blackestofpanthers
God forgives, you are forgiven.
DisregardCanadian and Jamaican
7 Things We Truly Miss About Old-School Dating
- Thread starter mamba
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I never said men weren't responsible for recognizing the reality of the situation and acting accordingly (some goes for women btw).
If those shytty dudes have what you want you need to be with them and accept the bullshyt that comes with it
Exactly. Women can do as they please. Just don't complain when the end result isn't favorable.
LadySimone
Banned
So you've never split or contributed on a date?
If so why?
Sometimes yes sometimes no. One thing I always do is contribute to the tip if I don't feel it's sufficient. Hate people who don't top and I'm looking at you crazy if you don't.
When I went out with that unemployed bald 47 year old single father (shout out to @malcolmxxx_45 ) I tried to pay for my pizza he didn't let me. Took the money off the counter gave it back to me and give me this look. It was weird. He was weird actually but that's some other shyt.
If you a nikka who bytching about paying for a meal you need to stop dating or chill with your Netflix chick. Stop worrying about who she might be fuking without taking her out because:
A) you don't know if she used to go out on dates with dude
B) you don't know if they do the Netflix and the date thing.
C) stop being a fukboi
LadySimone
Banned
I never said men weren't responsible for recognizing the reality of the situation and acting accordingly (some goes for women btw).
If those shytty dudes have what you want you need to be with them and accept the bullshyt that comes with it
Stop projecting.
Good post. I can relate to the bold, I told an ex the same damn thing and she responded the same wayY'all indirectly set the standard for courtship so.....
And like another poster said, people, not only men are going to put in the least amount of effort to attain something.
"If she's worth it I'll go the extra mile"
But I've seen it first hand the actions listed above has gotten a nikka no play while I ate by literally doing nothing. Back when I was in college there was this fine slim athletic chocolate chick that went to my high school. She had this dude that was pursuing her for the longest. Always calling her beautiful and stuff on her IG pics, always walking her to class, using his meal card for her at the cafe. He wasn't ugly or anything (no homo) and was a legitimately good dude. Now here comes me on the other hand and I don't consider myself a bad dude, but I am the type of nikka who will put in the least effort possible to get in some draws if I can. So I've casually talked to this girl a few times, she's a friend of a friend and went to my high school, I always tease her about shyt yadda yadda I can tell she's feeling me.
So one night she ask me out the blue if I wanted to get anything to eat and she would buy. That night I didn't feel like going out because I had already made plans for another girl to come through the spot, but she said she would pick up Chinese food for carryout. She got dressed all nice under the presumption that we would be eating together in my room, but at this point the other girl had already arrived and we were watching TV on the couch. Her face just dropped to complete disappointment. She flashed a fake smile dropped off the food and left. Despite all that she was still fukking with the boy and a few weeks later I smashed
One day I asked her about the other dude basically telling her, you know he really likes you and she just said she wasn't interested and he was doing too much.
Moral of the story. I'm not saying she was obliged to fukk with that other dude just because he gave her attention, but as a proud red-blooded heterosexual male, I'm looking at this situation like I never want to be that guy. Especially since I was able to attain everything he pined for with little to no effort. This wasn't a bum bytch either, this was beautiful college educated girl who got a degree in Petroleum Engineering. This is just my example, but I'm sure most brehs on the Coli have been on one side of a story similar to this and realize that a lot of things in the OP are simply unnecessary.
Action Mike
All praise..
And there you have it gentlemen.
Are you going to be the 'Yes' or 'No' Breh to a woman, because you already know which one she takes seriously and prioritised
ExodusNirvana
Change is inevitable...
I'm not picking up the tab until we're fukking. The fukk you think this is exactly? nikkas will just wine and dine you til you find one that you like?? 
What is projection? How am I doing it?
LadySimone
Banned
And there you have it gentlemen.
Are you going to be the 'Yes' or 'No' Breh to a woman, because you already know which one she takes seriously and prioritised
Long Sigh.....I'm talking about with the same person. I'll be as stingy as you.
LadySimone
Banned
Whose messing with shytty dudes though? We talking about dating. The initial stages...
Action Mike
All praise..
In a first date what do you expect
Larry Lambo
Superstar
LOL. You went there, but this is what I mean.
By rewarding the behavior, I mean requiring that level of effort to have any chance with you whatsoever. It doesn't mean you're obligated to have sex with any guy that does all that.
If 10 men go all out to get you, and 9 fail, but 1 succeeds, you are still rewarding the behavior. But if 10 men go all out for you, and you choose another man that didn't, then you aren't rewarding the behavior.
CashmereThoughts
Veteran
I'm not picking up the tab until we're fukking. The fukk you think this is exactly? nikkas will just wine and dine you til you find one that you like??