second income at now? If you was to do that, grind your ass off and make sure you can take care of yourself.

I almost fell for the two incomes trap too, but I realized I will take my time and become independent instead of depending on a chick for a second income. That's like marriage to me, and you can't do what you want to do because guess what ? You need her for income!

fukk THAT!!!!

 

[semicko82]

They just blame women for everything because it’s an easy excuse. Truth is they have no game to get the girls worth taking home and introducing to the parents

 

[semicko82]

People get into relationships for the wrong reasons and bad shyt will eventually happen. I been there. People get into these things because the other person makes them feel good and they fall in lust. Once that lust runs out then they find out they don't have much in common, they have different life goals, etc. Once that happens then they become disinterested and look elsewhere. When women base their relationship off the fact theyre "in love" its a recipe for disaster because its like a high that they want to keep chasing. Ive been building with someone for two years and at this point I know she's as compatible a woman Ill find. She knows what I went thru and has given me all the time I need to be ready for a relationship again. I respect the hell outta her for that. At the end of the day tho relationships are always a gamble no matter the time or place and men and women are equally as grimey. Whether you chose to hold or roll the dice is on you

That being said some of yall are way too young to be as bitter as you are. Im 36 and done seen it all. Been cheated on and divorced from the person I thought I was gonna be with for the rest of my life and I still have a more positive outlook than some of yall

How did you get over the anger and bitterness

 

[T'krm]

I am this point


All the lies and dreams Ive told..all the times Ive ghosted cheated and lied coming back to haunt me



Ive come to accept that u cant trust anyone, especially women. Never put full trust in a woman cuz they dont even give a fukk about each other (other women)

No offense, but I'm pretty sure what you, and others that find themselves in this semi-jaded, 'whats the use', meloncholy phase are pretty much experiencing a bit of your own Karma!
Many laugh at how absurd, for instance those Saudi's who attacked the trade cntr were in thinking they be gifted w/7 virgins after committing heinous acts of evil, but in some ways, many of us low-key behave in a similar fashion: spending the best part of our teens, 20's, even beyond, ravaging away w/o a consideration, or fuk to give, yet magically thinking when that rampage is over a list of Lisa McDowells' will be avail to choose from
The same vice versa.. bc despite how many ppl(even dudes) say it, hoes, or known hoes (in mass) are NOT getting wifed up.. at least not to men w/options, anyway!

 

[Drew Wonder]

People in general are selfish by nature and only out for their own self-interest. As much as you guys are complaining about women being untrustworthy and a headache, there are thousands of women having the same conversations with their girlfriends about how men ruin their lives lol. A relationship is a huge risk because you're essentially putting your trust in someone who at any point can turn on you if they decide to naturally follow their own selfish desires. I'm currently in a relationship and very happy but it's something I think about. But I stopped tripping over it when I realize she was probably thinking the same thing about me. Shyt, the way she's been done dirty in the past, she logically has more of a reason to not trust me than I do not to trust her. But, the feeling of having someone who you're compatible with is a GREAT feeling, one of the best you'll ever feel. Is it worth the risk of your partner turning on you and you catching a huge L? That's the question you gotta ask yourself before you enter the relationship. But in general, I've come to grips with the fact that most people are out for their own self interests and really don't owe you shyt at the end of the day. Makes me take things a lot less personally

 

[Kenny West]

I'm not sure why as a man you would be looking for that constant lust/butterflies type emotion from a woman. IMO I think as a man, respect from my main lady is way more important and would give me more happiness and peace of mind.

I don't know how you got all of that out of what I wrote. Read what I said more carefully.

The crux of this whole thing is dudes is saying that people fail in relationship because they date out of emotion (that runs out) rather than logic or whatever.

But the idea that women at any age don't date out of emotion is nonsense. The idea that they're having fulfilling marriages out of duty toward the most logical partner choice is nonsense. Goes double for men

nikkas in general give half assed advice telling you to play a game that nobody playing, telling to find "this" type of woman that they never found themselves, folks talking about "just spot the flags" like the shyt is so easy but they unmarried tripping over the same flags they whole life.

If you're fully conscious of the game it becomes whether you choose between mating strategy, one that looks like it's becoming more and more dominant the way our society is progressing regardless of the dark/dystopian elements to it or the one that looks more and more like a fairy tale that leaves more broken men in your reality than men enriched by it.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

How did you get over the anger and bitterness

Time and a good support system

 

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No offense, but I'm pretty sure what you, and others that find themselves in this semi-jaded, 'whats the use', meloncholy phase are pretty much experiencing a bit if their own Karma.
Many laught at how absurd, for instance those Saudi's who attacked the trade cntr were in thinking they be gifted w/7 virgins after committing heinous acts of evil, but in some ways, many of us low-key behave in a similar fashion: spending the best part of our teens, 20's, even beyond, ravaging away w/o a consideration, or fuk to give, yet magically thinking when rampage is over a list of Lisa McDowells' will be avail to choose from
The same vice versa.. bc despite how many ppl(even dudes) say it, hoes, or known hoes (in mass) are NOT getting wifed up.. at least not to men w/options, anyway!

While I do agree with karma, I also think you're ignoring the biological differences between the sexes. In order for a woman to be attracted to a man, that man has to be attractive to many women. A man with many options won't put his manhood on the line for one girl who can now feel "victorious" because she's got him, and then change her feelings once she got the "winner." He's going to maintain his status as "the winner" by interacting and possibly sleeping with many women, because he knows that once he changes up, she won't feel the same way about him.

I've been there. Many others have been there.

 

[semicko82]

This sounds like some Alpha BS with more alpha BS posts

You just need to find a good woman and not think they’ll fall into your lap. There are plenty of them and it won’t take a few weeks. Hell, people take years to find them.

There are plenty of good women but are hard to find

 

[Shorty K]

You see that?

She was the main one in here talking chit...now that you on her head,
It "wasn't her goal", it ain't her fault, and you're "post policing" her.

This is what niccas is out here up against...

I'll give @dora_da_destroyer her props, she was definitely smart enough to see where that conversation was going and getting up outta there. We was about to have us a real e-character building session in these coli streets