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im just selfless i guessneedless to say but, something happened that changed how i viewed life in general. it's precious and really not worth being angry or holding a grudge against a person. even people in general too. you're blocking alot of good vibes. but that's just my opinion
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Exactly. Some people use that blood relation as an excuse to keep doing fukked up shyt. For those who believe in the bible literally - didn't Cain kill Abel out of jealousy? Didn't Joseph's brothers sell him into slavery?
Some dude in here talking about cutting off family brings "bad luck" - so what about the shyt that person did that caused you to cut them off in the first place? So the action is all good, put the reaction is wrong? fukk outta here.
People act like sharing blood automatically guarantees unconditional love and bonding when that's far from the case. When it comes down to it, everybody's out for self. I already learned my lesson years ago so I don't let all this fairytale shyt fool me when reality tells me otherwise.
You haven't fukked with me my whole life and wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire, but I'm supposed to put you above a friend who has been like a brother or sister to me because we're blood. Yeah OK.
Yup. My mother’s side of the family we were very small and close growing up. My two cousins might as well have been my brother and sister because I am my moms only child. Them and my aunt lived with us at our grandparents house at times. My grandparents raised my cousins like they did me and did things for them that their own mother wouldn’t. Helped feed and clothe them as children and gave them money as adults to help them out. When both my grandparents fell ill they never came around to visit or help unless they wanted something. My grandfather passed in 2016 and my aunt who never helped him..doctors appointments, changing his diaper at that point, bringing him food, she did none of that. My mother would work all day and still come make sure he was straight. So luckily he didn’t have a will but he did put all his paperwork and money in my mother’s name because he knew she was about her business and had been the one taking care of him.
My aunt came to the house after he passed and was saying how we need to have a family meeting about how we were gonna split everything.
Saying she could use some of the TVs we had in the house. First of all I bought all the TVs in the house not him but the point was she wasn’t gonna get shyt because she wasn’t entitled to anything. She was ranting to me upset because he put my mother in charge of his funeral and burial and she had no input whatsoever. She started making a scene when I told her 
I guess he wanted the person who actually was there for him and took care of him to finish it up. She started screaming and cursing at my girl who told her she needed to just go..she tried to come past me to get to her and next thing I knew I just pushed her full strength through the damn door on the porch. I was so emotional at the time due to the death of my grandfather and her pissing me off that I told her if she didn’t get the fukk out of here I was gonna shoot her ass 
she was looking crazy on the ground and I just slammed the door.
Fast forward the funeral happens and it goes smooth unlike we thought it would. Then shortly afterwards my aunt is sending texts harassing me (because my mother has her blocked) about his money. She’s saying it’s best to split it with her because it not she could tie the whole estate up in court. She didn’t know that him and my mother already went to the bank and set it up so she would take over the funds when he passed. So my mother sends me a message to forward to her, basically saying go fukk your self because everything is already wrapped up. At the same time my older cousin who neverrrr came around maybe one every two months to get her mail. Is also sending my mother crazy messages because I guess she assumed she was getting broke off money. She’s saying she’ll never forgive her for what she’s done and we are like
she’s upset cause she has bed bugs or some shyt she’s sending pictures of bite marks like it’s our fault. My grandfather specifically said multiple times he didn’t want my aunts or cousins to get a penny because they were never there for him. He knew they were only out for themselves and didn’t hold up for him or his wife.
After that I blocked all of them so basically on my mother’s side I only have her left. Like I said the family was already small I just had my one aunt and her three kids. I don’t give a fukk though because the shyt they did and didn’t do was foul and I didn’t appreciate it then nor now. This was two years ago and I’m perfectly fine never seeing or hearing from them again. They won’t be inviting to my wedding, know when I have children or anything.
My aunt came to the house after he passed and was saying how we need to have a family meeting about how we were gonna split everything.
Saying she could use some of the TVs we had in the house. First of all I bought all the TVs in the house not him but the point was she wasn’t gonna get shyt because she wasn’t entitled to anything. She was ranting to me upset because he put my mother in charge of his funeral and burial and she had no input whatsoever. She started making a scene when I told her I guess he wanted the person who actually was there for him and took care of him to finish it up. She started screaming and cursing at my girl who told her she needed to just go..she tried to come past me to get to her and next thing I knew I just pushed her full strength through the damn door on the porch. I was so emotional at the time due to the death of my grandfather and her pissing me off that I told her if she didn’t get the fukk out of here I was gonna shoot her ass she was looking crazy on the ground and I just slammed the door.Fast forward the funeral happens and it goes smooth unlike we thought it would. Then shortly afterwards my aunt is sending texts harassing me (because my mother has her blocked) about his money. She’s saying it’s best to split it with her because it not she could tie the whole estate up in court. She didn’t know that him and my mother already went to the bank and set it up so she would take over the funds when he passed. So my mother sends me a message to forward to her, basically saying go fukk your self because everything is already wrapped up. At the same time my older cousin who neverrrr came around maybe one every two months to get her mail. Is also sending my mother crazy messages because I guess she assumed she was getting broke off money. She’s saying she’ll never forgive her for what she’s done and we are like
she’s upset cause she has bed bugs or some shyt she’s sending pictures of bite marks like it’s our fault. My grandfather specifically said multiple times he didn’t want my aunts or cousins to get a penny because they were never there for him. He knew they were only out for themselves and didn’t hold up for him or his wife.After that I blocked all of them so basically on my mother’s side I only have her left. Like I said the family was already small I just had my one aunt and her three kids. I don’t give a fukk though because the shyt they did and didn’t do was foul and I didn’t appreciate it then nor now. This was two years ago and I’m perfectly fine never seeing or hearing from them again. They won’t be inviting to my wedding, know when I have children or anything.
I know that's your aunt, but she comes off like a bird brain ho.Yup. My mother’s side of the family we were very small and close growing up. My two cousins might as well have been my brother and sister because I am my moms only child. Them and my aunt lived with us at our grandparents house at times. My grandparents raised my cousins like they did me and did things for them that their own mother wouldn’t. Helped feed and clothe them as children and gave them money as adults to help them out. When both my grandparents fell ill they never came around to visit or help unless they wanted something. My grandfather passed in 2016 and my aunt who never helped him..doctors appointments, changing his diaper at that point, bringing him food, she did none of that. My mother would work all day and still come make sure he was straight. So luckily he didn’t have a will but he did put all his paperwork and money in my mother’s name because he knew she was about her business and had been the one taking care of him.
My aunt came to the house after he passed and was saying how we need to have a family meeting about how we were gonna split everything.
Fast forward the funeral happens and it goes smooth unlike we thought it would. Then shortly afterwards my aunt is sending texts harassing me (because my mother has her blocked) about his money. She’s saying it’s best to split it with her because it not she could tie the whole estate up in court. She didn’t know that him and my mother already went to the bank and set it up so she would take over the funds when he passed. So my mother sends me a message to forward to her, basically saying go fukk your self because everything is already wrapped up. At the same time my older cousin who neverrrr came around maybe one every two months to get her mail. Is also sending my mother crazy messages because I guess she assumed she was getting broke off money. She’s saying she’ll never forgive her for what she’s done and we are like
After that I blocked all of them so basically on my mother’s side I only have her left. Like I said the family was already small I just had my one aunt and her three kids. I don’t give a fukk though because the shyt they did and didn’t do was foul and I didn’t appreciate it then nor now. This was two years ago and I’m perfectly fine never seeing or hearing from them again. They won’t be inviting to my wedding, know when I have children or anything.
The crazy thing is she’s college educated with a six figure job. She’s just probably the most selfish person I’ve ever met and also batshyt crazy. All my cousins are off in the head too due to her. She’s a bytch lol bird brain ho is too nice for her.
Kinguno
The Immortal
From my entire family I've cut off so many people because my mother's people are toxic in every way you got the people with mental issues that are on government assistance for everything but fukking it up every two months, you got the people who steal your shyt and pawn it within 25 mins, you got the people who don't want to be black and force you to do things with them but never returns the favor because they always bring their white lover, you got the people who has both parents still alive who helps them but wants to continue to be a spoiled brat and not pay her 425 dollar rent where she lives in the south, you got those people who throw religion in your face but never once when you where growing up tried to include you in anything, then you got people who just don't do anything at all like literally they don't work or go to school and they almost 40
My father's side is different my grandfather had four kids and from there there was four grandkids two older cousins,me, and my sister the family as a whole was close even including extended family but after my father died then my grandfather there was a giant split over how to handle it to this day no memorial or nothing has been decided to do with his ashes since close to ten years and time moves so fast the last 18 months I was dealing with uncle who was dying my aunt would drive hours to bring him food, wash his clothes, curse out nurses, and everything but my other aunt didn't help at all she only called four times then didn't even help with the funeral My uncle was a bum but things happened to him in a time and place where you couldn't get what you needed today I have one cousin like a sister and three second cousin's i'm close too but we used to be closer when one of our other second cousins died late last year who was a month older than me I cried for weeks but now I look at it corny because we weren't close last time we were together joking about how trash life was at a funeral how he died we still don't know because we weren't told everything
My thing is this if you care and love someone then they family to you but not even family is going to be family to you. At this point I'm not interested in meeting more distant relatives because it's pointless and I also don't give a fukk about most of their kids so when certain "pillars" of the family die any connection those other people had to me are officially dead no more craving out time to chill, no more talking about anything, no pictures of my kids, no way to reach me, no anything and when I was growing up I wish I had the power to do it earlier
Wrote a whole lot lol people won't even read it but I truly believe men make families and women join them
My father's side is different my grandfather had four kids and from there there was four grandkids two older cousins,me, and my sister the family as a whole was close even including extended family but after my father died then my grandfather there was a giant split over how to handle it to this day no memorial or nothing has been decided to do with his ashes since close to ten years and time moves so fast the last 18 months I was dealing with uncle who was dying my aunt would drive hours to bring him food, wash his clothes, curse out nurses, and everything but my other aunt didn't help at all she only called four times then didn't even help with the funeral My uncle was a bum but things happened to him in a time and place where you couldn't get what you needed today I have one cousin like a sister and three second cousin's i'm close too but we used to be closer when one of our other second cousins died late last year who was a month older than me I cried for weeks but now I look at it corny because we weren't close last time we were together joking about how trash life was at a funeral how he died we still don't know because we weren't told everything
My thing is this if you care and love someone then they family to you but not even family is going to be family to you. At this point I'm not interested in meeting more distant relatives because it's pointless and I also don't give a fukk about most of their kids so when certain "pillars" of the family die any connection those other people had to me are officially dead no more craving out time to chill, no more talking about anything, no pictures of my kids, no way to reach me, no anything and when I was growing up I wish I had the power to do it earlier
Wrote a whole lot lol people won't even read it but I truly believe men make families and women join them
DrHackenbush
Happy wars/sad love songs
I feel you on this..Had nearly exactly the same situation myself. Its different with older siblings, when you try and put them up they always look at you funny. Had to cut my sister off too. Dont see it being repairable, even long term
UpAndComing
Veteran
I have another side I never showed to you. Another side where everybody is disposable. Relationships are never a threat. Because I'll erase the history and act like we never met
Slaimon Khan Shah
SLAIMON KHAN SHAH = SHAOLIN MONK/S OF ISLAAM
I don't want to cut my family off God willing.
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