7 Things We Truly Miss About Old-School Dating

[LadySimone]

In a first date what do you expect

He pays for everything. It depends. In the UK peoples first dates is usually drinks at the local pub. I might get the second round. I might top up the Stella. The second date is probavly dinner. He paying. I'll leave a tip. The third date I'll pay.

The third date? You bring the Netflix and I'll bring the chill.

This back and forth is getting stupid now. I think you should understand now. But a shame we even having it. When I date white Asian (South Asian in the uk) and African men I never have to think about this shyt. Just historically broke Carib dudes and their American counterpart. As a woman you only talking about this with the men who are historically marginalised. No other man has to talk about this shyt.

 

[thirdeye]

Canadian and Jamaican thats a double wench and not applicable since she isn't AA

being canadian automatically makes you one part wench?

 

[FTBS]

Whose messing with shytty dudes though? We talking about dating. The initial stages...

So you not gonna answer my questions?

You tell me:

Lies.

Men filter information based on their own agenda and capabilities. They arent helpless social sponges that just soak up any message. Where is their agency?

And can I tell you about shytty dudes, they have something women want. Women aren't just attracted to shyt. If Flava Flav is a shytty dude (minus the fame) he wouldn't get no play.

Now it's "who's messing with shytty dudes?"

Yeah I don't see how women dealing with shytty guys relates to dating at all. No relevance whatsoever.


Now you gonna tell me what projection is and how I engaged in it or you gonna try to shift the discussion again?

 

[Elle]

Well they say that feminism is the reason for that so....

Some dudes use feminism as a cop out for everything. Men want everything to be split 50/50 except housework, cooking, cleaning,and rearing the kids.

 

[Action Mike]

He pays for everything. It depends. In the UK peoples first dates is usually drinks at the local pub. I might get the second round. I might top up the Stella. The second date is probavly dinner. He paying. I'll leave a tip. The third date I'll pay.

The third date? You bring the Netflix and I'll bring the chill.

This back and forth is getting stupid now. I think you should understand now. But a shame we even having it. When I date white Asian (South Asian in the uk) and African men I never have to think about this shyt. Just historically broke Carib dudes and their American counterpart. As a woman you only talking about this with the men who are historically marginalised. No other man has to talk about this shyt.

Stella? Probably northern.

If I'm taking a woman out in the city of London, she ain't a bum and would happily split as about hers and we're having time of our lives. I never prompt or mention it, and if doesn't even fake attempt then I know how to continue...

Don't put Africans in that pot.

 

[GunRanger]

I've went on a date a while ago and it was proper , doors opened for me, flowers, opening the car door, no sexpectations, because i made things clear at the jump

 

[Turk]

Pumping and dumping chicks really seems like the logical wave these days

 

[FTBS]

Y'all indirectly set the standard for courtship so.....

And like another poster said, people, not only men are going to put in the least amount of effort to attain something.

"If she's worth it I'll go the extra mile"

But I've seen it first hand the actions listed above has gotten a nikka no play while I ate by literally doing nothing. Back when I was in college there was this fine slim athletic chocolate chick that went to my high school. She had this dude that was pursuing her for the longest. Always calling her beautiful and stuff on her IG pics, always walking her to class, using his meal card for her at the cafe. He wasn't ugly or anything (no homo) and was a legitimately good dude. Now here comes me on the other hand and I don't consider myself a bad dude, but I am the type of nikka who will put in the least effort possible to get in some draws if I can. So I've casually talked to this girl a few times, she's a friend of a friend and went to my high school, I always tease her about shyt yadda yadda I can tell she's feeling me.

So one night she ask me out the blue if I wanted to get anything to eat and she would buy. That night I didn't feel like going out because I had already made plans for another girl to come through the spot, but she said she would pick up Chinese food for carryout. She got dressed all nice under the presumption that we would be eating together in my room, but at this point the other girl had already arrived and we were watching TV on the couch. Her face just dropped to complete disappointment. She flashed a fake smile dropped off the food and left. Despite all that she was still fukking with the boy and a few weeks later I smashed

One day I asked her about the other dude basically telling her, you know he really likes you and she just said she wasn't interested and he was doing too much .

Moral of the story. I'm not saying she was obliged to fukk with that other dude just because he gave her attention, but as a proud red-blooded heterosexual male, I'm looking at this situation like I never want to be that guy. Especially since I was able to attain everything he pined for with little to no effort. This wasn't a bum bytch either, this was beautiful college educated girl who got a degree in Petroleum Engineering. This is just my example, but I'm sure most brehs on the Coli have been on one side of a story similar to this and realize that a lot of things in the OP are simply unnecessary.

Real shyt and exactly what I am talking about. Females will bust it wide open and devote all sorts of time, energy, and money to a dude who puts in minimal effort or worse yet straight curves her ass like you did and then turn around and say the dude who is doing all the old school stuff and showing genuine interest is doing too much. And then these same females will turn around wondering "what happened to all the real men?" "what happened to dating and courting?" "why won't he commit?" "why won't he take care of his kids?" etc. And then when a man tries to break this shyt down for their benefit so that they can possibly step their game up, they get defensive and either put all the blame on men or (my favorite) try to act like the good dude putting all the effort in to no avail is no different from or even worse than dude.

 

[Mook]

Y'all? Im just here for equal pay shyt. Not all of us are fighting against traditional roles or whatever lol.

Wage gap is a myth.

 

[mamba]

Real shyt and exactly what I am talking about. Females will bust it wide open and devote all sorts of time, energy, and money to a dude who puts in minimal effort or worse yet straight curves her ass like you did and then turn around and say the dude who is doing all the old school stuff and showing genuine interest is doing too much. And then these same females will turn around wondering "what happened to all the real men?" "what happened to dating and courting?" "why won't he commit?" "why won't he take care of his kids?" etc. And then when a man tries to break this shyt down for their benefit so that they can possibly step their game up, they get defensive and either put all the blame on men or (my favorite) try to act like the good dude putting all the effort in to no avail is no different from or even worse than dude.

Exactly. Instead of taking a look at their own actions, they'll try to turn the good dude into some creep.

 

[Jesus]

We used to date to court our ladies.

Yall date to fukk, prove they a hoe and throwem to the bushes.

 

[LadySimone]

Some dudes use feminism as a cop out for everything. Men want everything to be split 50/50 except housework, cooking, cleaning,and rearing the kids.

They want a moms they can have sex with. The perpetuation of the Oedipus complex. They been "dating" they moms for most their life now they moved on to you to fill in her shoes.

 

[thirdeye]

Pumping and dumping chicks really seems like the logical wave these days

This is why I don't have sex

 

[LadySimone]

I watch his video like three times a day.

 

[LadySimone]

Pumping and dumping chicks really seems like the logical wave these days

You won't be doing this for too long. The bedwenches are recruiting.